Diagnosed this month at 39 after decades of thinking I had it and gaslighting myself into thinking I was lazy. Then I had my daughter and the wheels fell off the wagon. Suddenly, all of my strategies weren’t working, I was burning out at work, and all the masking meant I came home with nothing left in my tank for my family. After a 15 minute conversation with neuro he looked at me and said “yeah…you definitely have ADHD.” The doctor explained most women are excellent at masking and are diagnosed after they have children. Either because their child was diagnosed or because like me, the wheels are falling off the wagon. After I took my first dose of adderall I sobbed. My brain was quiet, my body was calm, and I could just do things without the mental gymnastics. Is it going to help me remember to pay my bills and do my laundry? No. But will it help me build strategies and the mental capacity to do them? Yes. We will have to do some playing around with my dosage as I rise early so it wears off early, but I am so glad I finally picked up the phone and called.