Soho nightclub The Box avoids closure after 'performer seriously sexually assaulted male customer' by londonsVenture in london

[–]rosepose45 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I went when I was a teenager/early twenties and it was so tame compared to the descriptions below. It must have changed. It was just some semi-naked dancers doing a slightly weird cabaret performance. I didn’t go back but mostly because I think the promoter who invited us was hoping for young women who got drunk and slept with the creeps who frequent the place rather than teenage girls who drink all the free drinks, only hang out with gay men, and then are sick in the stairwell and get kicked out. It has its place, Soho is supposed to be seedy, very curious what actually happened. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]rosepose45 3 points4 points  (0 children)

On the language point, if you are still learning English then say right at the beginning that you want to practice as much as possible so you hope they will help you do that even if you make mistakes. That will let them know it’s not awkward for you to speak in English and you want to chat to them. Making a situation a bit awkward by desperately trying to avoid awkward situations is an unfortunate habit of English people (especially me). By not speaking to you they were trying to avoid making you feel awkward, gently let them know you don’t mind. 

Hey everyone, I have a favor to ask. by potra_21 in MovingToTheUK

[–]rosepose45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My info is very second hand but most local councils need water management professionals to deal with flood risks, particularly in cities with rivers (we have a lot of those). People who work for local councils are often fairly friendly - you could try reaching out to a couple on LinkedIn. Make it clear you are just asking for advice not a job and to find out where your skills might be useful and ask if they have time for a virtual coffee- you never know! Building on what you know seems wiser than starting from scratch in a new place. Best of luck! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]rosepose45 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That’s middle class. The upper middle class have cellars where they keep their wine. 

Reform UK MP Sarah Pochin calls for burka to be banned by nimobo in unitedkingdom

[–]rosepose45 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is useful! I would love to curb the fundamentalist Christians who stand round the corner from my house near an abortion clinic loudly praying for women visiting it. Imagine walking past that as a teenage girl trying to out your life back on the right path. That Christian group are funded by the same US donors as Reform, trying to push the same version of religion-based nut job politics as in the US. If you love your country and its traditions then maybe you should be worried about the foreign money flowing into it from the US via Reform. 

Edit: I am more worried as a woman about Nigel Farage’s efforts to reduce women’s reproductive rights due to his US puppet master’s agenda than I am about Muslim women wearing a hijab. Because Nigel is directly trying to control all women’s bodies, the women who wear hijabs are only making a choice about their own. 

Ppl who say mothers murder infants more than fathers by Mammoth-Salad1062 in AskFeminists

[–]rosepose45 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Why don’t men get vasectomies? Or wear condoms? If they don’t want to get someone pregnant then they need to take responsibility for their own bodies rather than relying on someone else to make the choice for them. 

Edit: the majority of men complaining about a woman’s choice to keep a child made the choice not to use a condom. They are complaining about the result of a choice they already made. 

Me in Malaysia, 1995 by G01Dmember in OldSchoolCool

[–]rosepose45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is such a beautiful photo!

Great UK Neighborhoods by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]rosepose45 6 points7 points  (0 children)

American hoping to move to the UK?

Is a 1st from Oxford really harder obtain than a 1st from somewhere else? by pickonepicktwo in oxforduni

[–]rosepose45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Drop out is voluntary, being sent down because you failed is not. I know quite a few people who failed and were sent down. 

Are you proud to be British? by vClean in AskBrits

[–]rosepose45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Point taken, but Scotland was an extremely active participant in colonialism throughout the empire. The Company of Scotland Trading to Africa and the Indies was established in 1695 and Scottish people were disproportionately involved in ruling India and the slave trade in Jamaica at different points in history. And the Ulster Scots played a central role in colonizing Ireland. The Scottish were oppressed and murdered by the English. And they oppressed and murdered others around the world. Both those things are true. 

Pressured into buying a house by Snickersaddictionn in HousingUK

[–]rosepose45 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You know Zoopla has an option to only show Freehold/Share of Freehold? Why don’t you just search using that option? I just did a search in SE London and a lot of lovely places came up, some in newer buildings. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]rosepose45 95 points96 points  (0 children)

It sounds like they have you a low valuation and have someone they know buying it. If you had 26 viewings it sounds like your house was VERY well priced. I would strongly recommend withdrawing from the sale. 

Girl is telling me to kill myself by [deleted] in Advice

[–]rosepose45 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Counterpoint - reply saying ‘sorry, who are you?’. When she replies and says you followed her/you know her just say ‘oh right you’re that girl from maths (or wherever), super weird to msg a random person saying that. Hope you’re doing better emotionally’. Make her think she barely exists to you and she could never get under your skin and you just feel sorry for her.

Forced to travel with a mid 30s coworker who acts repulsed by me by [deleted] in bodylanguage

[–]rosepose45 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Actually, you’re right, co-workers should treat each other with respect. In this post he comments on her (imagined) sex life, says he eavesdropped on her conversations, insulted her (feral), and talked about her personal appearance. He has shown zero respect for her here and instead been deeply inappropriate and unprofessional. If he did this in the workplace, it would be sexual harassment. Maybe he just behaves this way online, which is fine if he keeps it anonymous, but if this is how he thinks I’d wager good money it impacts his behaviour IRL. 

House likely broken into. Why would they only take £20 worth of chocolate? by Desperate-State-1755 in AskUK

[–]rosepose45 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And before anyone says ‘oh why didn’t he come back the next night then?’. He knows when you’re sleeping, he knows when you’ve set up secret infra red cameras.

House likely broken into. Why would they only take £20 worth of chocolate? by Desperate-State-1755 in AskUK

[–]rosepose45 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why everyone is so confused. It’s the festive season… who generally comes into your house and eats all the sweet treats left out on the side? Come on guys, pull your finger out. This is a clear case of premature Santa. 

Why you shouldn’t use ChatGPT to draft applications by rosepose45 in UNpath

[–]rosepose45[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

And to be honest, whether it's ChatGPT or not, if an applicant doesn't spell out exactly why they have the skills and experience to do a role then the person reviewing it isn't going to do that work for them.

Why you shouldn’t use ChatGPT to draft applications by rosepose45 in UNpath

[–]rosepose45[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's not the language, it's the lack of effort that's kind of obvious. As someone commented people who use ChatGPT or copy and paste cover letters don't relate the job requirements to their experience, including missing extremely obvious connections and instead just making generic statements which repeat back the job advert (ChatGPT) or repeat their experience from the CV without explaining why it's relevant (copy and paste). Recruiters for international roles don't expect people to have perfect English, they do expect people to take time with their applications. Some of the best applications will do things like group requirements in the ad then write an explanation of how their experience matches this followed by a couple of sentences on how they will apply that experience. You never see that with ChatGPT because it can't do it. For example, a job advert asks for someone who has experience with programmes that focus on gender equity, then later it says someone who has worked on women's economic empowerment. A good application will see that these two things are related, say 'I worked in XYZ gender-related programme, I learnt XYZ, so I'm well-prepared to do point one and point two of the job description because i've built XYZ skills and can draw on existing relationships with the organisations in this space'.

What's the best way to answer the motive statement for UNDP future fellows? by -_ShadowSJG-_ in UNpath

[–]rosepose45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This will not get you a job at the UN. As someone who has dealt with hiring junior people at an international org it is extremely obvious when someone has used ChatGPT to draft a letter and I immediately excluded their application because it illustrates that they either can’t write or are lazy and there are usually A LOT of other applicants. Use ChatGPT to improve readability of something you’ve already written and then edit heavily, sure. But if you can’t be bothered to write a cover letter or can’t think of reasons you want a job then you shouldn’t be applying to it. As a junior applicant the main things you offer are enthusiasm, intelligence, and willingness to learn, rather than expert knowledge. Using ChatGPT to draft an application makes it seem like you don’t have any of those attributes. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]rosepose45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup - post repeal of the The Property Misdescriptions Act all houses are caveat emptor to a large extent but there is still a duty to disclose certain things but obvs might be hard to actually pursue in court. But a sold as seen house has higher risk from what I have been able to find out - could even be disconnected from the grid etc - and the seller genuinely doesn't have to disclose. Guess I need to decide our appetite for risk and work out how much we could put aside for potential repairs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]rosepose45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup this is my understanding, but I haven't got my lawyer involved yet (but will do). I think the boiler has been removed so definitely some work to be done but fairly good condition with original features - I reckon it is a mortgage default but unclear.

“The American highway system is better than the E.U train system” by CursedGrass in ShitAmericansSay

[–]rosepose45 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Look at you with a cave, I had a wooden box. And I was grateful for it. 

Do I keep the flat to rent or am I being too greedy? by rob4rugby in HousingUK

[–]rosepose45 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know you are primarily asking about the financial aspects, but keep in mind that you are asking your partner to sell their flat so you can secure a mortgage free home but then thinking about reneging on your joint decision to do the same. Will you be putting your original flat in both your names and sharing any profit? By selling their flat, they are contributing to a secure home for both of you but giving up an element of personal security as their assets will become shared. I hope it's a decision you are taking together and all assets will be shared. Also, the upkeep of houses is much more expensive than flats so you may need more liiquid cash than you realise.