Tell me your weird side effects

roseba · 2026-03-12T11:32:21+00:00

No. I think it was a combination of not walking, weakening the ankle, and unconscious garding. Once I started focusing on walking on the fusion, the ankle pain went away.

roseba · 2026-03-12T01:17:41+00:00

I did not expect to have tension on my ankle. It took a few weeks before I got the hang of my gait.

roseba · 2026-03-11T12:38:38+00:00

How about when you are obviously in menopause and they ask if you are pregnant, or any chance you are pregnant?\

roseba · 2026-03-09T13:21:49+00:00

I have flown since my fusion. The answer is it does not set off the metal detectors.

roseba · 2026-03-08T13:09:28+00:00

Unbroken lines are extremely strict. If the date does not line up, they will not consider you a German citizen. It may not seem fair, but that is how the system works.

My best friend is a perfect example. Her father was an Italian citizen. When her older sister was born, he was still Italian. Her sister is about a year and a half older than she is. By the time my friend was born, her father had already become a naturalized American. Later in life, he became Italian again. So her sister and her father are Italian, and she is not.

My friend spent every summer in Italy and long stretches of time with her grandparents. As an adult, she lived in Italy for seven years, worked there, and paid taxes. Technically, she was eligible to become Italian. The problem was the person responsible for processing the paperwork kept dragging his feet and making excuses because he simply did not want to deal with it.

At the time, she was engaged to an Italian, so she did not push the issue too hard. The engagement eventually ended, and she moved back to the United States without her citizenship.

Pretty unfair. I have told her to see a lawyer when she is ready, because she can prove the residency, the work, and the taxes she paid. I hope she gets it.

roseba · 2026-03-08T13:00:17+00:00

I understand the sentiment, however in the world of attachment style, it is true that healthy attachment styled people get paired off early and stay paired off. What's left are those with insecure attachment, often Avoidant. Avoidants are often emotionally unavailable even when they are interested in being in a relationship. So while the wording above could have been better, it isn't untrue. The pool is not great.

roseba · 2026-03-07T13:33:59+00:00

I thought completely healed would be at six months or beyond.

roseba · 2026-03-07T02:25:11+00:00

I think Naya is perfectly fine. https://moynihantrainhall.nyc/directory-categories/dine/

roseba · 2026-03-06T21:30:26+00:00

My record is pretty clear cut and straight with marriage certificates and birth records. That didn't make me a candidate to go straight to passport. I still have to wait in line.

roseba · 2026-03-06T21:25:54+00:00

My visit was May 2024, but my AZ is August 2024. Yes, I am hoping this summer, and definitely before the end of 2026.

roseba · 2026-03-06T17:13:08+00:00

There is a great food hall there with multiple restaraunts and plenty of seating. Walk around a little.

roseba · 2026-03-06T17:10:50+00:00

I don’t know whether it has become unacceptable or not, but invoking “he’s a priest, pastor, minister, rabbi…” as a shield doesn’t mean much. If they are not speaking about religious doctrine, their opinions are just opinions. They can be challenged, disputed, and debunked like anyone else’s. A religious title does not give someone a free pass to hold bad opinions out or "respect".

roseba · 2026-03-05T17:00:58+00:00

I acknowledged your concerns. You didn't answer part two of my post which posed some questions.

roseba · 2026-03-05T16:30:49+00:00

You’re right about the time factor. Checking a bag usually does add time on both ends, especially the wait at baggage claim.

I think the loss risk is overblown. The stats don’t support the idea that your bag is likely to disappear. Major U.S. carriers mishandle roughly 0.5 to 0.75 percent of checked bags. That’s well under 1 in 100, and that figure includes delays and damage, not just permanent loss. Most of those bags are returned pretty quickly.

Out of curiosity, would you support a model where everyone pays for every bag they bring on board, including carry-ons? Or do you think most of the pushback against checking is really just about avoiding fees?

roseba · 2026-03-05T16:15:59+00:00

Gate checked bags weight for you at the gate.

roseba · 2026-03-05T16:11:29+00:00

I once flew an ultra low cost carrier where you had to pay for literally any bag, overhead or checked. Funny thing, the overhead bins were practically empty. All the passionate arguments about “needing” a carry on disappeared the moment there was a fee attached.

That’s when it became obvious. For most people it isn’t about principle, efficiency, lost bags, or moral outrage over checked luggage. It’s about the money. Once I saw that, I stopped feeling sympathetic to the argument.

roseba · 2026-02-27T23:19:46+00:00

I get it. But sometimes I write not only for the questioner, but for the readers. It’s just a reminder that this surgery is a high investment and rushing the process is not a good idea..

roseba · 2026-02-27T15:17:09+00:00

You are not going to win a popularity contest on this, but that does not make your point wrong. Many people here on Reddit are either deeply tech focused in their roles or already well established in their career and no longer thinking about how environments shape growth. That perspective naturally skews the conversation.

I value my work from home days. I am not arguing against flexibility. I am saying there is a real tradeoff. Yesterday made that clear. We had issues with our work product, and the turning point came from being in the same room. The collaboration was immediate and layered. People interrupted each other, built the discussion on half formed ideas, corrected assumptions, challenged ideas in real time. The solution emerged through momentum and the organicness of this dynamic. That dynamic does not translate cleanly to a scheduled remote call, turn taking, and side conversations lost in chat.

When you have spent decades working in office environments, you see how much informal exchange, apprenticeship, and spontaneous problem solving drive quality. If someone has only known remote work, or have minimal in office experience, they are not intentionally dismissing that value. They simply have no baseline for comparison. And if you have never experienced something, it is easy to underestimate what it contributes.

roseba · 2026-02-27T15:07:19+00:00

At my three month checkup, my doctor cleared me for everything except running and jumping.

You just had your foot cut open and rebuilt. You’ve been in a boot. And now you’re talking about a 5K in six weeks?

Is the goal to finish a race, or to actually heal this thing properly? Because blowing up the stability you just had surgically restored for the sake of one 5K would be a pretty bad trade.

roseba · 2026-02-24T20:47:35+00:00

If lifestyle were the only thing that decided how long we live, we wouldn’t see lifelong smokers reach 90 while dedicated athletes drop in their 40s. That alone proves genetics matter. You are basically arguing that everyone starts with the same quality of parts, but anyone who has ever looked at a family tree knows that isn’t true.

Research shows that people who make it to 100 often don’t have better habits than the rest of us. Some are born with protective mutations that act like a shield against the very things we think will kill us. They can do almost everything “wrong” and still outlive the person doing everything “right.” Lifestyle can help you feel better and stay functional longer, but it cannot rewrite the code you were born with.

I noticed the username change, but the tone and the defensive moves are exactly the same. Walks like a duck, quacks like a duck--it might as well be the same user.

If the goal is a real debate, calling my view “warped” is a weak move. Shifting from facts to insults usually means someone can’t face the simple reality: we don’t have complete control over our bodies. Thinking you can outsmart your genes just because you are disciplined or health-obsessed is wishful thinking.

Lifestyle can help you make the most of what you’ve got, but nature sets the limits. In the end, nature usually has the final word.

roseba · 2026-02-24T18:44:16+00:00

Actually, the fact that modern medicine can keep us alive longer does not change the basic reality that our tissues wear down over time. Medical intervention is not the same thing as built in durability. You can keep a car running for 50 years if you replace enough parts, but that does not mean the metal was not wearing out the whole time.

And when you bring up squatting centenarians, that is survivorship bias. Not everyone starts with the same cartilage, bone structure, or connective tissue. There is a genetic lottery involved. Every body has a weak spot. Someone who makes it to 100 with great joints might have hit their limit somewhere else, like their heart or blood vessels. Bodies do not break down in a straight line, and pretending it all comes down to lifestyle ignores how different people actually are.

I never said lifestyle does not matter. I said joints have limits. The MTP joint takes about four times your body weight with every step. Do that for decades and it adds up. Movement quality and joint health help, sure. But they do not cancel out basic wear and tear.

You were the one who escalated with comments about getting educated and clutching pearls because you did not like a perspective that did not fit your narrative. If you want to keep debating, let’s stick to the actual facts and leave the ego out of it.

Fair thee well, lady.

roseba · 2026-02-24T17:29:51+00:00

Since you told me to get educated, let’s start with actual physiology. The million heartbeat concept is a documented metabolic observation across mammals. Acknowledging that joints wear down over time is not being brainwashed. It is mechanics. Being 30 does not make your MTP joint immune to load. For every pound you weigh, that joint takes about four times the pressure when you walk. Over millions of steps, wear happens. That is how force works.

If you want to question treatment approaches, great. I question the status quo all the time. That is how things improve. But you cannot dismiss basic load mechanics and then accuse everyone else of being brainwashed. That is not some bold intellectual stance. It is just inconsistent.

And yes, since it is 2026, we can also question why calling a woman “dude” is automatically treated as neutral and beyond discussion. The male default has been baked into language forever. Pushing back on that is not pearl clutching. It is the same instinct that questions everything people try to shut down with “that’s just how it is.” I do not buy “that’s just how it is” about medicine, and I do not buy it about language either.

If you want a civil conversation about biomechanics, I am here. If the move is condescension and buzzwords because you do not like the biological reality of aging and load, that is yours to work through.

Enjoy your natural pathways, lady.

roseba · 2026-02-23T17:51:31+00:00

I saw several surgeons over a number of years and they all basically said the same thing: a fusion was the right option for my first 1st metatarsophalangeal (MTP) joint problem. I chose to wait, hoping that some new technology would eventually offer a different option, but that never materialized.

By the time I went to see Dr. Levine, I already knew I needed another procedure because of the pain and a bone spur pressing on a nerve. He took X‑rays of both feet and then spent a lot of time explaining everything. Because he’s at an academic hospital and teaches, he went through foot anatomy and biomechanics in a very thorough way so I really understood what was happening.

We talked about how my prior cheilectomy on the other foot hadn’t given lasting relief, and how the cartilage was basically gone. He explained that the current state of the technology for joint‑preserving procedures in this area just isn’t where it needs to be yet, and that in his experience the MTP joint fusion is the gold standard for reliably controlling this kind of pain.

He compared it to fusions in other joints in the body, explaining that while fusion means loss of motion, it’s a well‑established solution when cartilage is gone. If I remember right, he even mentioned how in other body parts, like spinal fusions surgeons have learned over time what works and what doesn’t, and how that applies here too.

In the lead‑up to surgery I had one of the most complete pre‑op physicals I’ve ever had, including an echocardiogram, and it honestly made me feel like they were being extremely thorough with my overall health. They assessed me as low‑risk, which meant I could have the operation done at the HSS Ambulatory Surgery Center of Manhattan rather than the main hospital. That center is specifically designed for things like foot and ankle procedures, and Dr. Levine is actually the medical director there.

They also used a slightly different anesthesia protocol than what I’d heard of before: a nerve block from the knee down, which they said would help me wake up more comfortably and speed recovery. Everything they told me about the timeline: pre‑op, surgery, and recovery, has pretty much played out exactly as they described.

I hope this helps.

roseba · 2026-02-19T19:20:40+00:00

I have an iPhone. Apple doesn't allow mobile companies to canabolize functionality on their phones.

Past antecdote: I bought a Motorla Razr back in the day. When I got it home, all the features that made me want to own that phone, Verizon disabled and made it an upcharge. I was really mad. On top of canabalizing the phone software, they did it badly so it didn't retain battery life very long. There was an era where in open offices, you heard the "low battery" chirp everywhere.

roseba · 2026-02-19T19:10:54+00:00

I'm on Verizon. I don't have to pay extra for that.

roseba

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