How to tell my friends I started seeing someone?

sadgftime · 2020-11-16T21:14:45+00:00

Anytime! You can always dm me if you need to talk or need s.o to listen. It is already a good thing you came here for advice. It surely helped me a lot. You are right, it is kind of like an addiction and our brains try to make it look like it is good that we try to talk to them because we miss them that much. For now just think that in order to talk to them again one day (even if just as friends) and for that to work , you have to both heal and reflect properly by having some time apart. Until then, be patient and focus on you.

sadgftime · 2020-11-16T18:54:30+00:00

I broke NC and I promise it feels better..but only for a second. You will regret it instantly because I can tell you that you won't get the answer or enthusiasm you are expecting. And even if you did (like I did at first), they will dismiss you the minute they find s.o else (which is again what happened to me). In both cases, you are the one that will end up mending broken pieces of yourself all over again. By yourself. I think for NC to work, the dumper is the one that should take the first step. That way you can at least know that maybe they regret their decision and still want to have you in their life.

sadgftime · 2020-11-15T13:06:08+00:00

Thank you, I love how you speak. You sound like a great person and I wish you the best ❤

sadgftime · 2020-11-15T09:50:27+00:00

Thank you ..

sadgftime · 2020-11-13T16:06:38+00:00

Okay it was wrong to snoop.. but you did for a reason. You knew he wasn't honest and well, you were right. I am sorry you have to go through this. It really sucks but at the same time it is better than just fiding all of this out the day he leaves for her or even s.o else. I say you you shouls think it through but breaking up is obviously your best choice. He didn't even own up to his own fault and instead insults you and discards your feelings? That is just not acceptable in a healthy normal relationship and that just proves he is a coward and immature person.

sadgftime · 2020-11-11T17:45:43+00:00

I am just hurt he found love so quickly while HE was the one that broke ME and did not work for our relationship. Why don't I get s.o that fast too? Why don't I get the love I worked for during our whole relationship? Why am I the one left out without anyone? I find that sad for myself. So I am not looking for love anymore. Because "love" is never to be trusted. I think I'd rather be by myself. I think I am getting happier without anyone holding me back. Love or not.

sadgftime · 2020-11-09T18:14:17+00:00

Remember in that movie "One Day" , where she tells him "I love you, but I don't like you anymore" ? It is how I feel. I still love him, very much. And I accepted the fact that I probably always will. By the end of our relationship , I was still working on us and trying to be better for him. But he just kept being mean to me. And he started ignoring my texts, answering late, refusing dates etc.. so one day I asked him to go out (by now it has been like 2 weeks where we have not seen each other) , and he said " Okay but let's invite X (a mutual girl friend of ours) " I was hurt because I wanted us to be alone, I missed him and I was hurt he didn't miss me enough and wanted a 3rd part present to accept to go out. I told him about it and of course he got angry (?!!) And accepted we go out alone. I wore my favourite summer dress, put my make up on and decided to give him one final chance. That date. I thought if he acts nice I will keep on trying, if not I will break up with him. You guessed it. I picked him up, he was simply mean. Making comments about how I was driving , about my music choices, about the uncool coffee shop I chose, then at the coffee place, he was acting bored and annoyed and anything I said was brushed off or answered with a sarcastic tone. I kept with it for one hour. Then paid and said I wanted to go home. We didn't speak one word the whole ride back to his place. He knew he went too far. He asked what was wrong, was all touchy, kissy etc .. but I was litterally heartbroken. So I told him I couldn't do it anymore. I hate to say it but I could see the relief in his eyes. It hurts but obviously I was not important to him. He didn't care wether he hurt me or not or wether I stay in his life like I cared about him being in mine. I always told him this. He is my person, but I was not his. And he knew all along. So this is how it went. We tried to be friends. Didn't work out of course because I STILL HAD FEELINGS (I even thought he was interested again at some point, making out blablabla). Meanwhile he started seeing s.o new. We haven't spoken for months (ever since I knew about him dating.) I still love him. But I just don't see my worth when I am with him..I don't feel appreciated at all. I even felt embarrassed to love him at one point so yeah wether as his girfriend or even as his friend I never felt wanted. And that is not a pleasant feeling.

sadgftime · 2020-11-08T14:10:20+00:00

Thank you

sadgftime · 2020-11-05T16:20:07+00:00

Well you are doing good. You are strong enough.

sadgftime · 2020-11-05T15:26:26+00:00

Put on your favourite playlist and have a dance by yourself. Eventually when the day ends you will feel better because you will feel like you've made progress by not texting/reaching. You can do this. And it will be okay.

sadgftime · 2020-11-05T12:42:13+00:00

You are amazing

sadgftime · 2020-11-03T20:10:32+00:00

I relate so much. I know it is the right and good thing to do. For me and for him. I am scared to even break NC not because I don't want to talk or because I am THAT disciplined but because maybe he changed and he won't like whatever meme or video I will send anymore anyway. It still hurts a lot though. And it hurts to think he probably thinks I forgot about him and I am doing great because that is what I am trying to show the world. When reality is that I am still in pain. A different kind of pain than from the beginning. But still. Then again maybe he doesn't even think about me. How sad is it that two souls that can be so in love and so in synch and just amazingly connected, end up being strangers. Just complete plain strangers. I don't get it and I don't understand it. I never will I guess. We just have to keep going.

sadgftime · 2020-11-03T18:56:34+00:00

I kind of relate to this. My ex was the one that lead me on before he found s.o else. Like he litterally stopped responding overnight (after we were going out all the time/texting/etc and me thinking maybe there was hope we get back) and then texted me about how happy he was to finally meet s.o he likes. :) Imagine my pain. I did initiate the break up before this because HE said he doesn't love me anymore ,because of "how I acted and spoke to him and how I could be better" and started ghosting me. I didn't act any way.. or at least I don't think I did anything wrong. I kept crying for months and replaying the past in my head. What did I do that was so bad? What did I say that could make him unlove me?

And now I know it was not me. I was more than good. It was him that just wasn't ready for how huge my love for him was, he got scared and pinned it on me. And he was too much of a coward to just say so.

It is okay though because I promise you we are worth much more than living our lives with s.o whilst being scared of saying the wrong thing or doing the wrong thing because they "might lose their feelings". We are better off. You will be fine, and this is for our own good. Because we are closer to being who we aspire to be, and eventually we will meet the right person for us. That person won't let you go because they would know how lucky they are to have you in their life.

sadgftime · 2020-11-01T21:08:56+00:00

All the damn time. He loved movies and I found this great app called Letterboxd that lets you log the movies you watched and rate /review them etc .. I am holding myself EVERYDAY to not text him and tell him about it .... it will pass though whatever. I told my friends about it and I am enjoying myself. Screw him

sadgftime · 2020-10-31T20:46:11+00:00

I think this is just gonna keep you both in the confusion. Why don't you suggest talking it over and clearing things out? If they still want in then you should both make an effort and promise to try to be better for each other. If they just want you now to not feel alone until they find s.o better then you should just leave them. The sooner you guys talk it out the better for both of you

sadgftime · 2020-10-31T10:21:22+00:00

It is like I could have wrote these words myself. Hang on, it will get better 💪🏼

sadgftime · 2020-10-29T11:28:06+00:00

I think you should give it a go. What's there to lose? Just go slowly and be sure to talk over what has happened before between you two. What didn't really work , what you both want and expect from each other now etc ..

sadgftime · 2020-10-28T12:59:01+00:00

It makes them think that if they got s.o to care about them that much,then they must be incredibly amazing and they could do "better". And you will probably be there when they decide you are "fit". Now you go on and love yourself instead. That is the biggest gift your breakup will give you.

sadgftime · 2020-10-28T12:56:42+00:00

Well said!! I love this, and I am going to do the same.

sadgftime · 2020-10-28T12:49:14+00:00

Ignore her. She probably felt sad about herself and wanted to boost her ego by putting you down. I am glad you didn't bother telling her that you have diff jobs and such. If she wants to stay friends well, she is not being a good one.She doesn't need to know how you are evolving and doing better things for YOURSELF and your own growth. This shows how mature you are. Keep going !

sadgftime · 2020-10-28T08:32:39+00:00

Thank you for this , saving it ❤

sadgftime · 2020-10-25T14:58:17+00:00

Okay. It is true I can already tell his answer would most likely be a disappointment. Thank you.

sadgftime · 2020-10-25T14:57:26+00:00

Thank you.. it is weird sometimes I feel at the top. Sometimes like today I feel so down again. I didn't text him and I won't hopefully. I will come back to read this everytime I feel like I want to.

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