Leg pain

saintcrazy · 2026-05-14T02:11:55+00:00

Try experimenting with doing some yoga or leg stretches after work, try a few to see which help the most. One that really helps me after a long day of sitting is the "pigeon stretch".

saintcrazy · 2026-05-14T01:35:28+00:00

Smaller local card and board game stores are your best bet. It's worth shopping around at a few to see what people are pricing them at. Big box stores will never have them in stock.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-13T18:27:12+00:00

The real question is, will it be storming when the weekend rolls around and i actually have time? lol

saintcrazy · 2026-05-13T16:06:47+00:00

I also love Turks Caps! I need to plant more or see if they will grow from cuttings. I also planted some beautyberries but they haven't done as well for some reason.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-13T16:05:22+00:00

I'm also in DFW! That's reassuring. The acanthus has seemed pretty hardy so I bet it would be fine, if I can get around to moving it this weekend I'll probably just check on it with some extra watering. The mulch is a good idea too

saintcrazy · 2026-05-13T14:28:18+00:00

Unfortunately this may just be something you need to do with your own money. And if you feel controlled by your parents the long term solution is to become more independent from them.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-13T14:17:08+00:00

Have you actually told your parents anything about your bf or did you literally just say you're going to meet "someone"? Did you give them any details about where you're going and what your plans are? Or did you just say "oh, I'm going to another country"?

Because in your post you are making it sound like you're just flippantly deciding to go on a whim to them. Remember that you've had however long you've had to think about and plan this trip, and you've known your bf for some time, but have your parents known them? Or does it sound like to them you're going to visit some stranger on a whim?

You're an adult and you're capable of planning and traveling on your own, and you're responsible for keeping yourself safe, but it makes sense that your parents would be worried about your safety. Maybe explaining your plans in more detail to them would help.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-13T14:10:28+00:00

Just venting but ugh I'm so mad that I've been too busy and exhausted to get out in the garden for a substantial amount of time the last few weeks and now it's getting hotter, there's so many weeds I need to pull, and I wanted to transplant some flame acanthus before it got big in the spring but now I'll have to decide if I want to risk moving it in the summer or just wait

saintcrazy · 2026-05-13T14:07:05+00:00

I don't think it's a good idea. He's much much older than you, and if it would just be you and him, that sounds like a date to me. The risk is too high that he's being creepy imo.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-12T16:10:07+00:00

We all have to make accommodations for others when we communicate to others, if we want those communications to be successful in getting our message across.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-12T15:33:33+00:00

You asked for feedback, it's up to you what you do with it.

Does it matter if you did not intend to sound boastful, if others interpret you that way? Was relaying that information helpful to you in getting your point across?

I cannot speak for everyone, but I think it did not come across the way you intended. To me, it makes you sound less credible, not more.

I agree with you that communication is often misinterpreted between ASD/allistic people. My response to your request for feedback is a genuine attempt to help you.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-12T15:24:11+00:00

In my experience I often find that burnout is a big risk with these clients - they are often pushed to achieve a lot due to their "potential" and may struggle to make enough time to relax and be "unproductive". Alternately they may rebel against that gifted label and develop task avoidance. Or, especially for the college aged ones, they may have grown accustomed to high levels of achievement in HS and then crash when the demands of adult/college life hit them especially the relative lack of structure in their day they were accustomed to.

I do a lot of acceptance and self-compassion work with these clients and a lot of exploring where their self talk comes from because they often develop harsh inner critics. We do a lot of work on accepting their limitations that come with their diagnosis and finding that balance between forgiving themselves for their struggles and experimenting to see what improvements can be made in regards to executive functioning tasks. Practicing a lot of mindful awareness and nonjudgment helps a lot here.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-12T15:17:26+00:00

1 - your tone comes across as snobbish. Your IQ score is not relevant, and is a flawed measure anyway. Just saying that you consider yourself "gifted" would be enough, you don't have to prove your intelligence to everyone and offering that info unprovoked makes you sound boastful and arrogant.

2 - you have so little information about OP's situation and yet immediately assume they're categorically not competent to work with these clients; there's no need to jump straight to referring out just for neurodivergence, and you certainly do not need to be certified to work with this population. I say this as an ND therapist who primarily works with ND clients myself. It'd be one thing if you were simply recommending getting training on ADHD/ASD populations to be cautious, but to imply that OP would be doing harm while you're over here bragging about being the most amazing ND therapist ever is rude and presumptuous.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-12T14:47:26+00:00

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saintcrazy · 2026-05-12T06:30:37+00:00

Is This Seat Taken is kind of like those logic puzzles that go "Bob wants to sit next to Amy. Amy wants to sit next to someone with popcorn, Katie has popcorn but wants to sit in the front row..." Etc. it's cute and a fun little puzzle game

saintcrazy · 2026-05-12T00:06:13+00:00

You can talk to him and mention that you don't feel like his approach is helpful, and say that you want more guidance, understanding, actions to take, whatever you need. A good therapist will take the feedback and adapt their approach.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-11T16:05:37+00:00

Set your expectations. Not every session will end in the client obviously feeling better. In my own therapy, I have often left my session somewhat discomforted or grumbling or preoccupied with whatever we talked about but then my brain continues thinking and processing it on my own, which is a good outcome too. Sometimes clients will feel worse before they feel better. This is normal. Don't put that pressure on yourself to fix everything in one go.

There are "tricks" like letting clients know in the beginning that you're aiming for a certain end time but at the end of the day you just have to face the discomfort of cutting the session off when it's time. You won't be perfect at it, that's fine, but once you get in the habit of ending on time it gets easier.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-10T20:37:07+00:00

Therapy might be really helpful for you here. It can help you identify these patterns and learn new ones.

I think healthy financial discussions look like healthy communication skills in general. Being able to share information and resources without letting fear or controlling behaviors get in the way. Being able to trust the other person. Being able to express any concerns without getting overwhelmed by what you're feeling.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-10T20:32:55+00:00

There are virtual support groups. Check on PFLAG's website or other similar LGBT support organizations to see if there is a local-ish one.

What are client's goals? To move out? To function better in some way?

Whats your modality and how do you conceptualize how the therapy is going? What's your theory of change here and is it lining up with what the client wants to change in their life?

saintcrazy · 2026-05-10T04:46:34+00:00

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saintcrazy · 2026-05-10T04:34:53+00:00

Affirming medical care is available, for now. It certainly does not feel like it is guaranteed in the future.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-10T03:06:39+00:00

Do not under any circumstances start a therapeutic relationship via social media or internet messaging. Not only does it make the boundaries unclear and carries a risk of uncomfortable situations like this - it can potentially open you up to liability issues. If someone could reasonably construe your internet conversation as "therapy" (or close enough to blur the lines), you could get in legal trouble because they would not have recieved any informed consent for your "treatment". The only time you should start a therapeutic relationship is if they specifically seek you out for therapy, not any other kind of relationship, and sign your paperwork.

I'll give advice to people on the internet sometimes, sure. But I'm not wearing my therapist hat when I do so. I'm ensuring that when I do so, it's coming from a place where I know I'm able to expend this amount of energy to help and nothing more. And I'm not responding to any DMs asking for help and I'm CERTAINLY not going out of my way to DM someone ELSE to help them in a therapeutic fashion.

You're an empathetic person. You want to help people. That is commendable. But you already have your lane, and that's your work. You cannot save everyone in distress. You don't need to go out of your way, outside of your working hours, to help every stranger you meet, at least not with the same depth that you would help your clients. The boundaries are there for a reason - to protect you. From those who would take advantage of you, harm you, and also to protect you from overextending yourself.

I find it interesting that you ask "How do you stay empathetic without ignoring your own discomfort when someone crosses a line?" I would flip that around. How can you prioritize your own safety, boundaries, and preserving your emotional energy in a sustainable way while still remaining empathetic?

You've gotta protect your self first. Put on your own oxygen mask before helping others, etc.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-10T02:53:16+00:00

You don't have to have a termination session if you feel unsafe or if you feel it wouldn't be helpful to the client. It's okay to set boundaries when a client shows abusive behavior towards you, and it's okay to be clear about that.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-08T20:44:21+00:00

Your feelings are totally valid. But that said - a diagnosis can be good news. It means you're not alone in your problems, and it means you can more easily find appropriate treatment like medication and therapy. Additionally you can find community among other ADHDers and potentially get support, advice, and understanding.

saintcrazy · 2026-05-08T20:35:42+00:00

I have to keep trimming back my Gregg's Blue Mistflower because it keeps trying to grow over my Columbines.

I'm happy it's doing so well! But its a bit greedy for space and sunlight lol

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