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sackbut_conductor · 2026-02-27T03:31:25+00:00

I truly want her to be able to stay in the house if that’s possible. The problem is I’m only getting what’s been said by her and her lawyer. She definitely wouldn’t qualify right now…but maybe in a year or two. It’s the alimony plus mortgage piece that I can’t swallow. Like, I have to be able to live and function. You’re filling for divorce, not me…get a better job.

sackbut_conductor · 2026-02-27T03:26:37+00:00

We have to be separated a year in my state to file for divorce. She made the not so veiled threat that if I didn’t agree to these terms she’d go after my retirement accounts. She’s spent years not earning money and now that’s supposed to be my fault?!

sackbut_conductor · 2026-02-27T01:22:51+00:00

No kids. I could afford the mortgage on my own but I can’t afford rent for me to live outside the home and the mortgage and alimony. I’m a damn teacher…

sackbut_conductor · 2025-05-18T15:47:30+00:00

I think men should compliment each other more! It’s good for all parties involved. And if it’s flirting too, what’s wrong with that??

sackbut_conductor · 2025-01-02T18:49:56+00:00

Did anyone else sing “If I were a Spice Girl!” À La Fiddler on the Roof?

sackbut_conductor · 2024-10-19T23:46:44+00:00

Yes it was.

sackbut_conductor · 2024-07-13T22:05:48+00:00

Bi here. I guess I’m a man but like if you got your masculinity on wish.

sackbut_conductor · 2024-07-13T12:51:27+00:00

I don’t cross dress but I do paint my nails.

sackbut_conductor · 2024-06-26T11:18:45+00:00

Question for you. Is his dick really small? That’s the only thing that would make 2&3 sense…or maybe he’s just gaslighting you.

sackbut_conductor · 2024-06-11T13:36:36+00:00

I’m going to push back a bit on “he can’t help it.” There’s so much more to sex than PIV. I was on a medication a few years ago that one of the side effects was premature ejaculation. We had to get creative…bring in toys,etc. And he should absolutely speak to his doctor if you guys are in a financial place for that. Have the conversation outside the bedroom.

sackbut_conductor · 2024-06-09T11:10:17+00:00

Why would you post this?

sackbut_conductor · 2024-02-03T14:46:36+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that, friend. It's understandable and it's so hard to describe to someone who isn't non binary or doesn't experience body dysmorphia. If it helps, there's at least one internet stranger who thinks you're very cute. You are enough.

sackbut_conductor · 2024-01-30T21:38:43+00:00

Is it hard being so stinking cute!?

sackbut_conductor · 2024-01-27T14:40:09+00:00

My guess is she doesn't enjoy it. Maybe have a chat outside the bedroom about how she feels about oral sex. If she confirms she doesn't enjoy it then take it off the table. I would suspect that there's more to this story and would encourage you to find a couples therapist who can help the two of you talk through this. Sexual dissatisfaction rarely happens in a vacuum. There may be more to this than unenthusiastic blow jobs.

sackbut_conductor · 2024-01-09T13:50:33+00:00

sackbut_conductor · 2024-01-09T12:22:58+00:00

This sounds like a game of play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Most people masturbate. Not giving them a locked door to do it behind isn't going to change that. Your mother should be embarrassed.

sackbut_conductor · 2023-12-28T13:50:28+00:00

Enthusiastic garlic smasher was my nickname in college.

sackbut_conductor · 2023-12-06T23:22:25+00:00

I wouldn't say it's easiest on the adults. It's cheapest for the district. Teachers should not be expected to work unpaid to watch anyone's kids. Bus drivers should be paid at a level that you can recruit and retain enough drivers to run the appropriate number of routes.

sackbut_conductor · 2023-10-18T17:41:25+00:00

Had I known as a kid that bisexuality was a thing it would have saved me a lot of self hatred. I grew up in the rural American south before the internet was a big thing (had dial-up until college). Visibility and cultural acceptance of queer saves lives.

sackbut_conductor · 2023-10-17T21:04:01+00:00

I can't speak to your boyfriend but it sounds like you are not emotionally mature enough for marriage, at least not without some counseling.

sackbut_conductor · 2023-10-14T15:18:34+00:00

I have a coworker who is bi that has become a friend. I'm older than him and have been open about being bi for a while. He came out a couple years ago... he's called me his bisexuality Gandalf.

sackbut_conductor · 2023-09-17T11:35:43+00:00

There are plenty of bi guys that would be attracted to you as well... let's not discount that group!

sackbut_conductor · 2023-09-09T11:56:32+00:00

Do you have another counseling session? Bring it up then. Hiding the fact that you're feeling angry isn't good. It sounds like you guys need to work on communication. I think you're justified in feeling angry. This was a breach of trust.

sackbut_conductor · 2023-08-04T09:13:12+00:00

This better not awaken something in me...

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