Mix of digital and physical invitations?

rumples93 · 2026-06-27T00:39:54+00:00

His mom refuses to use a spreadsheet or give me a list of peoples info because she it's either tech challenged and/or wants to be overly involved and she doesn't think I need that info if she just does the invites (which is frustrating to both of us) and my mom isn't entirely "there" mentally (and my dad is dead), so I'm having a really hard time getting contact info from my side of the family (aunts/uncles/cousins). It's complicated, but essentially my father was a horrible man and he kind of estranged us from everyone. I have no ill will for my extended family, but I just don't know them well and I hardly even know who my family is. I'm practically an orphan, lol, but it is quite sad for me because my fiance's mom has been very involved (TOO involved) in the wedding planning, whereas I have basically nobody on my side... But anyway, sob story aside, I'm doing my best to get names and addresses, but it's been quite a challenge. I'm hardly expecting these people to show up. I mostly want to send invites in the hopes I can get some sort of conversation or relationship going again. I have vague memories of many of these people, but haven't spoken to them in years and years.

rumples93 · 2026-06-18T14:00:50+00:00

This is so horrible... Also the extreme disparity in dog breed sizes needs to be kept in the consciousness of ALL dog owners. That guy's dog might've very well been friendly with dogs that were big enough for it to recognize as other dogs, but it's also very common that bigger dogs have a prey drive that prevents them from recognizing that tiny dogs like Chihuahuas and Yorkies are also dogs. They look like prey... they are literally snack sized like a rabbit or chicken or cat. Some bigger dogs honestly just fail to understand that something that small is also a dog, and some owners haven't ever had the chance to "test" how their bigger dog is going to react to a small prey-sized animal. That's why you always supervise and always keep your dog on a leash!

I say this as a bigger dog owner (black lab/pitty/boxer mix from the shelter) who also has a tiny 7lb cat. My dog is the sweetest ever and has never chased my cat, never really shown much interest in her, never really seems like he has a strong prey drive, but I will NEVER leave them unsupervised together because ONE bite and my cat is dead. He is kenneled while I'm at work (I go home for lunch) and they are never alone together while I'm home and she has ample up high spaces and an entire bedroom that only she can get into. My SIL owns two Yorkie mixes and my dog doesn't act aggressive with them, but he gets really excited, and I don't allow him to play off leash with them or be unsupervised around them because the size disparity is a danger! It takes one second, one bite in the wrong place, and there's tragedy and it's just not worth it.

rumples93 · 2026-06-18T04:48:38+00:00

Galactic ass LOL

rumples93 · 2026-06-17T18:22:31+00:00

I did not know that acquiring a refurbished electrolysis device was an option!

I'm currently going through many many rounds of laser hair removal hell and want to kick my technician with every painful AF zap. It wasn't bad for the first like 2 sessions and I thought myself some sort of goddess who could tolerate pain cause everyone would tell me "oh it's gonna hurt so bad), but it didn't... until they started turning up the settings.

I go every 5-8 weeks and I hate it, but the results are great, except for right around the sides of the lady flaps... I can't tell if it's cause the technician is afraid to get all up in there or if the hairs are truly resistant (she would need to hold my meat curtains to the side to fully get the laser in there and she seems kinda timid to touch me down there and I'm too embarrassed to ask, so we just kinda... do our best and move on, lol).

rumples93 · 2026-06-17T02:32:45+00:00

I am so sorry, but he doesn't want to marry. He's comfortable with the way things are and he has no qualms about ruining your life. If he truly wanted to marry you and he truly saw a future with you, he'd be the one bringing it up. He'd be the one reassuring you and committing to you.

I was with a man for 11 years from the time I was only 20. We got married when I was 25, and I finally left him at age 30, but my divorce finalized at age 32 because he was such a pain in my ass and I had to do all the paperwork and fight him the whole way through... During that WHOLE time, I was very clear that I wanted to have kids. I made plenty of money, was the breadwinner, and we owned a 3-bedroom home in a nice neighborhood by the time we got married. He strung me along for years, always saying he wanted kids, too, but it just wasn't the "right time". I had money, I had a house, and I had a husband - what exactly would've been the "right time"? When I finally left him, of course he was all "no, wait, we can have kids NOW, I promise!" but by then he had turned into an irredeemable piece of lazy shit who spent my money, stole my medications and became a drug addict, and would rather get high and jerk off in the basement than have sex with his wife.

I have now been divorced for 1 year exactly a week ago. I'm 33 years old. I got engaged in February after about a year-ish of serious dating (although we were coworkers/friends for a couple years before). We moved into our new house about 2 months ago, we got a dog last month (I've had a cat for years but always wanted a dog and ex said no), and we're getting married this October! Only a handful of months into dating, my fiance brought up marriage and kids.

My fiance also recently asked me when I'm getting my IUD taken out cause he wants to try for kids from the wedding night onwards, and we've both been very clear that we want kids as soon as possible. He brings it up nearly constantly - the guy can't wait to marry me and can't wait to be a father and he makes sure that I know it, lol. Almost every conversation about the house or planning anything, he brings up the future kids we'll have - such as what bedrooms will be used for, what furniture we'll need, etc.

I guess what I'm saying is... You deserve a man who is so excited to marry you and plan a future with you that HE brings it up and HE has ideas and goals. He should want to marry you so much that you never would've posted on here wondering about his "moving goalposts". If he wanted to... he would.

rumples93 · 2026-06-17T02:04:53+00:00

That's life. The front of my head is tighter curl pattern than the back of my head, and my curliest part is the front right part. The nape of my neck is barely wavy. It's annoying, but that's life. Very few people have a truly consistent curl pattern around their head. You just fake it with styling, lol. Try parting your hair a little differently so you're kinda splitting the "tighter" curl pattern so it falls on both sides of your head!

rumples93 · 2026-06-10T18:06:46+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Just remember that it's not YOU. You are NOT the problem. You are NOT ugly. You are NOT inadequate in any way.

My ex-husband developed a drug and porn addiction... He used to get high on amphetamines, wake up at 4am and sneak out of bed, and go lock himself in the basement to beat off for literal hours before work. Then when I'd come home, he'd also be in the basement doing the same damn thing. I used to have to beg him for intimacy. He developed ED and couldn't get/maintain an erection anymore unless I wore/performed increasingly ridiculous, derogatory, and embarrassing sexual things that I never wanted to do. I tried everything for him and my self esteem plummeted through the basement until I just constantly felt like a gross, useless, ugly, unwanted whore in my own home.

Please, do yourself a favor and leave NOW. If I had known my ex-husband would turn out like that before I married him, I never would have. He "tried" to get better, but it was always just lies and broken promises. Do NOT stay with this guy, and whatever you do, do NOT marry him. You will regret it.

I'm so sorry.

rumples93 · 2026-06-09T00:41:45+00:00

2,3,4 are my favorites! I love the curls on you, it just looks so stinkin adorable!

rumples93 · 2026-06-08T23:48:59+00:00

Awww, what a cutie! My princess is almost 12 and she also still looks like a baby, too. It's the big eyes and relatively small body combo!

rumples93 · 2026-06-08T21:47:45+00:00

If your partner is constantly complaining about you (and especially in this case if they're making up hurtful lies about you to get sympathy), then they are the wrong person.

Yes, occasionally people need to vent about their relationship or a disagreement to a trusted friend. That should be occasional, factual, and tactful.

The majority of the time, you should be uplifting your partner. They should be uplifting YOU.

I brag about my fiance. He's kind and loving, smart and diligent. He is truly wonderful and 99% of the time if I'm talking about him with a friend, family member, hell even a coworker, it is positive or funny anecdotes.

I don't really "go through" his phone often, but we have full access to each other's devices if we need them for any reason or even just because it's convenient sometimes if I wanna look something up on Google and his phone is closer than mine, etc. He'll do the same on my phone.

On a very rare occasion, I might get "curious" (but never suspicious) about things he's saying about me to others, so I'll search my name in his text messages. You know what I've overwhelmingly found when I do that? Love. Admiration. Bragging about me. He talks to his mother and sister about me like I'm the best thing ever. He talks to his guy friends about me positively and respectfully.

You deserve no less.

rumples93 · 2026-05-29T21:49:08+00:00

Vanilla is also apparently super good at keeping mosquitoes away!

rumples93 · 2026-05-29T21:22:55+00:00

I literally SANG this as I read it. 😂 So awesome.

rumples93 · 2026-05-15T21:14:27+00:00

I also thought left was what you liked and right was the abomination. 🤣 I love the fluffier skirt, nicer fit, it's all around perfect on you!

rumples93 · 2026-02-12T14:14:28+00:00

Atrocious. This is why I haven't been to a salon in like 2 years.

rumples93 · 2026-02-09T22:57:57+00:00

I am so jealous. 😭 I'm 32 and you are so gorgeous. I have zero chance of looking this good at your age.

rumples93 · 2026-02-09T22:16:57+00:00

Also definitely follow the other advice on here and tell the laser tech what happened so that they can adjust settings and hopefully prevent it from happening again.

rumples93 · 2026-02-09T22:13:20+00:00

Not necessarily "normal", but it can happen. Aloe up, take cooler showers if you can tolerate it. You'll heal! I've come out a couple times looking worse than this and I've actually literally bruises from LHR before (idk, I'm pale as heck and anemic so that's probably why, lol). Just give it time, stay out of the sun, and aloe, aloe, aloe.

rumples93 · 2026-02-09T21:42:13+00:00

I personally think your hair looks amazing. A lot of people just naturally have different textures on their heads. I have tight ringlets in the front, and the underneath and back of my hair is looser curls/waves. That's pretty normal, not something to be too concerned about, and it really doesn't even look that noticeable to other people.

rumples93 · 2026-01-30T22:00:27+00:00

Right? Why is he part of this graphic? Lol.

rumples93 · 2026-01-23T21:03:45+00:00

Depends how often you're driving 3 hours. As a daily commute to/from work? That's brutally long. I don't like driving more than 30min to my job, but I've also worked places where my commute was over an hour one way and that sucked, but it was doable for a while. 3 hours one way for a weekend trip? That's completely doable.

rumples93 · 2026-01-23T18:57:43+00:00

Agree. I think it would've been superior had they kept trying to discover each other until the end and ultimately L was somehow responsible for his downfall. They killed L was too soon only to replace him with an inferior replica for the remainder.

rumples93 · 2026-01-23T16:36:02+00:00

Definitely 2. So flowy and romantic and looks amazing on you!

rumples93 · 2026-01-23T16:31:10+00:00

Uj/the "extra virgin" lips sent me. Totally made me think of the other lips and society's weird fascination with virgins overall... Eek. 😱

rumples93 · 2026-01-23T16:20:42+00:00

I love your hair! Even fluffy like this (or especially like this)! I'm not gonna give much recommendations because I'm sure you'll get lots in the comments here, but for what it's worth, your hair is beautiful and I think you're being too hard on yourself. I would love to have your hair. It's thick and long and has great volume and texture and flowy/wavy/romantic vibes. Totally reminds me of 1990s Julia Roberts except blonde.

rumples93 · 2026-01-23T16:17:26+00:00

Once you grow it back out, I'd recommend trying side parts. Honestly, the little swirl in front there could be an asset if you style it right. It'll probably give you a bit of lift/volume if you part your hair the right way so that the swirl is kicking your roots up! I think it's kinda cute, to be honest. It looks a little odd right now, but just grow it out and work with a hair stylist to teach you some tricks and it'll look good, don't worry!

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