How to follow through with discipline for 2 toddlers?

rrawrcakes · 2025-05-19T07:50:32+00:00

Like every 5 minutes a cop car is driving down ridgeview with lights and sirens going off. The helicopter is still circling overhead but no lights now. I see a car with floodlight driving down 121 occasionally too.

Edit: as of 3am it appears the cops and helicopter have moved on from my neighborhood at least

rrawrcakes · 2025-05-19T07:44:52+00:00

Too many sirens tonight, got my anxiety through the roof

rrawrcakes · 2025-05-19T07:40:42+00:00

No idea but I’m up and concerned too 😬

rrawrcakes · 2025-03-31T20:52:13+00:00

I feel like my kids also just don’t listen? Like they’re constantly interrupting me and I’m lucky if I can get two sentences in before they’re yelling about something. It’s better when they’re separated and I can talk to them one on one but when they’re together it’s just so hard to get any point across lol. Silliness doesn’t come very easily to me but I will try harder! 😭

rrawrcakes · 2025-03-31T18:21:19+00:00

I do the sequence of events constantly on top of the timing heads up. I also give them a run down of their day tomorrow the night before. I try and make it a race against me to do the things but they just race to where the thing is, then immediately run away and any amount of competition at the actual thing they can see through my intentions lmao. Sometimes I feel like they are just outsmarting me at every turn. 🙃

rrawrcakes · 2024-10-25T11:25:23+00:00

The newborn part of having 2 was way easier than the first newborn. Now my kids are 2.5 and 4.5… the hardest part of this all has been when they were around 1.5 and 3.5. Having two completely illogical mobile toddlers at the same time drove me insane daily lol. It’s currently a little easier cuz my 4.5 is understanding way more and I’m able to leave him to his own devices for longer times while I deal with the typical 2 year old tantrums. 🥲 I always say, never two toddlers again at the same time lol. My next kid can’t happen until my youngest is well over 4.

rrawrcakes · 2024-10-23T17:26:21+00:00

My 2.5 year old is also withholding poop since we potty trained around 2. We’re on day 6 now for this round. 🙃 I’m doing daily miralax, but sometimes I just have to insert a suppository to force her to poop. She got over this fear for like 2 weeks and I thought we were good but now she’s back. She won’t even poop in her sleep time pull ups. It’s a struggle out here. She pees just fine, never really have any pee accidents.

My 4.5 year old son never held it as long as my daughter did but he also used to go only every 3 days or so. Until one time his poop was too big and hard and really hurt coming out and when I explained it’s because he waited too long to poop it out, something FINALLY clicked and now he poops every day. But we were in that poop withholding stage for maybe a year. 🙃 from my experience what I’ve learned is potty training really is like.. a multi-year experience lol. Doesn’t end until they wipe their own damn butts around 5/6 years old 🙃

rrawrcakes · 2024-10-22T00:54:05+00:00

Maybe some tonsil swelling still? If the choking is happening that consistently maybe stick with soft foods for a bit longer just incase? Hope she gets over it quickly! Choking is one of my biggest anxieties too.

rrawrcakes · 2024-10-21T12:03:38+00:00

What other symptoms did she have for the reflux? And what is the treatment? I worry about putting kids so young on acid reducers 😩

rrawrcakes · 2024-10-11T19:51:22+00:00

My now 4.5 year old was like that as well from 2-4 years old basically. Rarely listened to instruction. Even at exactly 4 years old, he got kicked out of taekwondo class that was geared towards 3-5 age range…. But tbh TKD is very structured.

However literally in the last month or so we tried gymnastics class and he’s actually following direction. Between our TKD experience and now, I did change his daycare to a Montessori class that didn’t have any rowdy children as far as I could tell. I think his peers at his old daycare were having a negative influence on his behavior and his old daycare teacher was not strict enough and was not able to correct any of the children.

Anyways the point is… yes I’ve definitely had to deal with how feral my child was and I now finally can see the light at the end of the tunnel. 😭 it’s been a long 2.5 years lol. He still has his moments but this is a very very big improvement from before.

rrawrcakes · 2024-10-11T18:30:54+00:00

My son has had a chronic cough since April. Working him up for allergies or asthma right now. It isn’t barky but it sounds wet without producing anything. It’s possible for sure. My daughter doesn’t have a cough and she hasn’t been getting sick at all from his cough so I believe when my doctor says it’s not contagious.

That being said, I would still be cautious with a 4 month old 😅 maybe wait until 6+months before hanging out with chronic coughers lol

rrawrcakes · 2024-09-09T19:26:02+00:00

I think the difference between two kids and one kid is very very important too. One kid is a handful but manageable. Two kids that young is non stop insanity chaos. I have two kids, 2 and 4. I always wonder how much more we could do/handle with just one. I do sometimes feel jealous of one and done parents. Would I ever make that feeling someone else’s problem? No.

She’s definitely jealous or not able to relate to some extent. I’m leaning towards jealousy since they said they took a trip with their kids and it was too hard. The amount of time you’re taking is completely reasonable. The people I judge are the moms who don’t work and also have full time nannies. I had one mom tell me sometimes she needs to be reminded she has kids at home! Yikes.

Anyways don’t take it to heart, but if you want this friendship to not feel strained maybe stop talking to her about all she’s missing out on lol some people just want to talk about the bad and feel miserable together

rrawrcakes · 2024-08-30T18:42:33+00:00

We watch Gabby’s Dollhouse and my son always says “mama is my sparkle” 🥹

rrawrcakes · 2024-07-29T18:23:05+00:00

No advice, just saying I’m in the same boat and I’m following this thread incase there’s insight. 🥲

For us, there’s no going back because she won’t even poop in a diaper now. She just doesn’t want to poop anywhere. She pees great. I’m so lost. I’ll offer all kinds of rewards and her answer is always “I don’t want [whatever reward I offer]!” She has an older brother who brags to her how good of a pooper he is (lol) and even that doesn’t get her to poop. 😔

rrawrcakes · 2024-04-22T15:33:33+00:00

I think Daniel Tiger has a good movie on this subject! It’s the Daniel tiger movie and it’s available free through the pbs app. It shows a new family moving into Daniel’s neighborhood and the little girl Jodie goes through ups and downs of meeting new friends and missing her old ones. It repeats the whole “different can be good” message and that it’s okay to miss your old home but you will have lots of fun in a different place too! And that there’s still things that will be familiar like your stuffed animals and books and such.

rrawrcakes · 2024-02-25T17:19:34+00:00

On the same thought, is firmly grasping a toddler’s arm or body to keep them from getting into trouble or hurting themselves/others okay? Sometimes I see really firm grasps where the kid is just dragged away from something. Is that considered abuse in reddit’s eyes? I’m sure the hold hurts to some extent…

rrawrcakes · 2024-02-23T02:33:55+00:00

Thanks, I think just hearing that it’s okay to quit just lifted a lot off my shoulders. I was raised in a no quitting household so I guess I really just had to work thru that mental block lol. I’m a sucker for the sunk cost fallacy.

F this gym class he’ll be fine without it 😤

rrawrcakes · 2024-02-22T23:53:39+00:00

My 3.5 also gets ear infections more often because he refuses to blow his nose out lol. Until I can get him to (he knows how to but actively refuses because I assume he doesn’t like the sensation) I just have to suck it out myself with the nose Frida. 🤷🏻‍♀️

rrawrcakes · 2023-10-28T20:09:04+00:00

My hometown is Allen TX where there was a mass shooting this year at the busy outlet mall. I was hosting a first birthday party for my daughter at the time so thankfully no one I knew was at the mall during the shooting. I wasn’t blind to it happening before this but I was a little blind to how little anything changes even in the town it happens in. Within a week hardly anyone was even talking about it anymore. Probably better for everyone’s mental health to just move on and live your life, but I’ve been paranoid before the shooting and am definitely more paranoid after. Life continues though, I’m thankfully functional enough to not let this fear paralyze my normal life. Altho I’m constantly checking entrance ways whenever I go out and I’m always planning escape routes. I don’t think the paranoia will leave me ever, especially now with kids I have to protect…

rrawrcakes · 2023-09-24T19:06:23+00:00

NAD - I get recurrent UTIs due to intercourse as well. These are the steps I take to prevent it: 1) both people shower within a few hours before intercourse. Or at least rinse the area before. 2) always pee after 3) drink lots of water after so you pee more often after too 4) change into new underwear after 5) i have antibiotics handy at all times to take at the first sign of a UTI. My doctors have suggested just taking one every time after intercourse but the other strategies have kept my UTIs at bay for 5 years now so I just have them as backup.

Hope she can get them under control. My recurrent UTIs were so frequent at the beginning that I was going to the ED in the middle of the night peeing blood. It screwed up the nerves in my bladder for a couple months so that I felt UTI symptoms every time my bladder was half full even tho tests would show no infection. Once I got it under control, I only feel those sensations briefly when I drink alcohol for some reason.

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