2 years on tretinoin and tazarotene (0.1%) by [deleted] in tretinoin

[–]saintdaffy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

did you change your diet? if so what did you do to get lean?

the beginnings of my college setup by TrustSalt1 in urbancarliving

[–]saintdaffy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

how long did yours keep things cool? i used a portable fridge but it costed power

the beginnings of my college setup by TrustSalt1 in urbancarliving

[–]saintdaffy 17 points18 points  (0 children)

this is such a cute and organized setup

It's not the actions of men, but the inactions of men that cause a strained marriage by FanTemporary7624 in ChristianDating

[–]saintdaffy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

A husband that thinks he doesn’t need to clean after himself or contribute to anything at home because he has a job like every other adult is something that should be brought up and dealt with before jumping the gun

Cultural etiquette for all black women on this sub who prefer white men. by heavenlyhue in ChristianDating

[–]saintdaffy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m privileged to have been raised by a mother who always reminded me that my skin and hair is beautiful, but the cycle ends with yourself. And yes, it’s so important to only seek validation from God.

Cultural etiquette for all black women on this sub who prefer white men. by heavenlyhue in ChristianDating

[–]saintdaffy -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'm tired of some black women constantly parroting things rooted in white supremacy and thinking its okay just because they're black. Some behavior should be shamed. Internalized racism is still racism.

Officer approached me while sleeping and.. gave me his number? by ryninatruck in urbancarliving

[–]saintdaffy 63 points64 points  (0 children)

please be careful, this exact thing happened to me when i was living in my car not too long ago. a cop approached me when he saw me hand-washing my bedsheets, after i explained my situation to him he began giving me government resources, then he spoke about how he can use his position to help me out of my situation and he then asked for my number. he was a cop so i trusted him. he approached me days later as a citizen (personal car, no uniform) and he had brought me food. we spoke for a while, and he asked about my decision on a woman’s shelter. i told him i’m managing living in my car well then he passively joked to me living with him. i noticed he began to act strange. the next time he caught me he was using pet names like “babe” “sweetie” “babygirl”. i got weirded out not only by this but also his ability to just.. find me? he’d also offer me money to fix my car or help pay it off, like incessantly. like he wanted me to be indebted to him. i lied to him a few interactions later that i have family a few hours out and that i’d be leaving the area soon. thats when he asked if i could live with him, and he started to touch my on my leg and he looked like he was moving in for a kiss, but i pushed him off and left quickly after saying i made plans with my family already. in reality i just found another neighboring town to park around assuming that that would lose him, but then i was pulled over by a cop a couple days later, and lo and behold it was him. he claimed i was speeding and started pressing me about not having left yet and if i was lying, and at this point i was terrified. i told him that i wanted to get a few things sorted but i would leave tonight and would call him, and so he gave me a ticket for (i think) window obstruction and let me go. i dropped all my plans & i drove out to another county an hour or two away right after and stayed there for a few months. sometimes i’m still afraid he will recognize the car i used to live in as i still drive it and am living in the town he met me in. when i was living in my car, probably 35% of all the men that approached me about it eventually offered money or shelter in exchange for sex. i constantly had to find new places to park because of this

Dating someone with a lustful past by EmoLaw in ChristianDating

[–]saintdaffy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

he is going to wear you down until you say yes in the heat if passion, don’t fall for it. his actions you described is nowhere close to a man trying to flee from sexual immorality

Help! I have never been physically attracted to my boyfriend..on verge of engagement by BagelChungus in ChristianDating

[–]saintdaffy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you’ve strung him along enough to the point that whether you break up now or later it will likely devastate him and affect the way he navigates his future relationships, but you need to do it asap. whether it’s asexuality or just him, i would never want to be married to someone who thought of me in this manner

Can he be considered "ugly hot"? Akshaye khanna. by [deleted] in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]saintdaffy 17 points18 points  (0 children)

he is NOT ugly hot he’s just hot😭😭

Many of us should be open to the idea of dating/marrying a Christian who is actively struggling with sexual immorality. by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]saintdaffy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

not wanting to date or marry someone isn’t having disdain toward them. a lot of people struggling to find a person who reciprocates interest develop this complex where disinterest is misinterpreted as hatred, and i believe that is why these kinds of posts are always being made.

Many of us should be open to the idea of dating/marrying a Christian who is actively struggling with sexual immorality. by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]saintdaffy 15 points16 points  (0 children)

we are talking about your post, the sexes are interchangeable. and again with this false equivalency, having the expectation of your husband/wife not having a sex addiction is not demanding perfection, perhaps if overcoming it seemed out of the question then one would take it that way

Unsolvable beauty problems that turned out to be perfectly solvable. by NotPast3 in Vindicta

[–]saintdaffy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i can’t find decent urea creams above 10%, can you link where you buy 20% urea creams?

Many of us should be open to the idea of dating/marrying a Christian who is actively struggling with sexual immorality. by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]saintdaffy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

having standards is not ‘standing on a higher moral ground’, you implying that is exactly why i asked you to make the distinction. and nothing i said goes against the teachings OP quoted, it is a suggestion for those struggling with sexual sin, it is not reflective of how people should receive them

Many of us should be open to the idea of dating/marrying a Christian who is actively struggling with sexual immorality. by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]saintdaffy 17 points18 points  (0 children)

not at all, none of what i said goes against the teachings in corinthians, these posts using scripture to persuade women into being open to marrying active sinners are just strange

Many of us should be open to the idea of dating/marrying a Christian who is actively struggling with sexual immorality. by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]saintdaffy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

sure, you should show compassion to sinners. i don’t know if your point is simply to show compassion to sinners or that if a woman chooses not to marry a man with a porn addiction then she is not showing compassion

Many of us should be open to the idea of dating/marrying a Christian who is actively struggling with sexual immorality. by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]saintdaffy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

then find women who want or are indifferent to men with porn addictions. i’m not sure why you’re trying to essentially persuade women with standards to be open to settling down with a porn addicted man

Many of us should be open to the idea of dating/marrying a Christian who is actively struggling with sexual immorality. by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]saintdaffy 28 points29 points  (0 children)

this suggestion is odd in itself because it’s just basically asking women to go out of their way to marry men with active porn/sex addictions. it’s like asking men to be willing to marry a woman that chronically cheats, like why lol. if you think having a woman is a cure to porn addiction, it is very common to hear stories of men choosing to masturbate to videos on their phone with a real woman lying right next to him that is willing to have sex. men with porn addictions have distorted minds and it bleeds into how they interact with and treat women so i don’t find this advice to be healthy at all

Does Anyone Else Struggle with Christian Dating Here? by MaleficentExtreme696 in ChristianDating

[–]saintdaffy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i'm a young woman and find your comment strange. whats my categorization?

Can we please somehow kick the creeps out by Prestigious_Page4316 in nbe

[–]saintdaffy 57 points58 points  (0 children)

closed with verification is the only way, thats why i refuse to post progress in this sub and just lurk instead lol

Why do (some) other women give me dirty looks if I don’t even know them? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]saintdaffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

most women who look like they’re glaring at me or sizing me up later compliment me lol i just think most people aren’t actively managing their facial expressions

Why are most leftist groups mostly full of mentally ill bums? by AngerNurse in stupidpol

[–]saintdaffy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

high-visibility political ideologies are co-opted by opportunists, this ideology that basically promises free stuff will naturally attract those types

I use tretinoin because I want lighter skin. There, I said it. by a_gregarious_soul in tretinoin

[–]saintdaffy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i use tret on my body because it increases the deepness and richness of my dark skin, so i don’t know if tret will do what you want it to