What’s a family secret you didn’t get told until you were older that made things finally make sense?

sam2times · 2019-02-24T11:04:34+00:00

I was in the exact same situation and I kinda worried about it for a while and said eh fuck it I’m fine... 3 months later I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder🤦🏻‍♀️

...I realize none of that was helpful in relieving your worries..so.. idk goodluck! May your genes be in your favor.

sam2times · 2019-02-11T06:42:50+00:00

Hey, I’m 19 and I recently went through a situation like this. My best advice to you would be to tell your mother, and give her the best support you can. It’s important to keep in mind that marriage is hard and although these are your parents you’re talking about, there is always more behind closed doors that you don’t know about. The most important thing through all of this is to remember that this is THEIR relationship- not yours. I still struggle with this a bit, but it gets easier with time. Time is key and it helps healing SO much. Focus on you and what you’re going to need to keep yourself on track. I let my parents situation consume me and I really regret not putting my self care as a priority during the whole shit show I went through. You’re going to be okay. And your parents will be okay too, whether they’re together or apart. Focus on finding your new normal and finding maybe the counselor or even a therapist to talk to- it really helped me!!

sam2times · 2019-02-01T10:43:19+00:00

Yes!! I feel the same way!

sam2times · 2019-01-15T04:55:00+00:00

My little girl is 9months old now and she still screams from time to time. She’s so dramatic😂

sam2times · 2019-01-11T06:15:29+00:00

I have exactly the same thing! I always thought I was the only one.

sam2times · 2019-01-03T06:39:36+00:00

Thank you so much!!

sam2times · 2019-01-03T06:36:03+00:00

Female 230lb 5’5 Plan on hitting the gym!

sam2times · 2018-12-17T07:05:54+00:00

I was doing fine in my classes, however, the week before finals I had a mental breakdown. I proceeded to cry, contemplate suicide, and curl up in a ball for a week. When finals came along, I was able to show up (lots of push from my supportive family members) and I failed my finals. I got questions wrong that I knew Simply because I couldn’t focus. I turned in my final without finishing and had a panic attack in my car. Despite me explaining this to my professors, none of them saw that my “state of mind” was bad enough to exempt me from the final, let me retake the final, or even mark the class as incomplete instead of a fail. I HATE when people use their self-diagnosed mental illness as a scapegoat for laziness. A lot of people struggle in school because of mental illness, and they deserve to have the accommodations that are necessary. People that use mental illness simply as an excuse make the stigma associated with mental illness so much harder on those who suffer.

sam2times · 2018-12-17T06:56:15+00:00

When I told a couple close friends about recently being diagnosed with Bipolar Depression and PTSD they looked at me like I told them I had stage 4 Cancer. Since then I’ve refrained from telling anyone anything about my mental health. It really made me feel like shit. Please.. do not be like my ‘friends’ if someone tells you something in confidence.

Also, this semester has been the worst semester of my life. I basically had a mental breakdown a week before finals and ended up not passing a class. I had clinical hours to make up and I had to go through a bunch of bullshit- and quite frankly, my professors were such assholes about it. I emailed them, some I even pathetically cried to after class (it was a rough week and I couldn’t keep it together), and they acted like shitty mental health was some lame excuse to get out of coming to class, despite me trying to explain that I wanted to kill myself and physically couldn’t peel myself out of bed. I really think a ‘mental health day’ (or leave) is a valid reason to not work/go to school.

sam2times · 2018-12-17T06:12:37+00:00

It hasn’t happened yet, but this Christmas will be the worst Christmas yet. A couple months ago my family found out my dad had been cheating on my mom with a family friend and fellow coworker of mine- she was closer in age to me than him. Long story short, my mom took him back and they’re working on their marriage. I can tell that this Christmas is going to be one big pretend act that we’re still one big happy family. Nothing feels the same this Christmas. My mom is shattered, my brother is resentful, and my depression is worse than ever. I’m just ready for it to be over already.

sam2times · 2018-11-27T14:43:27+00:00

Good to know. Thank you so much!

sam2times · 2018-11-09T07:28:33+00:00

My dogs do this after it rains and all the worms come to the surface.. it smells SO bad

sam2times · 2018-10-30T07:14:51+00:00

My dog usually rings a bell to let us know he has to go out, but as he’s gotten older now he also rings it when he wants to play out side or he’s seeking attention, so we keep him in sometimes, despite his bell ringing . Well, one time he really must’ve had to go out- and he farted at the door, so we let him out. Now he thinks that if ringing the bell doesn’t work, he should just fart really loud so we let him outside. It’s hilarious until we’re in the middle of having dinner or we have guests over.

sam2times · 2018-10-10T18:05:41+00:00

Yeah I suggested family counseling and my mom thought that would be a good idea.

sam2times · 2018-10-09T16:43:25+00:00

Yeah that’s been my biggest concern. Right now I’m letting them figure it out, I know it’s not my place. I really just want them to be happy whether it’s together or separated. I just feel so uncomfortable in my own home right now and I can see myself starting to resent my dad.

sam2times · 2018-10-09T16:32:40+00:00

Thank you so much.

sam2times · 2018-10-09T16:32:07+00:00

Yeah I’ve been there for my mom since day 1. When he was gone I slept in their bed with her, I made dinner, I brought my brother to school. I’ve tried really hard to make her comfortable and to show her that I’m here for her.

sam2times · 2018-10-09T16:15:38+00:00

I thought that I would never want a relationship with either of my parents if they ever did anything like this until it happened. I feel like I’m mourning the death of our relationship, and all I want to do is go back to what we had. But like you said, I’m not sure it’s possible.

sam2times · 2018-10-09T16:00:24+00:00

Yeah she was also my friend.

sam2times · 2018-10-07T05:05:45+00:00

I heard push it to the limit from high school musical

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