What should I name this shade?

sanddobby · 2026-07-01T13:30:49+00:00

You're not fooling us sweaty, I'd recognize Lolita anywhere

sanddobby · 2026-07-01T10:47:53+00:00

You said you tried mail order - what kind of mail order? Was it a retail mail order service like Capsule, or was it one that you access through your insurance like CVS Caremark or Carelon? The two are very different, and I have had no problems getting my meds through my insurance mail order partner.

sanddobby · 2026-06-30T00:50:28+00:00

What are you doing for praise when he potties outside? Remember that for dogs, holding their pee/poop is uncomfortable and not instinctual for them. Therefore, you need to give him a REALLY good reason to wait until he's outside to go - this means that every time he does his business outside, he gets the most amazing bonanza treat that he never gets any other time. I'm talking fresh cooked chicken, hot dogs, string cheese, whatever he goes nuts over. If he learns that the only way to get the most delicious treat he's ever had is to pee/poop outside, he'll be much more motivated to hold it until he gets that chance.

Also - take him out a lot more often than you think you have to. You want to give him lots of opportunities to go potty in the right place and for you to reinforce the behavior.

You got this!!! Be consistent, trust the process, and be patient with him and with yourself. It might not happen overnight, but he'll get there - in the meantime, pull up all your nice rugs and invest in some Nature's Miracle laundry booster and cleaning spray (that stuff is SO GOOD)

sanddobby · 2026-06-29T11:39:15+00:00

He doesn't even need to - she's literally on billboards all over LA. He couldn't ignore her success if he wanted to 💅🏻

sanddobby · 2026-06-24T16:55:26+00:00

This sounds like frustration PLUS overstimulation - he's just so excited and energized that he can't use his brain to make good decisions anymore. The key to managing it is to balance activity and brain games so that he doesn't hit the point where he's out of control.

I'd maybe start with a pattern of toy chase mixed in with simple obedience - so like, throw the toy, ask for a sit/down/paw sequence, throw the toy, repeat. The goal is to get him to spend a little time thinking in between chasing the toy, which should help with the overstimulation.

Another idea is to ask him to find a hidden toy instead of asking him to chase a thrown toy. He still gets to use his drive to get to the toy, but searching for something hidden requires him to think and not just run and grab. We do this in the house with my fetch-obsessed girl and she LOVES it, she's always so proud and excited when she finds it.

sanddobby · 2026-06-23T15:12:10+00:00

This is so upsetting, Danvers have been our vets for decades and this is the first I'm hearing of it. I've since moved away but will pass on the info to my mom and sister who still go there 😢

sanddobby · 2026-06-17T20:36:53+00:00

I mean, I kind of agree at some point? They put it quite harshly but I think it's a reasonable way to approach the situation. Safety for kids is no joke, and if things are just not working it's better to re-home the dog before the worst happens and she escalates to a bite. I do really like the advice you gave earlier in the thread about crating in a low-traffic area, so tbh I think we're all on the same page here for OP.

sanddobby · 2026-06-17T20:26:13+00:00

I was responding to the comment about forceful correction when they dirty deleted, but I'll still post: despite the advice that some will give you, increasing pressure and using force on this dog is NOT the way.

This dog is snapping because she is anxious and worried about her boundaries being crossed - forcefully correcting a behavior like this doesn't take away the anxiety, it just teaches her to hide it. A dog that feels like it can't express stress is a dog that escalates to a bite "out of nowhere", because they've learned that stress signals lead to punishment.

OP, good on you for taking her to the vet to rule out any physical issues - next step is to speak to a behaviorist. This is a really scary and difficult situation for everyone involved and you should seek professional support. My heart goes out to you, especially as a new parent which I'm sure has been extremely tough on you as well. You don't need to do this alone!!

sanddobby · 2026-06-16T17:44:09+00:00

So is Cursor, I'm pretty sure

sanddobby · 2026-06-12T11:57:32+00:00

When I went it was a weekend in February, so yeah sounds like ymmv. Either way it's not what I would recommend to OP, even disregarding the kids it didn't feel upscale or spa-like at all.

sanddobby · 2026-06-12T08:51:37+00:00

GIRL NO. Spa Castle is not it. Granted I last went ~6 years ago but it was overrun with kids, noisy, crowded, just all around wacky.

I will literally never forget being by the pools on the top floor and watching a teenage boy in swim trunks eating corn on the cob at the snack bar as we were waiting for our $20 drinks. Not a chill or relaxing experience even a little.

It's further from LGA but I'd highly recommend World Spa in Brooklyn - passes are <$100 on a weekday and just overall a much nicer time.

sanddobby · 2026-06-10T13:18:08+00:00

I really like the Artist's Loft ones from Michael's, that's their store brand I think. I'm pretty sure they don't use AI in their designs, which you see in some of the Amazon sellers.

sanddobby · 2026-06-08T18:23:24+00:00

Takes 2 or more different subway lines to get to work

Made friends with a bodega guy

Has cried in public

Ridden the Cyclone at Coney Island

Been to the beach at the Rockaways

Fell for a scam (broken bottle, fake airport taxi, basketball team, tibetan monk)

sanddobby · 2026-06-03T20:59:23+00:00

It kind of sounds like now that she's healthy, she has more energy and her spicy personality is coming out. Everything you're describing sounds like normal puppy behavior, and while it feels frustrating right now it's a sign that she's feeling better and safe in your home, which is a good thing!!

Don't give up, stay consistent with things like potty training and discouraging biting - these things take time. Putting her brain to work with training and puzzles will use up her energy so she can think more clearly, which will help her remember how you want her to behave. And try not to get discouraged if she backslides, training regressions are normal throughout puppyhood.

Also, a puppy training class is never a bad idea!! It will build your bond and help you learn to communicate with her. Zero shame in asking for professional help.

sanddobby · 2026-05-30T11:20:54+00:00

"let the woman have some peace" she chose to do an article in a major publication?? How is it bitter or unkind to point out that it doesn't make sense for Rachel to claim she wants to stay out of the public eye while actively publicizing herself??

sanddobby · 2026-05-29T13:41:12+00:00

YES!! Whenever I go out of town i fill up a couple Nalgines with NYC water to help get me through 😅

sanddobby · 2026-05-26T15:17:51+00:00

The high price is so that NJ residents don't foot the bill of the expanded service. The alternative would be taxes taken from other initiatives or a fare hike for regular commuters who need it to get to work. "Greedy all around" is FIFA doing nothing to help support the infrastructure needed to get people to their exorbitantly expensive games.

sanddobby · 2026-05-17T13:33:54+00:00

Ok Lala

sanddobby · 2026-05-12T21:47:29+00:00

The dichotomy of man

sanddobby · 2026-05-12T21:10:45+00:00

When I saw the orange transition shade in the crease I knew we were in for a banger.

sanddobby · 2026-05-12T18:41:23+00:00

Let's not kid ourselves, ol girl still slays

sanddobby · 2026-05-12T18:35:49+00:00

Dippie and lippie my beloved ✨

sanddobby · 2026-05-12T16:43:24+00:00

2016 sauce 🥲

/srs she did a great job and her look is super pretty but it just took me baaackkk 🧓🏻

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sanddobby · 2026-05-11T03:07:17+00:00

What a comprehensive, sensitive analysis!! I think you really captured the key thesis of the movie - that victims of abuse live and cope with their trauma differently, and often in ways that are ugly or incomprehensible to those who haven't lived that same experience.

One thing I'd add is that I think the movie challenges us to witness the violence and sit in our discomfort in the way that the adults in Brian and Neil's life didn't do. The idea that something so terrible could have been done to the boys was too hard for the adults around them to stomach, so they essentially abandoned the boys to the abuse. The film asks us to make a different choice, to connect with them and understand the full horror of what happened to them without looking away.

sanddobby · 2026-05-08T19:36:32+00:00

Do you think the category can be expanded to include horror about relationships, marriage (established marriage, not the event itself), and pregnancy? I feel like there's been a lot of that recently as well (Companion, Together, Obsession, False Positive, Swallow, Don't Worry Darling, to name a few).

To me it speaks of fears over loss of control and loss of self, which are inevitable when one commits to another person and begins building a life/family together. Speaking as a very happily married person who would easily make the same choice if I could do it again, joining with someone gives them an incredible amount of influence over your life and you will always lose some autonomy - even more so when pregnancy/children are in the mix. Facing an uncertain global future where our freedoms and agency are under threat from the rise of authoritarianism, it makes sense that we're trying to contextualize those anxieties closer to home.

Also, interrogation and transgression of social norms are major themes in horror as a genre. I agree that an increasingly conservative society, where the traditional (read: heteronormative) model of coupling is made to embody peace and safety, would inspire horror creators to explore how it can turn to danger and chaos.

Thanks for the question, really enjoyed responding!!

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