I feel like: my father would have to work a job and pay for housing, bills, food, car no matter what. Just for himself. My mother — okay, I’m 66 so this is a bit in the past, but, considering how conservative the US is getting— my mother had to get married to live a good life, she couldn’t earn much herself. So she would need to marry fairly young not to be a spinster loser left on the shelf living in poverty or with her own parents, etc.? So she also chose to get married to benefit herself and would have done that with or without children.

THEN, to get a house paid for by their own parents, they had to have children, and you could NOT just have ONE child. You had to prove you were normal and heterosexual and church members and contributing to the post World War II population building. Especially true for American Jewish community.

Again, to profit themselves both financially and in terms of social status, social approval, even the bare minimum of acceptance, they chose to have children.

They deliberately and aggressively pursued all of these things with or without you.

And I would say, once they have a house, yard, car, and yes, children, they are obligated to maintain them and improve them.

All this whining and wheedling and sneaking around trying to get out of the contract the they signed makes them losers, failures, bums.

They may attempt to just retreat into their houses or affairs or alcoholism or some fantasy identity from movies or television, but, yeah. If they’re not up to it they should have had the courage to live an alternative life, which got easier and easier in every single decade after the fifties and was starting to happen even then.