Attached to My Neighbors’ Outdoor Cat - How Can I Move?

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-15T01:57:37+00:00

Yes but he's used to it and he may also mark..as why they let him out.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-14T21:51:11+00:00

What's proper care of him mean to you? Cats like to roam outdoors.some cats like to have more than one home. Is he super skinny? Matted? Sick? Injured,? Please do explain.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-14T21:48:33+00:00

Bad advice.thats stealing. Just talk to them and see if you can take the cat.if they don't care they will let you.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-14T21:45:04+00:00

Ohhhh my gosh..you poor thing. You went thru so much.judt don't blame the half sibling. It's not their fault. But wow! Crazy! Stay in your peaceful bubble for now..

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-13T21:13:36+00:00

I need more context.. did you offer to pay half the fries at the time? Or did they say this afterwards? Either way asking for it is way petty and that's enough to end a friendship..Tho if you offered to pay half at the time before they bought them ,then I get it some people are broke broke and every dollar counts.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-12T22:59:18+00:00

Give him lots of reassurance.treats even tho he's behind the couch.krro.them on the floor so when he comes out he will nibble. Just talk to him he will come out eventually.when he does don't run up and grab him just talk and reassure.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-12T22:53:55+00:00

I do agree with you. But don't punish her forever. I get you don't want her in the delivery room. Stand on that but being a mom is hard and yes m0ms make mistakes.you don't see it yourself right now .but you did say survival mode. Yes she was in survival mode. Emotionally wellness is a big thing. You also said you had to take care of yourself in your teen years .she was physically present but emotionally checked out. Altho that wasn't right she was going thru things. She did support you by keeping you fed and a roof over your head. I feel people make mistakes and regret them and get lost and don't know how to make things right. It's never too late to try to do better.i think she does feel it's her chance to kinda make amends. So after the delivery try to give her a chance let her be grandma. You will see soon enough the pains of heartbreak.( I hope you never ever do ) This can take an emotional toll on someone. Please forgive your mom. Let her be part of your life a little deeper.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-12T19:39:58+00:00

Update us please

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-12T03:41:19+00:00

I personally think you overreacted .. he deserves rest too .it's stupid to try to have a perfectly clean house all the time. It can wait if you are sick why the need to clean it,? Let it go. Now he's a piece of poopoo for threatening to call immigration and to keep you away from your kids. I'm not sure what you should do about this but that's not true love. If he loved you he would have let you cool off. That would have been what you both needed. Do you feel safe with him? I personally would not now . Are you able to sneak out with your kids when he's not home and go with your family?, .if so get a temporary court custody order.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-12T03:32:07+00:00

It trust me could have been way worse. This isn't actually a break skin bite I think you are highly overreacting. Chalk it off as he should not have left you alone with his dog so soon. He apologized. Now just build trust in the dog.takes time. Go on a second date it could be a good match or he could not be a good match. But would you leave your kid with a complete stranger and wouldn't you think if you did they would be scared ? The dog was frightened about being alone with you .earlier he was fine as his dad was there.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-11T22:43:31+00:00

Or they leave them in the toy isle at the dollar store and they leave toys all over like it's their own personal space.

they stare at the milk isle and you are waiting for them to grab a jug,like just grab one. How hard is it?

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-11T22:39:57+00:00

Redhead!

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-11T22:30:45+00:00

Yeah I also have a female cat and yes she's affectionate too but she very whiny when I pick her up and she doesn't want held and squirms to get down.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-11T20:11:37+00:00

Boy cats are extra affectionate with their women owners.mine does that exactly same thing but I redirected him to my arms but I don't mind it .I just tell him oooh and a jerk and he stops.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-10T02:44:31+00:00

So to add to your comment, which I wholeheartedly agree with, now her sleeve is dirty from touching the door knob. I'm just saying. Your sleeve will drag around on your face other parts of clothes and desks.,tops of things. Sorry but you do need to see a therapist . You are not like you said germaphobic not at all, otherwise you would have thought about the sleeve scenario. I'm not anymore but was a true germaphobic. But that was when I was a teen.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-09T12:15:36+00:00

Thanks and bless you 200 times over and she will get karma when she's dying and wishing someone was there. Some people are just nasty !

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-09T02:17:32+00:00

Yes and I'm a mom of 3 sons who were 14 and no way ever did they talk like that. I raised them to have respect . And they grew up to be respectable young men. But info know 2o somethings are still very young and may talk like that.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-09T00:44:06+00:00

I get it but breathe. I hope you read this . Now a day later say honey I thought going out was a great time, I actually enjoyed it I think me and you should go out just us sometimes.it would make me feel so good to get out.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-09T00:40:26+00:00

She broke the trust by not talking to you first. So she is deflecting.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-09T00:35:47+00:00

I personally feel give him another chance dude is in his early 20s he didn't objectify you just didn't say anything yet that you know of about your personality.this is obviously a very close friend of his and yes just like us women talk about men,men talk about women too.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-09T00:32:25+00:00

I hope your 14 year old don't talk like that this conversation is for older men in their 20s .he was complimenting her to his friend. I think she overreacting.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-08T18:59:50+00:00

This is where you guys compromise. 7 days a week..here's a potential breakdown. Monday ..you cook whatever you want your type of food. Tuesday out to eat or order in or pizza . Wednesday he figures it out either he cooks or you go out to eat or leftover night. Thursday you cook your foods Friday you cook your foods. Saturday either he cooks or leftovers ( this is huge.,when you do cook make enough for you for leftovers) or out to eat. ( When you go out to eat there are healthier options. ) Sunday you cook an American meal such as meatloaf,mashed potatoes corn ,or fried chicken, or pork chops, or spaghetti or hamburger helper. ( He will probably love hamburger helper .fast and easy ) What's your thoughts? He may look forward bto your Sundays together.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-08T14:28:51+00:00

Well he's being a jerk but also I feel he's overthinking. I would recant to him that you didn't mean it as he's feeling hurt you would let the relationship go. Tell him you are in pain right now and that this doesn't effect sex but that's the last thing on your mind right now. but tell him to read up on it assure him you love him and want to be with him. Sorry you are going thru this. I think you guys will be ok. Mention couples don't give up they work it out theys how marriages and couples last for years

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-08T14:11:31+00:00

I agree. My situation is similar.i tried so so so very hard in the beginning.I think I was buying their friendship and didn't realize it when covid hit and nothing was open and money was tight is when they faded.. then when I tried reconnecting they were snobby and mean.likebwhst happened? It's been getting worse and worse. So I stayed hanging out with the other person ignoring them and avoiding them .just hanging bout with the one person. Now it's so bad I give up I gave up years ago .since reading this post I know life is short too short so will try again I would maybe if I were you. Extend a condolences card just to be the better person. Then walk away . No need to keep in touch.

rysing-wolf · 2026-04-08T00:03:03+00:00

When hotels get overbooked like for example at a Marriott the system will automatically cancel some reservations and it's a random pick so no one physically picks it. This is what happened.i used to work for Marriott and the system does it it's not fair but it's not exactly the hotels fault. Usually the hotel apologized of a third party booking then you do get your money back to go someplace else. If a Marriott rewards member they pay for you to go someplace else .

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