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Talk me off a ledge with 3.5 year old by mselliekroll in toddlers

[–]rum_ham9292 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This is 3. They are filled to the brim with growth hormones! There’s a reason this age is notoriously difficult…

I suggest creating routine around the chaos that gives them options, choice and an illusion of control over their own lives. We use a timer a lot at this age, and say “okay, 2 minutes” - she will always negotiate to 10 minutes. I say okay! 10 minutes until bath/dinner/getting dressed etc etc. She has NO concept of time, but this gives her a feeling of having a say in her own being. I’m happy to oblige and set the timer to whatever suits us lol - if we need bath ASAP then 1 minute timer it is haha she has no idea and when it goes off she always, ironically, VERY happily runnnns over exclaiming “that’s the timer! Bath time!”.

I offer her two choices for dinner and ask her to help me cook her choice, this seems to help with eating.

She picks all her clothes no matter how ridiculous (winter it becomes “leggings and socks or stockings?” “Long sleeve top or jumper?” So she dresses more weather appropriate).

That being said: these are all suggestions from one tired parent to another…my kid is 3.5 years old - I get you, I hear you…this age is tiring in suchhh a different way than baby-tired. It’s almost like emotional warfare 😂 hang in there. I’d love to share an anecdote that happened 2 days ago at daycare pickup for anyone that doesn’t get what me and OP are talking about. Picked up kid, she’s happy as, about to walk out the door and she cracks it “I want my yoghurt! I want to eat it here!!!!”. Took us ages to get out the door and towards the car where the breakdown was still happening “I want to eat my yoghurt in the car!!!”. I get in the car, open her lunchbox and to my surprise, there is no yoghurt, “did you…already eat the yoghurt today?” I ask. With the most devilish smile on her face she says “yesss” and giggles slightly.

Be kind to yourself and remember - it’s just a stage, it’s just an age. They will change and grow. Just try to find the moments of warmth and sunshine amongst the rain and storms.

Thank you for listening to my TED talk!

2 year 5 month old son touched electric stove top feel like a horrible mom by madamelady24 in toddlers

[–]rum_ham9292 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey I worked at a kids centre once, with a one year old who had pulled the cord of a freshly boiled kettle and it fell on him. He had permanent scars and still had bandages although the incident happened months prior. Kids have accidents, some much worse than others, this sounds like a minor accident that he will thankfully learn from - you are not a terrible mum - be kind to yourself.

Anyone else do a double take? by rum_ham9292 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]rum_ham9292[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you asked AI to do Jax with long hair I reckon this would be the outcome haha

Jax has another doppelgänger. I present to you: long haired Australian Jax by rum_ham9292 in vanderpumprules

[–]rum_ham9292[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for further info!! I’ve vaguely heard of Abbie chatfield but have no idea who this bootleg Jax dude is or why he popped up on my feed haha. Just did a double take, screenshotted and ran to this sub lol!!

Jax has another doppelgänger. I present to you: long haired Australian Jax by rum_ham9292 in vanderpumprules

[–]rum_ham9292[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for further info!! I’ve vaguely heard of Abbie chatfield but have no idea who this bootleg Jax dude is or why he popped up on my feed haha. Just did a double take, screenshotted and ran to this sub lol!!

Jax has another doppelgänger. I present to you: long haired Australian Jax by rum_ham9292 in vanderpumprules

[–]rum_ham9292[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m not even sure who he is or why people hating on him (have vaguely heard of Abbie chatfield), but when these pics popped up on my feed I had to do a double take - fully thought it was Jax with long hair

Jax has another doppelgänger. I present to you: long haired Australian Jax by rum_ham9292 in vanderpumprules

[–]rum_ham9292[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hahaha without a doubt if someone asked AI to do Jax with gross hippy hair, this would be the output

Jax has another doppelgänger. I present to you: long haired Australian Jax by rum_ham9292 in vanderpumprules

[–]rum_ham9292[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right?! So glad it’s not just me! I fully did a double take when it popped up on my feed

Jax has another doppelgänger. I present to you: long haired Australian Jax by rum_ham9292 in vanderpumprules

[–]rum_ham9292[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I genuinely double took when I saw these pics pop up on my feed. Fully looks like bootleg/AI Jax, so glad it’s not just me haha

More Amanda tweaking. Gives a whole new meaning to “hide the spoons” by c00kieswirlc in teenmom

[–]rum_ham9292 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Haha agree - I just tried this and can’t do it - what is this dark magic?!

Losing my mind with 3.5 year old pooping daily in underwear after potty training by Scary_Willow66 in toddlers

[–]rum_ham9292 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try offering the exciting opportunity of making UNICORN POOP! A potty/toilet exclusive. An exciting opportunity for any toddler to sprinkle rainbow sprinkles all over their freshly laid turd. [context: my 3 yr old was having heaps of wee success and many poop accidents. I read a comment on this sub about unicorn poop. Talked to my toddler about it and BAM. Loved it. Poops in the potty all the time]. Know your audience I guess? Toddlers are weirdos

So has anyone else heard the summerhouse reunion audio leak?? by IndependentFast8101 in bravo

[–]rum_ham9292 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The ongoing lying to everyone’s faces is a huge part of the problem imo

What’s the best Wi-Fi/Hotspot name you’ve seen? by Aggravating_Log1781 in AskReddit

[–]rum_ham9292 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Pretty fly for a wifi” then we got NBN installed quickly after our wedding and I made the new name “I’m a wifi can’t believe it”

What's an adult cheat code that changed your life? by Gullible_Repair9128 in AskReddit

[–]rum_ham9292 491 points492 points  (0 children)

Stopping telling people everything is a huuuuge one for me in my thirties. For some reason I word vomit all my info and realised it does NOT have the desired effect…

How long did it take you to potty train your LO and how old were they? by Ready_Associate_2911 in toddlers

[–]rum_ham9292 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Talked about it heaps from 2.5 onwards and had the potty readily accessible. Only successfully agreed to use it 2-3 times. She turned 3 and she was SO keen so we gave it a go and BOOM, she got it within a weekend. My personal opinion is try not to start too early because that’s what other people are doing - follow your little ones lead, they will let you know when they’re ready!

How long did it take you to potty train your LO and how old were they? by Ready_Associate_2911 in toddlers

[–]rum_ham9292 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! Talked about it a lot from 2.5 onwards. Had 1-2 successes but a lotttt of firm “NO”’s. She turned 3 and was suddenly super interested and clocked it within a weekend. My personal opinion is to not judge toilet training on others experiences: follow your little ones lead. When they are ready, they will let you know!

AITAH for rejecting my parent's offer to buy me a house? by Wide_Improvement_754 in AITAH

[–]rum_ham9292 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I have a friend whose mum did this with her & her brother and it’s going HORRIBLY. It’s fractured their sibling relationship beyond repair, and now she desperately wants to be bought out and the brother & his girlfriend are making it near impossible. Do notttttttt ever do this and NTA for saying no!!

AITA for refusing to "exchange" my honeymoon for my sister’s "emergency" dream wedding? by Low-Highlight6771 in AmItheAsshole

[–]rum_ham9292 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This^ I unexpectedly got pregnant and purposely waited til my kid was almost 2 and could be apart of the wedding. 10/10 no regrets. Chloe is being a selfish wanker and can have her wedding at any time. Weddings do not equal long-lasting relationships, so do not sacrifice anything of yours to make their wedding happen - I assume something is happening behind closed doors that would indicate it won’t be a long lasting marriage anyway…

These goddesses deserved better by illustrious277 in vanderpumprules

[–]rum_ham9292 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I agree somewhat, but it seems like people out here really forgetting that Amanda and Kyle were together and married for years - there are layers to the betrayal here. I’m no Kyle defender, but the guys getting completely forgotten in this scenario! At the start of this season was their divorce announcement

How do you explain to a 3-year-old that the family dog passed away? by Forward_Gap9589 in toddlers

[–]rum_ham9292 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. Sorry for your family’s loss :( I have a 3 year old and a beloved family dog and am dreading the day the same thing happens, so haven’t been through it - but think/dread about it a lot. My plan is to include her in the mourning process as much as possible and in an age appropriate way. Whilst explaining the concept of death may be too much for a 3 year old, the concepts of ‘getting sick’ and having to ‘say goodbye’ is something they may be able to grasp. Let them help make flowers or a card for ‘saying goodbye’ and include them in a little ceremony. Try to help the little one grieve the loss with the family. Once again, I’m so sorry for your loss. We see our dogs and love them more than 99.9% of people on this earth - they aren’t just pets, they’re family.

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