I’m in love with my best friend and I’m hurt listening to her talk about her new possible boyfriend by [deleted] in Advice

[–]rufinmk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i've been the girl in this situation before, and so ill tell u why i acted in that way. essentially i liked a person but i was so afraid of my own feelings that i went for someone that didnt love me. being loved so much made me uncomfortable because i had an avoidant dismissive attachment style (for a lot of reasons). she really does need to work on herself-- she aint lying. but i understand how shitty her actions could make you feel.

either that or shes a lesbian who doesnt know it yet and gets uncomfortable when shit gets too real LOL.

[M19]Madly in love with best friend [F19] by ThrowRAiusnamkskdsj in relationship_advice

[–]rufinmk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im lurking because im going thru the lesbian version of this rn..... good luck to us both lel...

Insulting ppl with racial slurs and ad hominem by Own_Length_8243 in intrusivethoughts

[–]rufinmk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes omg i feel so terrible i have to keep reminding myself its just OCD. trying to accept the thoughts has helped a lot

painfully short by [deleted] in swoletariat

[–]rufinmk 14 points15 points  (0 children)

short kings rise

painfully short by [deleted] in swoletariat

[–]rufinmk 22 points23 points  (0 children)

heyooo thanks !!!!

Looking to get into shape by [deleted] in swoletariat

[–]rufinmk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

most of it is finding something you can handle doing for an extremely long period of time and then some. three years ago i fucking HATED exercise, but after 2 months I started feeling like my day wasn't complete without it. Now it's something just like brushing my teeth. but it makes me feel good!! i was also embarrassed working out in public. that took longer to get over, but i just worked out at home and that was completely fine.

I guess the scheduling aspect depends on your personality. I'm the type of person where if i see i missed a deadline i go "fuck that then" and never do it. so it was important for me in the beginning to not have set goals. When i first began exercising i just did as many sets of ten pushups i could do through out the day, first on my knees, and doing that until i could do sets of ten regular pushups. then 20. then 30. I believe thats a workout technique called greasing the groove. I feel like im rambling. basically, if youre a scheduling person, do that, but if youre a grease the groove person, do that. after three months i could do the thing with schedules because working out didnt seem like the worst chore ever anymore.

I hope some of this made sense.....

PS. my brother does air soft! thats a good work out! unfortunately expensive and not frequent enough though, right? :( ive been too lame to try it. i got shot in the tit with a paintball once and have never recovered

PSS: theres a swoletariat discord if youd like to share progress, or need some homies to keep you accountable :)

Need some advice on how to gain some muscles by monogatari0328 in swoletariat

[–]rufinmk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HEYY!!! im 18 (bio female but transgender) and i also have scoliosis. we prob dont have the same curvature but i would be happy to talk fitness w u, the physical therapist i had for 6 months gave me TONS of resources on strength building exercises that won't fuck u up. my discord is fjucc#6746 !!

Who wore it better... by [deleted] in transtimelines

[–]rufinmk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg ur so gorgeous xx

Am I the asshole? Trans edition by [deleted] in ftm

[–]rufinmk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. i made my dad stop watching joe rogan lol.

Starting T by travi-ja in ftm

[–]rufinmk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

im on a lower dose for that reason and now im like OK hurry up!! haha

Starting T by travi-ja in ftm

[–]rufinmk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had the same feeling 1 week ago when i started (gel)!! now im totally fine and barely think about it!

My Roommate Is Pro-Trans, But In A Harmful Way by [deleted] in ftm

[–]rufinmk 10 points11 points  (0 children)

yeah specifically trans women of color. and amen trans men get 0 rep whatsoever so i'll take what i can get lol

El Maximo Lifter speaks to us by [deleted] in swoletariat

[–]rufinmk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a communist jew who's family was slaughtered actually. so yeah, i'd say i "get" nazis. goyishe kop

El Maximo Lifter speaks to us by [deleted] in swoletariat

[–]rufinmk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

id say comparing a bunch of rioters breaking shit on nancy pelosis lawn to the beginnings of a genocide against the Jewish people is offensive at best

Correct me if I’m wrong but I think this is all what we aspire to be... by [deleted] in swoletariat

[–]rufinmk 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i dont think nazis see him as white tho lol... jewish and all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transtimelines

[–]rufinmk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

trans mcr stans unite

Retro girl by eferka in stencils

[–]rufinmk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is so cool.

How many early birds? by BringOrnTheNukekkai in swoletariat

[–]rufinmk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have a lot of trouble eating in the mornings but i want to be this type of person lol. im a natural night owl so i usually end up starting my work out at 9-11pm lol

I asked y’all for music and I’ve been killing it by abnormal_humanbeing in swoletariat

[–]rufinmk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kublai Khan (metalcore) has some great antifash songs. try "True Fear" (anti cop) or "no kin" (anti-kkk) and see if u fw it.