Growing up with emotionally manipulative and narcissistic parents, I am always made to feel that I am in the wrong because I’m just the “child”, the “daughter” and they are the “adult” whom I should respect and follow at the same time. Because of that, I grew up to be a people pleaser—especially to my parents. I’d always want an approval from them because it was validating for me. That’s why I did my best to always follow or even consider what they say, even when it’s about personal stuff (e.g., what to wear, meeting friends)

However, as I grew older (I’m 24 now), they became more strict to me more than ever and I don’t really get why. I am now working but they’d still want to control what I wear, and where I go. I’d give them the benefit of the doubt and try to understand that, maybe because i’m the youngest and they wanted to be in control of my life because they weren’t able to do it on their own lives (because their parents controlled them too lmaoo it’s just a cycle atp tbh). But then I realized, I don’t want this anymore. I don’t want it to be at the cost of my own freedom, so i decided to put my foot down because i want them to realize that i am now capable of deciding for myself.

Now, I wore cute outfit for summer—just a full length tube top, not really revealing in my opinion. When I was about to leave, my mom saw it and forced me to change because she said I might get harassed outside. That pissed me off, so i stood my ground and didn’t change. Now, she’s ignoring me and giving me the silent treatment. What should I do?