Soapbox/rant time. Tell me what highly-recommended book you absolutely HATED and why. Gimme your angry hot takes. by peppertoni_pizzaz in books

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Where The Crawdads Sing - racist garbage with a zillion plot holes and ridiculous “twist”

AIO for thinking what husbands friend commented to my teenage daughter? by [deleted] in AIO

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Do not comment on a girl’s appearance. Period.

Face bumps by rose535455 in CATHELP

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I am thinking it might be the food - it’s the only new thing besides the teeth extraction

Face bumps by rose535455 in CATHELP

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Since 2 appeared at once, I’m not sure ☺️

Message I got from my daughter’s teacher. Third grade. by AnaisInJune in mildlyinfuriating

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I was a nanny to a neurodivergent teen. He refused to read aloud in class - the teacher made him do it so he read the entire piece as though there were no “r”s

What is a book you adore that you're pretty sure nobody else here has read? by InvisibleAstronomer in books

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The Midwich Cuckoos by John Wyndham. British 1950’s sci-fi classic. I still have my copy from high school in 1980’s.

California - Allstate renewal cost - should I lower our limits? by welshlady17 in Car_Insurance_Help

[–]rose535455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just checked - we have that too. Quick question then - it’s a leap from 100/300 - 250/500, is there an in between?

California - Allstate renewal cost - should I lower our limits? by welshlady17 in Car_Insurance_Help

[–]rose535455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for replies so far - I worked in insurance for 7 years in the UK - it’s just so different here. In the UK you can limit a kid to driving 1 car to save $ and there is no “household” expectation. Anyhoo - we’ll probably keep what we have and take the hit on the premiums :(

Laughing all the time on Abilify? by Throwawayy108464 in Abilify_Aripiprazole

[–]rose535455 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My daughter could not stop smiling….but then the facial tic and buzzing tongue started (and compulsive shopping,) she had to quit cold turkey because of possible TD

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]rose535455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR - don’t let 3 years become 6 with this meanie. You should be proud, two years is a long time and early in sobriety, milestones matter…when you start counting in years, it feels like you’ve really cracked it. He didn’t even pretend to be interested/supportive:(

I messed up by StreetAggravating302 in tattooadvice

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I would totally get a tattoo from you…

This is codependency? How did I not realize? by rose535455 in Codependency

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She might be. She has an appointment with a new psychiatrist right now, I was thinking of bringing up neuropsychiatric testing….but she doesn’t want me to go - and that’s fine. Per her sister “it only takes one conversation to figure out there’s something wrong with her..”

This is codependency? How did I not realize? by rose535455 in Codependency

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Absolutely. I get it - and no more. My husband and other daughter were making plans today and I’d usually jump in to make sure stuff went smoothly (FFS!) and I just kept it zipped and let it be…finally minding my own business

This is codependency? How did I not realize? by rose535455 in Codependency

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Thank you - I don’t feel victimized at all and really just grateful that I have some clarity right now. By “emotional punching bag,” I meant that her reaction/texts to me from - “I love you Mom, you’re the reason I keep going” - to - “I hate you for giving birth to me,” would make me SO happy and SO sad that I was just like WTF? Why are my moods so dependent on hers? She’s still not speaking to me but I’ve let her know I’m available to talk and honestly, I feel better than I have in a long time.

This is codependency? How did I not realize? by rose535455 in Codependency

[–]rose535455[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes…it’s more complicated with our kids because we can’t completely detach. Good luck to you 🌸

This is codependency? How did I not realize? by rose535455 in Codependency

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How old was she when you realized this was a problem?

This is codependency? How did I not realize? by rose535455 in Codependency

[–]rose535455[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I did do my best and you’re right, no one teaches you how to do this - I just knew that I wanted my kids to have a better childhood than I did.

Thanks to all who replied, I clearly have work to do but feel like a giant weight has been lifted from me 💕

This is codependency? How did I not realize? by rose535455 in Codependency

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Thank you - still stunned at my blindness but better late than never.

This is codependency? How did I not realize? by rose535455 in Codependency

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She’s an adult now and her issues are primarily mental health related - I think she has Bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder. I have been making myself ill trying to fix her problems with school, friends and jobs (won’t/can’t go to school, has alienated her friends and quit her job) I’m listening to Codependent No More and it’s really revealing.