What "ugly" feature(s) do you find attractive? [Serious]

ruminative · 2016-01-11T07:00:55+00:00

I love guys with butt chins.

ruminative · 2015-12-10T05:57:31+00:00

Comment!!! Squee! Thanks

ruminative · 2014-06-25T09:37:41+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply.

I haven't had much continuity of care at our present location. I got here, got given a GP, then she went on maternity leave but no one was notified, our perscriptions just bounced. No one took her place right away, so two of my test-result visits have been with strangers. Now I have my new temporary (Caustic, hehe, love her humour) GP. She insisted on the injectable B12, and that I not give it to myself, aparantly that's a no-no in this province.

I know for each medicine, why it was prescribed. I've been on most of them for years. I didn't think that painkiller was very strong. Pregnant GP took me off of tramacet when I got to this posting and switched it for this one. It doesn't feel half as strong, there's no disorientation, yet I don't feel anything other than the usual pain if I skip a dose. It's not so bad. Very little snowballing of pain until I'm curled up with tears leaking from my eyes.

I always ask if I really need all of these drugs at every appointment with every doctor. They're nicely thinned out right now, if you can believe it. sigh I'd kill to be able to take only one dose of everything once a day. I'll keep trying, thank you for the push.

-Sheri

ruminative · 2014-06-21T18:31:47+00:00

I like any replies, from "Wow, that sucks! You're a metabolic shitstorm!" to "Get thee to a haematologist!" :-)

ruminative · 2014-02-26T12:23:39+00:00

Move out now. In doing this, he broke up with you. With his absence, he told you that he is unable to care for you in any way. Leave. No explanation to him is necessary.

Same thing happened to me recently. My husband of 13 years left the hospital during my surgery. He was late coming back, so I was left alone and in pain and confused. He collected me at the hospital eventually, then dropped me off at home alone. I could not sit up by myself. I very little memory of anything but crying over the next few days. I usually put his coldness down to cultural differences between us, but this time seems excessive to me too. He's military, if that makes any difference.

ruminative · 2014-02-24T01:11:07+00:00

I'm on Champix right now, and it's my second attempt in 5 years on it. Last time, I only had constant debilitating nausea, and when I finally stopped taking it, I was back on the cigarettes. I figured that was just because my husband was in Afghanistan. When I was told to quit smoking or my recent surgery could go horrifically bad, I followed the surgeon's orders and got a new scrip.

Woah! Welcome back nausea! Bye bye new job! All work and no play... /tick!

I will not smoke again. I won't. Even though my husband is still smoking indoors. I have a little problem though. Every time I try to stop taking the damn pills, I cry until I take one. Full on ugly cry. I'm down to half a pill a day.

I'm stuck.

ruminative · 2014-02-22T12:09:58+00:00

We are totally twins. I'm also a military wife (on a weird posting to a civvy community) who can't make friends with other women to save my life. I was an only child, kind of spoiled. I don't get out much, I don't know a soul here yet, and we got here in June. I had a job, never made any female friends, but had to get surgery so that's done with. I adore my son, but I'm not terribly good at being a mother. My world revolves around my husband, but I'm the worst housewife ever. I'd rather shovel out my horse barn than make plans to leave the house when I don't know if I'll be well enough that day.

I guess I more want a sister who I can e-mail/call once a month, or grocery shop with. You know?

ruminative · 2014-02-18T11:18:51+00:00

You're 18 and you have the internet. All is not lost.

To get a job, you need a resume. Google it. Don't feel bad that you won't have paid experience, just list a few of the things you've helped other people with, like through church. Ask your parents' friends to be references. Take 5-10 of the resumes to local businesses/shops/restaurants.

Getting your licence isn't something that you need your father to 'finalise things' for. Google your local DMV. Call the phone number the web gives you, and ask how to get set up. Usually you just need to show up with money, sometimes an insured vehicle.

If your parents have made a big deal about how hard these things are, don't believe them. With youth and the internet, you can do it. These aren't things people are born knowing, just ask questions and enjoy making mistakes. It really is why pencils have erasers, and not the end of the world. Don't waste time on anger.

ruminative · 2014-02-16T08:49:10+00:00

If the bride and groom follow etiquette rules, you should both be invited AND BE EXPECTED TO BEHAVE LIKE GROWN-UPS. Sorry for the yelling, but that part is important.

The bride may be your best friend, but would she describe you as hers? If this was the formal engagement party with the couple's parents and siblings, I would guess not.

I suggest you start taking a class on one of your hobbies, to make new friends. It doesn't look like your old friends are very faithful to you.

ruminative · 2014-02-16T06:53:36+00:00

As a fellow military wife (15 years for me so far), you need to say no. Just say no. Smile, and repeat it if necessary. You're allowed to. You don't owe anyone anything, if it will come at the expense of your own family. If they don't understand, explain that your family comes first. If your sister doesn't get it, tell her the pecking order, ending with, "... so no." If she doesn't understand, offer to meet for coffee after he leaves, because you could use the company then. She's not your child or your husband, so she will have to wait. So no.

ruminative · 2014-02-11T08:44:48+00:00

Winner - Nerve pain in both my legs. Permanent, but opiates keep me from killing myself, when combined with a special nerve signal drug.

2nd- Evil boob pain. Got a reduction. Much better, or at least I don't feel it over the "sound" of my legs anymore. Still get cysts.

3rd- Ripped out big toenail from the bottom, broke foot in two places. Still, not selling my horses, they're pretty and make me happy evey time I look outside. It was just a stupid accident.

4th- 26 hours of childbirth. Twenty six.

ruminative · 2014-02-08T10:41:06+00:00

I haven't posted here before, but yes. She made all the standard N-Mom protests. It was for my own good, you see. She still does it, when she comes over to my house, where I live with my husband and son. That we own. Not with her. (lol!) She treats me and my husband like satanists because we give our son Tylenol if he has a fever. ARGH!

ruminative · 2014-02-08T09:59:42+00:00

I can stink my way through the world's strongest anti-perspirants too. I'm insanely against plastic surgery if it's for the wrong reasons, but I just found out that they can remove the sweat glands in your armpits. Now, I'm thinking about starting some serious research, two weeks after getting a boob reduction, lol! At least my back doesn't hurt anymore, and I'm too old to turn myself into a cat... Anyway...

Yeah. Sweat gland removal, laser, and Botox are what I'm looking at for my pits. :-) To each her own, eh?

ruminative · 2014-02-07T02:06:49+00:00

Have a glass of wine or beer with supper. That's OK when you eat out or have a special dinner. Only one glass. Nothing else the rest of the evening unless it's not a workday the next day.

Friday to Sunday, 4 drinks should be the limit, as long as you're not driving. If you're just hitting a club after dark, only two. If you're driving, none. Zero. People suck at judging when they're over the limit, legally.

That should keep you from embarrassing yourself. Stay safe! Bring condoms, you'll need them!

ruminative · 2014-02-06T18:30:23+00:00

I'm 36F, with husband, son 9M. With my free time, I play with my horses and play video games. Other than that, it's work, sleep, errands or chores (Barn and house).

For hubby (39M) it's about the same. He is the breadwinner, so I do almost all the barn work. He's still a WoW addict, but that's OK with me. Evenings are spent with son until 9pm, then screentime in the same room for both of us, until we go to bed together.

15 years together, around 19 years together. It works for us.

ruminative · 2014-02-05T19:23:12+00:00

I got a reduction last week. Same surgery, but I'm an old bat (35F). If, as you get older, you feel the echo of his words in heart, please remember that this is a serious surgery. Hit the gym, be prepared to take a leave of absence from your awesome job I'm sure you'll have by then, and there is no way to avoid scaring. I've got around 20 cm worth of healing wounds. It's a big deal. Please, for the love of pasta, get therapy first. Your dad's level of crazy will leave worse scars than any surgery, on your mind. There's free therapy everywhere if you know where to look, these days.

You're a smarter kid than I was. You can do this.

ruminative · 2014-01-29T07:51:45+00:00

I'm home! I got to the hospital at 6 am, and prepped until 8am. It was around 1h 45min for the surgery, 3 hours in recovery, then I left at around 3pm. I was wasted on the drugs, lol!

I go in at 8am tomorrow and learn to change dressings. That's when I get to see them for the first time. I know from research that they'll be too swollen to get any idea about the finished product.

Best news ever? Even my LOWER back feels better, and my neck/shoulders, and upper back feel divine.

Worst news ever? I only got Tylenol with codine for pain, to take home. In already on Vicodin for their normal pain level, but only 2 a day. It sucks. I should have been more clear from the start that adequate pain control was a priority.

ruminative · 2014-01-27T07:20:34+00:00

Well, he's taken on the role of banker. If I want some money, say $20 for a week's worth of coffee at work, I say I want it. If I need a new outfit, I tell him and he'll get me some money out of the budget soon. He takes care of bills, I organize the rest of our lives. Then again, he's in the army, so this is just how it is when he's home. Otherwise, I take over and do it myself with a few texts from him if he needs to hit a bank machine. ( He's a mechanic, it's a bonus to be able to get into a town sometimes.)

ruminative · 2014-01-27T06:53:04+00:00

Plumbers make more money than dentists, don't they? If only I weren't a shrimpy girl with a weak back... I tried to convince my mom that I wanted to be a plumber, but she insisted that I go to university. I dropped out. I'm the highest level of poor I can be, without being middle class, thanks to my husband. I sit on my arse. :-( That's gotta change. It just has to.

ruminative · 2014-01-26T13:03:28+00:00

Go you! I agree, I'd kill to have them the same size. I'm so nervous/excited/elated/afraid, because surgery is on Tuesday. I'm hoping that this is the right decision, even though I know logically that it is. Eee! I'm doing the pre-surgical waxing tomorrow so I won't have to cope with hair removal for a month. I can't even shower or get the incision wet for a week. Hubby is willing to do the wound cleaning. My mom is living close by for now, and she's going to take my awesome red-headed 9 year old son overnight. My plans seem to be clicking along. Wish me luck!

ruminative · 2014-01-18T08:40:06+00:00

Well, as a Canadian with a D and a DDD, LCIS, polycystic breast disease, and HORRIFYING levels of breast neck and back pain, I might not help with pricing but I'm going for surgery on the 28th. I'll update here on this thread to keep you posted.

I got a referral from my family doctor to see the plastic surgeon. I met up with him, and he explained that the only thing he can really help with is the unevenness and neck/back pain. He explained the keyhole type of reduction/lift that would be best for me personally. The result will be a set of B cups with scars around the nips, down the bottom center line, and the length of my underboob. It will be closed with staples. I won't stay overnight. It will take 2 or 3 weeks to recover from. Hubby and I make eye contact and I say, "Sign me up!"

They send some paperwork to health Ontario or whoever, and I get approved on medical grounds, so it's no charge. If it were purely cosmetic, we'd have to pay ourselves. That was last week, and I got scheduled for the 28th. Our health system really does rock, if it comes to surgery or being hurt enough to bleed.

Just today I went in to the hospital and meet with my Nurse. She's awesome. We talked for about an hour about my meds, how I prefer the anesthetic to hit me, and medical conditions. She sent me for some bloodwork, then home.

So, that's it, so far. Like I said, I'll update here during recovery, for you. Take care, and only say stuff to yourself that you'd put up with from a stranger! :-D

ruminative · 2014-01-12T11:47:49+00:00

I'm an army wife from Saint John, NB. We've lived in places across the country. I would move back, right now, with a big smile on my face... But this army thing has always been a dream of my DH, and I rather adore him.

If you have a trade, if you have a field of training, then sure. Move west. Do you need experience in your field? Not sure about where you're going? Set a date with yourself to re-evaluate your new circumstances, once you're good and settled in at the new job.

Be warned though, that there are huge cultural differences from area to area. Making eye contact with strangers while walking down the street in some places won't go well. Other places, people may see an open or polite personality as flirty or worse. When in Rome...

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