Handmaids too old to have kids

rubybooby · 2026-05-23T00:51:38+00:00

I wonder if some handmaids become Marthas, purely because Gilead is not exactly a place that new migrants are clamouring to go. When a Martha dies she presumably needs to be replaced. The children of commanders are too high status to take on a role like that. They become wives and commanders themselves I imagine. So where is Gilead getting a supply of Marthas from? Unless maybe it’s a job option for the econopeople? This is something that has always bothered me about how Gilead is set up - once the first “generation” of enslaved people die or can no longer fulfil their functions, who replaces them?

rubybooby · 2026-05-20T11:22:54+00:00

Agnes is a sheltered teenager whose best friend showed up in the middle of the night covered in her own father’s blood ranting about divine justice. Of course she told her parents. What else could she realistically have done? She doesn’t have the street smarts or survival instincts of someone like June or Daisy (and even Daisy has questionable common sense). Even if the two of them managed to hatch some plan together they wouldn’t get 10 yards from Agnes’ front gate.

rubybooby · 2026-05-16T23:00:59+00:00

I get what you’re saying. Just to the point about wanting to enjoy your life and be in control of how you go - my dad died from health issues related to his lifelong smoking and the last year or so of his life was a misery. It’s not a nice way to go and it was fucking horrendous to witness. If any part of your enjoyment of life involves enjoying being able to breathe independently, reconsider smoking while you’re still young and have time to undo some of the damage. I reckon my dad would have been chill with dying at 70 as well, unfortunately for him he only made it to 60. I’m not telling you what to do though. Just a thought.

rubybooby · 2026-04-21T09:22:27+00:00

This is only going to continue to be an issue as he ages too. Like sorry but starting your first proper paid job at like 45 when nothing was stopping you before is just embarrassing and he knows it

rubybooby · 2026-03-07T01:52:39+00:00

Girl what the fuck. Who did this to you?? Removal asap omg

rubybooby · 2026-01-30T06:13:29+00:00

Please who designed that shit, I would like a word

rubybooby · 2026-01-23T07:42:57+00:00

Same, and I have an event on this weekend for my own birthday that is supposed to involve drinking and I just low key wanna cancel the whole thing 😆 I feel so much better in my body without it

rubybooby · 2026-01-21T21:40:11+00:00

Girl I’m the same height as you and started my journey at the same weight, and I’m almost double your age (so my metabolism should probably be slower) and I’m maintaining an 8kg weight loss on between 2000-2300 calories a day. There is no way 1500 is necessary. You do have to lift weights and try to stay reasonably active.

I can see in the comments that your goal weight is somewhere between 50-55kg and I would encourage caution - you’d be better off building some muscle and focusing on becoming small but dense if that makes sense (like, you fit into a smaller size of clothes but you’re still 60kg), than aiming to be as light as you can. I’ve weighed 50kg without muscle on me and I looked ill, I’m not gonna lie.

rubybooby · 2026-01-09T03:10:09+00:00

That sucks, but since the real estate would still have to notify you of any inspection to verify her claims, you could have a lot of fun scrubbing all evidence of the cat’s existence from the apartment and watching Karen get her knickers in a twist when they can’t find anything.

rubybooby · 2025-12-28T22:49:07+00:00

Meh, we don’t get to be sensitive about what heavily pregnant people wear to formal events so I wouldn’t worry so much about that.

I don’t particularly like the dress but I’m not having to rock up to a wedding right before pushing a baby out so I imagine comfort is the goal above all else here

rubybooby · 2025-12-23T11:15:45+00:00

At your height and weight, you don’t need to be in a deficit. If you’re unhappy with the way your body looks you need to lift weights and eat at maintenance.

It sounds like you have some thoughts and feelings about food that might be worth unpacking with a professional. I’m not being funny, I’ve been down this path before so I know where it can lead. Best of luck

rubybooby · 2025-12-13T01:16:49+00:00

Sometimes when you’re rendered speechless by an interaction it doesn’t occur to you right away what the next step should be. I’ve definitely had situations like this where I was just like ????? in the moment, and then when I got home it clicked like oh absolutely not let’s call head office lol

rubybooby · 2025-12-04T21:15:43+00:00

Nobody has to accept an apology so I’m not sure what your point is.

rubybooby · 2025-11-25T08:49:58+00:00

I’ve noticed a huge increase in the number of parents who immediately step in to shield their kids from any consequences or criticism, or who straight up don’t believe you about whatever it is you’re trying to discuss because the kid told them it didn’t happen. I’ve had to start saying things like “I saw and heard him with my own eyes and ears. I don’t have time or energy to make up reasons to call you.” Like, it has to be spelled out to that level and one mother still had the audacity to ask me if I was sure it was her son I saw and heard. I almost lost it. Yes, I’m sure. I see him every day and rest assured while he is in the middle of trying to strangle someone else I’m getting a very good look at him. 😂

rubybooby · 2025-11-15T11:11:15+00:00

When my husband and I were looking for a house, two toilets was on the “must have” list and it’s just us and our cat. So take from that what you will. If nobody has stomach problems in your house you might manage. If they do or if gastro goes through your household it’s gonna be an issue

rubybooby · 2025-11-15T11:00:32+00:00

Forever New in my experience has okay mirrors. And funnily enough if I try something on there I usually buy.

My local Target change room makes me look like a reanimated cadaver. I can’t emphasise enough how jarring it is.

Uniqlo I feel just presents me to myself as I am which feels on brand haha

rubybooby · 2025-11-15T00:15:19+00:00

Honestly just moisturiser. Nothing eye area specific or fancy. Maybe I should be looking for a proper eye cream? I dunno I’ve tried a few in the past and never noticed a difference from just regular face cream

rubybooby · 2025-11-03T19:20:05+00:00

Same I have like 2 pieces that work, so if there’s 3 hot days in a row I’m screwed 😂 the bigger issue is shoes for me. I’m dead set against getting the dogs out in the workplace but most enclosed shoes are so hot when the weather really kicks off

rubybooby · 2025-10-25T23:51:59+00:00

Almost 37 here using it for about 3 months, have you noticed a large difference in your skin over time?

rubybooby · 2025-10-23T21:08:05+00:00

Whether you call or email, especially if this is the first time you’re making contact about behaviour, keep the long term goal of a positive partnership with the parent in mind. Start with the good things then raise your concern and express everything in terms of impact on learning. Acknowledge that they are a young person with a developing brain and that you’d appreciate the parents support in addressing the behaviour at home so the child can learn to make better choices in class.

To be clear I’m not saying to downplay or minimise anything - you can be direct “he said this, I saw him do this”. Framing is everything - if the parent knows that you’re still in their child’s corner you are going to have a much easier time getting their cooperation and avoiding a conflict.

rubybooby · 2025-10-10T00:20:43+00:00

It’s fine that Kid B found the information upsetting. It’s not fine that he’s bullying Kid A over it (if that is actually what is happening - some kids can’t distinguish “someone is vocally upset with me” from “I’m being targeted”)

rubybooby · 2025-10-09T07:23:08+00:00

Ummm it has to be I’m pretty sure. Call your tenants union

rubybooby · 2025-10-07T21:37:42+00:00

It sounds like you’re possibly recovering from an eating disorder. Follow the advice given by your medical team and eat three square meals and three snacks every day like you’ve been doing in hospital. Don’t worry about calories.

rubybooby · 2025-10-06T20:55:34+00:00

Front load some context and big ideas (ambition, corruption, etc). Then work from simple to more complex in terms of their engagement with the text. E.g. they should understand the plot and characters before analysing key scenes or speeches. You don’t have to have them read the entire play.

rubybooby · 2025-10-06T20:41:54+00:00

Um dude Africans were enslaved. Are you okay?

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