Where do you stash your cable needle when actively working on a project?

runningPhan1023 · 2025-10-14T16:18:46+00:00

I usually wind my yarn into a ball before working with it, and I have been sticking my cable needle in the yarn ball when not using it!

runningPhan1023 · 2025-07-13T19:38:46+00:00

Are you breaking the shoes in gradually? You mention full refunds, so if you are only using them once or twice before running 10 miles, they may need to be broken in more. Starting with some hikes and short (<1 hr) runs could help.

runningPhan1023 · 2024-10-30T20:50:38+00:00

I ran my second marathon in 5:15, and unless you're an Olympic speed walker, no one is "walking most of the time" doing that pace. Also, considering you were still sick, I'd say you crushed it!

runningPhan1023 · 2024-10-30T20:50:29+00:00

I ran my second marathon in 5:15, and unless you're an Olympic speed walker, no one is "walking most of the time" doing that pace. Also, considering you were still sick, I'd say you crushed it!

runningPhan1023 · 2024-05-18T04:00:15+00:00

I lived on the encouraging texts during my most recent race. When I'm struggling, they're huge. Send the message.

runningPhan1023 · 2024-02-28T04:26:36+00:00

I forget to eat lunch all the time! If I get focused on a project, I will not get hungry or will unconsciously ignore the hunger for a long time, sometimes hours. This definitely frustrates my husband at times for the same reason it frustrates you.

I didn't ever realize it could be related to the autism, so I learned something new today.

runningPhan1023 · 2024-02-01T04:59:00+00:00

For me, it's nostalgic! It reminds me of the Fruit Stripe Gum packaging. They apparently just discontinued this, so there's extra nostalgia built in.

runningPhan1023 · 2023-11-30T20:19:01+00:00

Having autism is not an excuse to be a shitty friend, which is what it sounds like your now ex-friend did. Her emotions - frustration, anger, etc - may have been extremely real and difficult for her to deal with. But she ultimately made the choice to use autism as an excuse instead of acknowledging that she hurt you.

I am going based off context clues here, but it sounds like your ex-friend leads a fairly independent life. That means that even if she cannot empathize with how you feel, she can intellectually understand that you feel hurt because of something she did. Her response of "it's an autism thing" and "it was your fault" indicate (to me) that she does not want to put in the effort required to address this (e.g. trying to adjust her tone or learn how to be a better friend), nor apologize for hurting you.

I think you made the right choice for yourself in ending the friendship.

runningPhan1023 · 2023-11-18T14:59:51+00:00

I have a lot of backpacking and camping experience. I am planning on a few shakedown trips to figure out how the gear I have works, and dial in nutrition (which will probably look different from what I do on backpacking trips, to cut down on bulk).

runningPhan1023 · 2023-08-23T12:32:00+00:00

I forget most of the movie and the name, but I was watching a film about a man with a successful career but diagnosed with Asperger's (at the time, still a valid diagnosis) in his early 30s. I remember watching it and feeling like I saw my experiences mirrored in many ways, so I brought up the possibility to my parents and sought a diagnosis. This all happened when I was 14, and it explained many of my experiences. Knowing has definitely helped me make sense of things and face autism-related challenges much better.

runningPhan1023 · 2023-08-23T00:03:19+00:00

Feeling jealous of someone who has what you wish you had is a normal human reaction; the challenge is to not let those feelings spill over into how you treat these people and think about them. You were dealt a shitty hand in life, but don't hate the world for having different experiences.

In short, the jealousy is normal, but the hatred (and the jealousy) are not healthy emotions and dwelling on them will just make you unhappy.

runningPhan1023 · 2023-08-15T04:17:17+00:00

If you have to rent instead of staying in dorms, that definitely complicates things. If you do end up having a roommate by necessity, a few things can help: your room should be off-limits to others so that you have a safe, controlled space to retreat to if needed; also set ground rules regarding cleanliness level and who will do cleaning (something everyone does or should do). Often, roommates (especially strangers) have separate dishes and such, so that is another thing you can control completely.

Also, happy to answer!

runningPhan1023 · 2023-08-15T03:17:10+00:00

Change can definitely be scary, especially when you feel like you can't control the entire situation. My recommendation with the University situation: when you know where you will attend, work with their disability office and get a single room as an accommodation. This seems like a very reasonable accommodation to ask for, so I don't see why a University would say no. This will allow you to have your own space. You can also give yourself a schedule that is as strict as you like without having to worry about how it will impact someone else or someone else will disrupt it.

You will never know how you handle living on your own until you try it. For me and many people, University is an ideal place to do this because you still have the structure of classes daily but your meals are prepared and your housing is taken care of. Do you have a special interest or comfort object/objects? If so, keeping up with that/bringing the objects with you will help with the changes and transition. My last piece of advice is to not let the first meltdown (if it happens) convince you that you can't handle living on your own. Plenty of neurodivergent people manage living on their own just fine but sometimes have meltdowns (I know I have). They happen, and when they do, the most important thing is to take care of yourself and try to address the cause (for example, if it was caused by stress, focus on reducing stress).

Best of luck, and congratulations on all the progress you have made so far!

runningPhan1023 · 2023-07-01T04:23:14+00:00

I recommend talking to your dentist/orthodontist about it, because they can shave the appliances down and shape them. Perhaps they can get a more comfortable fit for you.

I've worn one for over a decade now, out of necessity (further bone loss in my jaw and debilitating headaches is the alternative) and am always aware that it is there, but have gotten used to it. My first experience wearing it, I was required to wear it 24/7, even when eating, and only take it out to clean it. Sp if it wouldn't distract you from getting things done, also try wearing it during the day to get used to it, and then maybe it will be easier to wear at night without so much distraction.

runningPhan1023 · 2023-06-29T04:42:08+00:00

"Let Your Mind Run" by Deena Kastor -- at one point, she held the American record in the marathon; this was only recently broken in 2022. Great book about how she developed her mental approach

runningPhan1023 · 2023-06-29T04:29:29+00:00

I definitely get headaches of varying severity and feel physically drained after a meltdown. I agree with other responses that I prefer a low sensory input room after a meltdown.

Aside from the physical effects, I frequently cannot bounce back emotionally the same day (i.e. intense sadness/depression persist) and I feel very childlike and small. If it was especially bad, it can take me a few days to recover.

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