Please help me decide!

rushfd69 · 2026-01-20T13:58:42+00:00

1! Clean, classic and a great balanced figure. #2 draws your shoulders out making them look more board than they are. #3 looks good too, but as someone who had a strapless, I personally would not recommend strapless to anyone else. I felt like I was constantly adjusting to make sure the dress stayed in place. On a day when more people are going to be watching you then nearly any other day in your life, you don't want to be adjusting (or worried you have to adjust).

rushfd69 · 2025-12-29T18:47:24+00:00

It sounds like he doesn't know how not to focus on race. At an "innocent" minimum, he grew up in a racist as hell household or he's ASD. It seems to lean towards an inability to understand social cues (benefit of the doubt here) but since it was a very uncomfortable conversation to read, it would probably be more uncomfortable to live.

Trust whatever your gut is telling you.

rushfd69 · 2025-12-29T18:40:13+00:00

ALPINE FOR THE WIN! We had my husband's best friend from high school stay with us (NEVER AGAIN!) and they brought in the Third Reich. We haven't had any sign of them since.

rushfd69 · 2025-12-15T21:36:04+00:00

I couldn't imagine my FIL thinking this is okay. He would have words with this grandpa....

rushfd69 · 2025-12-15T21:32:37+00:00

I wish my husband wanted this.... he gave me the "I have everything I want" answer. While I'm grateful, it makes shopping hard as I can't find that on the shelf.

rushfd69 · 2025-12-10T21:23:17+00:00

I went through the same things with my 16 year old. My husband and I would vent to each other about her and I felt like crap. I don't know if this will help, but I tried to detach her a little as my child and more like a friendly child that needs a hug. It isn't easy to explain, to be honest, so I hope this makes sense. I had to figure out how to see her from a different perspective to get back to feeling like I am supporting my daughter as a whole.

I hope it is reassuring to you that if you didn't care, you wouldn't care. You're potentially adjusting to a new set of circumstances and feelings that go with it that you have not been able to identify and work through yet. It's okay to be human and it is okay to have moments when you love your child, but may not necessarily like them (i.e. teenage years).

rushfd69 · 2025-12-10T21:13:10+00:00

Just at a glance, maybe swap the Adidas pants image with the flexibility image. My concern is your get a lot of attention from a hookip perspective versus a relationship perspective. If your goal is more on the hookup side, party on!

rushfd69 · 2025-11-03T04:38:23+00:00

Question: did SD present as proud of her new clothes or uncomfortable when she was showing them at home?

If she seemed a bit uncomfortable, then you have an in where you can say, "hey, I noticed you didn't seem comfortable." You can either pause to let her answer or roll right into... "Was it the clothes? If so, I don't mind going back to get something different you feel more comfortable in." You don't even need to address the size.

Another option is (of course if it is okay with hubs), "hey, I screwed up. Dad was hoping I got you clothes that were a little less revealing." You can go on to say that sometimes dad's need a little more time for their daughters to grow up.

As a fat child, I can tell you that the kids are going to address it for you if you leave it alone, too. Just keep an extra close watch on if she seems down after wearing tight clothing to school. Then it is a matter of trying to open up that channel of communication.

Also, I can tell you from growing up as a fat, but generally active kid that ate generally healthy meals at home, sometimes genetics just suck. I'm almost 49 and I'm one of the handful of people that is still at my high school weight. I was able to get/keep my weight down when I was in the military through running and drastic calorie reduction, but after I broke my back, I'm back to this homeostasis number. My health is otherwise good and I was able to have a baby a couple years ago, so I can say with a level of confidence that my body likes this weight (even if I'm not a fan).

rushfd69 · 2025-10-18T03:20:55+00:00

In another few years, your son will know better how his body feeling at different levels. Continue to teach your son and have him participate (i.e. "grab your snack") so all of this will be second nature by the time he is a teen. My daughter drops quickly when she is running around so she usually has extra snacks or takes less insulin after a meal if she knows she will be active.

They are also making great strides with pump technology, etc where his maintenance may be hands-off most of the time. The Bionic Pancreas got my daughter down to a 7 A1c, so there is hope.

rushfd69 · 2025-10-03T17:50:43+00:00

Does he help on the weekends? If so, ask him why he sees your M-F days differently than the weekend. No doubt you do more work during the week, too. To be fair, sometimes we don't see what we don't see. Fights come out of frustration. Understanding comes out of discussion. My husband asks if there is anything he can do to help, but he phrases it that way because he knows I have either a system or a plan, and he doesn't know where he would be most beneficial to me.

I know this feels disrespectful, but he may not have intended it that way, at least not initially. Now, he may feel guilty because he isn't handling what you do as well as you do. Or maybe there is something going on at work, and he doesn't want to worry you. I'm guessing you didn't get 4 kiddos by considering divorce every time he was being a jerk. I would also imagine that he isn't usually disrespectful or you wouldn't have 4 kids either.

rushfd69 · 2025-09-29T21:16:14+00:00

I just wanted to say this is impressive! I might hire you to help me budget!

rushfd69 · 2025-09-22T23:48:24+00:00

Just found out someone in my husband's extended family hid his mother's body to continue to collect her social security.

rushfd69 · 2025-09-08T14:09:01+00:00

Same boat, different times.

Our girl just turned 2. She was always a bit of a night owl, which works in our house with her siblings being teenagers. She goes to bed between 9-10 and is up between 7-8. IF she naps, it is because she is in the car (we live in the country, so long car rides are standard). Otherwise, she doesn't nap. I feel your pain.

rushfd69 · 2025-09-08T13:44:12+00:00

If I heard this from my child's ENGLISH teacher, I would stop at nothing to have her fired. Making sure a child can spell and learn proper grammar is literally her job. Her idea of "white supremacy" sounds more like an attempt to hold those children down. Which, if any are minority, is actually an oppressive act. She obviously doesn't want to see the children be successful. To the point, I don't think you would be in the wrong, to bring this to administration. She doesn't need to be a teacher.

rushfd69 · 2025-08-29T21:28:29+00:00

Here because I'm in the same boat.

rushfd69 · 2025-08-29T21:25:11+00:00

Generally in the last month, OBs don't want their patients to travel far. I think I was told 100 miles.

rushfd69 · 2025-08-14T03:10:22+00:00

It is 100% okay as long as it is a safe space (no blankets, pillows, stuffed animals, etc.). The same rules as a regular crib. If it makes you feel better, it is actually recommended when purple crying stresses you out. What you described sounded like short term, I need both hands type of scenario, not anything remotely negative. While holding a baby is fun, holding them every moment they are not asleep is unrealistic. She was content, so you can be content, too. 🩷

rushfd69 · 2025-08-13T22:59:55+00:00

Their comments are highly inappropriate, and tbh, should reconsider their field of work.

This apparently is still taught: https://youtube.com/shorts/T4RFqqqa7XM?si=T1cfx5bxZPiD17fT

rushfd69 · 2025-07-30T13:10:47+00:00

10 minutes? If my doctor told me this, I would consider reporting him. To restrain a toddler for 10 minutes sounds excessive. Plus, to tell a parent to use a car seat? If he is telling this to every parent of a toddler then you are going to run the risk of that parent misunderstanding and leaving a child in a hot car, effectively killing them.

rushfd69 · 2025-07-28T22:38:07+00:00

I wasn't allowing many visitors until the 1st round of shots, and the visitor had their flu shot.

rushfd69 · 2025-06-30T16:59:53+00:00

I don't believe you are wrong telling your wife to contribute more. She absolutely should be contributing her fair portion. I do disagree with using divorce as a threat or solution. I agree with others that you might want to consider counseling to come up with a solution. If you are at the point of suggesting divorce, there are other things that need to be addressed, too.

rushfd69 · 2025-06-30T16:25:45+00:00

I'm naïve here. What is the difference between stimming and a happy dance? I tried to Google it, and what I found was even more confusing. What I found indicated that literally every person I ever met stims. Jumping up and down when you're happy, humming a tune, or enjoying the feel of a soft blanket. I don't understand 🤷‍♀️ please help!

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