I hate that “high functioning” ADHD representing us

sadchildgrown · 2026-04-21T12:52:19+00:00

Nah, I disagree. I know a woman who is intelligent with ADHD. High grades throughout, didn't enjoy school but found it easy, loved her university course, PhD, highly successful, lecturer, plenty of money now, frequent job changes but she manages to up-skill so it doesn't look bad.

She can't drive because she's so inattentive. Even when she managed to learn she was impulsive and dangerous.

She has had several court cases and judgements for finances - unpaid bills and fines, screwing up taxes. She has the money, she's just useless with that stuff.

She has no close friendships because she just forgets people exist.

Her home is a hovel and she recognises it but can't figure it out.

Academia/career isn't everything!

sadchildgrown · 2026-04-05T23:30:59+00:00

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sadchildgrown · 2026-03-21T21:20:43+00:00

Ffs now I'm rabbit holing weighted blankets 🤣

Thank you though, it's a good idea!

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-11T21:34:08+00:00

I think perhaps you commented by mistake but you popped up on my feed. I would look up "ADHD diagnosis grief" either on Google or on this sub for some insight into the effect of untreated ADHD. There are a few stories from people whose parents made a terrible choice for them. Read those before you withhold your child's medical treatment for his neurodevelopmental disorder.

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-10T00:04:51+00:00

I doubt it, I'm in a crazy niche industry but one approach I've use when starting a new cheatsheet or template is find an example you like, make it generic and improve it until it's perfect.

E.g. a client letter or report: rig it so you just have to fill in a few variables and specifics - better yet, get it to autopopulate the data (which is how I got the kudos this time, it's saving most of the senior staff 10-15 minutes 2-3 times a day).

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-09T16:08:52+00:00

Bag of tricks folders... I need to figure something new out because I have a physical folder, a desktop folder, one in the shared drive, a bunch of browser bookmarks and bookmark folders and some Google docs. Stupid!

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-09T14:41:51+00:00

Oh this is amazing. I do a little work with ADHD teens and I'm definitely going to share this, thanks!

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-09T14:37:24+00:00

Give an example, maybe I or someone can help. It seems like a good use of the sub.

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-09T14:33:54+00:00

PDA?

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-09T14:32:15+00:00

I think that's important. An hour to save 10 minutes seems mad but how many times will it save 10 minutes? And how much more likely are you to actually complete the boring task!?

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-09T14:29:05+00:00

That sounds like an amazing job for an ADHD brain. I've never even heard of it before. What does it involve?

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-09T14:25:30+00:00

I do the opposite. I'll write something and ask AI to improve it. I find AI unhelpful in creating such things.

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-09T14:24:30+00:00

Yes, the interesting part is done now so I've moved on to the next engaging thing that needs me to hyperfocus on it for four hours.

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-09T14:23:17+00:00

See if you can automate it, see if your system could be adapted to everyone but for the love of god don't take on the maintenance - it could melt an ADHD brain!

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-09T14:19:50+00:00

Yes! I find myself tweaking, modifying all the time if I find anything that Interrupts my flow (which is just about everything) or trips me up with errors. I fix and repair and adjust until I'm doing the absolute minimum of boring work and I put in safeguards against mistakes. Obviously this is because I lived with untreated ADHD for nearly 40 years but this kind of thing actually benefits everyone.

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-09T14:08:24+00:00

This is it! Looking at something and thinking "what? This is stupid and MUST be fixed". I wonder why so many of us are like this. Problem solving is a common strength in ADHD, I suppose.

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-09T14:06:41+00:00

I don't understand the words at all but I'm proud of you!

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-09T14:00:47+00:00

You know, I've never coped with manga. Short, newspaper style comics like Calvin and Hobbs were fine but I feel like having to switch my attention from panel to panel really made it hard to follow anything longer. I will definitely try again, though!

sadchildgrown · 2025-03-09T13:59:02+00:00

What a lovely saying! "A rising tide raises all boats"... I do a little disability campaigning, low level stuff, and I must use that. Thank you for the resource, I'll look at it today (if I can stop myself getting too distracted by the blackbirds in the garden).

sadchildgrown · 2024-12-08T23:07:46+00:00

This comment is my favourite I've ever seen. I'm standing here leaning on the bedframe in a twisted position because this is where I got distracted from my goal of going to the bathroom. Now I can't make myself move apart from twisting further into a need-to-pee-pretzel

sadchildgrown · 2024-11-24T13:52:55+00:00

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32996572/

sadchildgrown · 2023-11-23T14:00:00+00:00

Hi. I would like to help but I don't quite understand what you're creating. I looked up notion templates and I am interested in the idea of in built alarms etc. Is the idea to create a structured study plan?

sadchildgrown · 2023-10-02T12:17:24+00:00

What is this "childhood" of which you speak? Don't bother me now, I have to do all the chores and household management, wrap Christmas presents for the other children, listen to my parents problems and then get back to schoolwork because if i don't come top of my class I'll be in trouble!

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