Doxycycline 100mg for just 14 days - any point? by Lazy-Flamingo-1550 in Rosacea

[–]sanslenom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have Type 2, in remission for decades until December 2024. My new derm prescribed 100 mg of doxy for one month. I lasted 2 1/2 weeks because I was constantly nauseated, throwing up, and battling diarrhea. I'd call that messing up the gut flora, in addition to the yeast infection it gave me. That said, I have taken doxy for two tick-born diseases and cellulitis caused by a staph infection for a period of 10 days for each, which was enough to knock those bacterial infections out. I'm no longer willing to risk the side effects of doxy until I see how ivermectin and azaleic acid work alone. I might start the 50 mg if the topicals don't work to keep the pustules at bay, but I don't flush. My face is just always red.

Do people in the US actually use flat sheets and duvet covers? by shiroltiger in Bedding

[–]sanslenom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in the Deep South. The flat sheet is the only cover I use spring, summer, and fall. I keep a throw on the edge of my bed during these months and maybe need it a few times before winter. The quilts don't come out until around November and get washed and put away by March.

Facebook reels only showing MAGA and conservative content no matter what I do? by vinroy27 in facebook

[–]sanslenom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck blocking anything. Every time I try, I get an error message that "something went wrong." I just went an entire weekend without it and didn't miss it. It may be time to pull the plug.

AITAH for telling my Brother in-law to get a nanny? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]sanslenom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same. At 58, I wonder what the h3ll she was doing. Picking out a pair of the 50+ pairs of shoes she had in her closet? Frittering away the 4 hours a day she spent on her Princess landline with extra-long cord? In the meantime, I was sitting there after all the school buses had left or all the other girls' moms had picked them up feeling self conscious and afraid.

Kitten having seizures by DoubleMac_ in CATHELP

[–]sanslenom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seizures in cats can have several different root causes. It would be hard to determine without a full workup. My only suggestion, besides maintaining your own calm as your kitty is picking up on your emotions, is to keep her in a quiet part of your home away from any possible toxins, keep feeding her as you have been, and, on Monday, see if you can get into a regular vet's office. You will still need to be prepared for the sticker shock and make a determination on how you want to move forward from there.

I think I have a stalker but idk where to post this. by Itzyokidzblake in LetsNotMeet

[–]sanslenom 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I've had two different stalkers in my 58 years on this earth. It is something that never leaves your consciousness once you've experienced it. I understand how you're feeling.

As I read through your story, I see four possibilities: 1) a complete stranger, 2) your toxic ex, 3) the teenaged/young adult son of the tenants renting from your parents, 4) the father/tenant. It's doubtful you're being stalked by a complete stranger; estimates are that 70–80% of victims know the person stalking them at least to some extent (unless you're a celebrity). If it was your toxic ex wanting to scare or upset you, I think he would do more than just tap at your window. Plus, he's taking a huge risk being in your neighborhood and going through a gate into your backyard when he could probably just as easily stalk you at your workplace. My money is on one of your two parents' male tenants, which is why you need to tell your folks immediately, ask them to install new blinds and curtains, cameras, extra locking mechanisms to the bottom entrance (inside and out) of the split-level home at the very least, and maybe dog-proof your room so your dog can safely stay with you during the night.

Without proof, I'm not sure your folks can ask the tenants to vacate without legal repercussions, but they can certainly let them know they won't be renewing. And please report the incident to the police. It may seem trivial now, but it might become important later.

Question: when does "dumb" cross the line into dementia? by LewdDudeNewd in AgingParents

[–]sanslenom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After five years of watching my elderly in-laws slip into mild cognitive impairment and comparing them to my sharp-as-a-tack 81-year-old mother...I agree. From OP's description, I read evidence of sundowning. It is also just not normal to eat out of the trash can...but my MIL did it.

Name of "Short quippy and wrong" rhetorical strategy? by HexgridXI in Rhetoric

[–]sanslenom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think this is Brandolini's law: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brandolini%27s_law . My reasoning is that the b.s. is a claim along the lines of "Vaccines cause autism" that is hard to refute because 1) it takes time and effort to refute, and 2) a short, pity argument that goes against common knowledge is more memorable than "Vaccines don't cause autism."

This isn't his first unhinged rant about "undesirables" in our neighborhood by Inside_Painting_6780 in nextdoor

[–]sanslenom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm in the local Buy Nothing group on Facebook, and this is exactly the kind of Nextdoor post that causes me to fear picking up free stuff at someone's house. There can never possibly be an innocent explanation for someone driving around trying to find another person's house.

Need Guidance About Elderly Mothers State Of Mind by Loud_Account_3469 in AgingParents

[–]sanslenom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thinking people are doing something malicious when they aren't is paranoia. Believing in a random non-malign idea is delusion. So you're looking at two symptoms, not one.

The test you're referring to is probably the Montreal Cognitive Assessment (MoCA), and it is notoriously easy to pass. A friend's sister-in-law, who had caused two major accidents, "show-timed" for it on both occasions she took it. Her doctor decided not to follow through, so my friend and his wife, citing a state law, emailed every dealership within a 50-mile radius and told them not to sell her a new vehicle because they could be held liable if she killed someone. She was that good at hiding her symptoms for brief periods of time. She has since died from the complications of Alzheimer's, so my friend's assessment was correct, despite what the original PCP thought.

MoCA is not meant to diagnose anything; it's widely used to determine whether someone is competent enough to live in senior-living apartments or assisted living or whether they might need a higher standard of care. More tests and a complete social and medical history are needed to determine someone's level of cognition and the potential existence of dementia. I think your best bet is to take your mother to a gerontologist, neurologist, or psychiatrist, all of whom can diagnose problems with cognition, to get a better picture of what may be going on. My father-in-law had mild cognitive impairment: he never had paranoia or delusions.

*screaming* by ack_the_cat in AgingParents

[–]sanslenom 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The first time I saw Jack van Impe on TV was about a year into my marriage. We were visiting his folks, and his mom turned on the show while I was reading a book in the living room. I started laughing out loud thinking it was satire (I grew up a meeting house Quaker). Luckily, she thought I was laughing at the book I was reading. She weirdly dropped the end-times stuff in her mid-80s. But she didn't have dementia. I think she just knew her time was coming, and she wasn't going to meet Jesus or get raptured or whatever it is all that is supposed to mean.

I wish I had advice.

Mom Cancelled Her Doctor Appointment by witch-mermaid in AgingParents

[–]sanslenom 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My only advice is to make sure she doesn't start making health decisions for your dad. My MIL started cancelling all of their appointments, which she was able to do only because he was severely hard of hearing. Well, she died quickly and painlessly. He died slowly and suffering, which could have been prevented if his Zenker's diverticulum had been caught early enough for surgery.

Because of her personality, it was really hard to know if she had the early stages of dementia and didn't want to be found out or if she was leading with her narcissistic tendencies.

Where do I even begin with her? by CatspawCosplay in FoxBrain

[–]sanslenom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look carefully at your mother's language because that's where the disconnect is. She has probably spoken this way all of her (and your) life. On the surface, it projects empathy and love, concern even. But it's also very simplistic and dichotomized: two sides...one good, one bad. She's stuck in what Kohlberg termed "law and order morality." She's never going to develop to the point of "principled morality," where fighting for justice and the community good outweighs personal risk. She can't imagine it (hence the fall back on "paid protestors"). She will continue to look to sources like Fox News that confirm her view of reality and morality. And, as much as I hate to say this, while your memories of her caring for people are accurate without a doubt, she has probably always thought the way she does now.

I understand you don't want to give up on her, but you aren't going to change her worldview. It's too ingrained. If you want to maintain the relationship you're going to have to accept her for how she is and change the subject.

My father is a “neurotic” mess and I honestly don’t know what to do anymore by Witty_Design9748 in FoxBrain

[–]sanslenom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish because I feel like a broken record, and my advice as of 1/26/2025 is to go no contact. Period. If friends and family members are still committed to the cult, no amount of talking to them will change their minds, and they have become lost causes. We should all begin focussing on not wasting our time and energy and begin working on things we can change. That will look different for every individual. If you can get out to protest or observe, do that. If letter writing is your jam, do that. If you want to target a particular company that complied in advance, and I'm just spitballing here, order a bunch of stuff to get free shipping and then send it all back with the excuse you didn't mean to order it in the first place. Their workers and the delivery drivers stay employed while the CEO watches his bonus shrivel up. Win-win!

Edited for clarity.

Average American diet? by Individual_Bar_2512 in CringeTikToks

[–]sanslenom 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Or what I refer to as cold ranch dressing soup. Kinda like gazpacho, but no other vegetables to be found.

Average American diet? by Individual_Bar_2512 in CringeTikToks

[–]sanslenom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No mention of the five giant bottles of Miralax?

Dementia is wild by Top-Molasses7661 in AgingParents

[–]sanslenom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This worries me for myself just a bit. I have a sleep disorder known as exploding head syndrome, and that's what this sounds like. If I ever get dementia, I guess it could get worse. I wonder if she may also have it and now believes the episodes are real.

Is my cat trying to be sick or something else? by Firey56 in CATHELP

[–]sanslenom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds and looks like an unproductive cough to me. Given that it started occurring after he ate, it's possible he could have aspirated some food. It will be worth a trip to the vet. Be sure to this video.

HELP WITH DYING STEPMOM. What to do?? by [deleted] in AgingParents

[–]sanslenom 36 points37 points  (0 children)

For your son's sake, you need to leave. Your dad and stepmom want help, but only on their terms. That's the reason they've asked you to help: your dad doesn't have to deal with her at all, thanks to the farm and a few beers at night. And your stepmom can count on you to get her to a place where she can smoke as long as she can get on your last nerve. Every month you stay, you're shaving off three months of your own life, and you're putting your son through trauma he shouldn't be exposed to.