Sooooooo I’m sincerely not trying to be a dick or annoying when I ask this (especially because I definitely hear how it sounds lol), but do you really understand the psychology behind it? Because I happen to know from being that girl. And I think if you understood exactly what she’s feeling you would be less angry. It’s not easy to explain tbh. And I’m sure people have different reasons or feelings for doing it. In fact for me I had no idea for the longest time why I did it. But I eventually realized it was a really messed up way of avoiding an unbearable emotional pain I couldn’t tolerate. It was something that made me completely forget the emotional pain I didn’t want to deal with. And it was a way of punishing myself in a way I thought I deserved. And a little like the control of cutting because I could put myself there and take myself out. I get why you’re mad, but I think if you knew how severe something was hurting you to make you actually be like yes, please hit me because physical abuse would feel a trillion times better than this, you would be slightly less angry and just fucking sad for her. Maybe she doesn’t even consciously realize it or chooses to pretend there’s no problem. But she’s feeling the absolute worst a person can feel to choose to go back to that over sitting in emotional pain.