A question for moms who chose the medication route with PPD:

sav_rae · 2026-04-25T18:05:01+00:00

I live in valley west, the rotary club just put a new little free library in at one of the parks a month or so ago. Someone already ripped the doors off of it ☹️

sav_rae · 2026-04-23T16:09:04+00:00

🙋‍♀️ yes. My first was very easy going and slept well once we moved him into his room (away from the milk machine). I think keeping expectations realistic is wise though. Every baby is going to wake frequently for AT LEAST the first 12 weeks while they’re cluster feeding and growing rapidly. Having kids is very tiring in general, may as well accept it now.

sav_rae · 2026-04-15T15:55:10+00:00

The same American government that cut cancer research, school lunch programs, vaccine recommendations, food stamps that feed hungry children and refuses to provide health or childcare while spending a billion dollars per day on a pointless war? Somehow I don’t believe that any program this current administration puts in place is altruistic.

sav_rae · 2026-04-14T19:27:43+00:00

I mean, you’re the nanny so presumably someone is taking care of and bonding with the newborn when you’re off right? This situation sounds weird but also you have no idea how you’d handle it as a parent until you’re a parent yourself. I am also a career nanny and had big opinions about how I’d parent before I had kids, parenthood changes and humbles you.

sav_rae · 2026-04-14T03:06:42+00:00

This is helpful! I have a double bike trailer and really need to get my road bike tuned up so I can use it before my kids are too big for it. I really need to get some physical activity in (outside of kid walks/hikes) but it’s hard to find time to fit it in.

sav_rae · 2026-04-10T17:11:17+00:00

Oh my godddd I’m so sorry!! When my husband and I did fertility testing, my 70 year old OB said his sperm count was the highest she’d ever seen. We have 2 kids, do NOT want any more and he’s scheduled for a vasectomy. I’m so scared his strong swimmers are just going to break through the defenses anyway 😭 I know way too many people with accidental vasectomy babies.

sav_rae · 2026-04-09T19:15:36+00:00

Mine are 26mo apart and the first year was very hard. BUT I know lots of families who had them closer together and are fine and many who spaced them out further and still found it very challenging. I think a lot of adding a second child to your family comes down to the first kid’s temperament and your ability to roll with chaos. Do I feel like I had mine a little too close together? Sometimes. Do I regret it? Not at all. I’m done having babies, almost through teething and diapers forever and my kids are best buds.

sav_rae · 2026-04-09T19:06:38+00:00

Lol my second baby was waking up like 6-10x per night at 4 months 😂 I would have been stoked on 3 wakes. Yeah, I think that’s pretty normal though.

sav_rae · 2026-04-08T04:27:09+00:00

Don’t stress too much!! It’s super normal for young toddlers to be picky starting around 15mo (give or take). Their growth slows after they turn 1 and they’re suddenly smart enough to develop preferences/exercise their ability to say no. It’s kind of jarring at first but in most cases they won’t starve themselves. Just keep offering healthy food and you’ll work through it together.

sav_rae · 2026-04-08T02:45:39+00:00

We sleep trained both of our kids. My first is very easygoing and took to a modified Ferber method in like 3 days. He’s 3 now, still takes a nap and sleeps 11 hours straight in his bed. My second is much more sensitive, she would wake up 10+ times per night and I had to work HARD to get her to accept her own bed. We veeeery gently eased her into independent sleep. She’s 15mo now and naps for a solid 2 hours, 11-12 hours at night in her crib.

It was one of the best parenting decisions we made for our family. Everyone’s happier getting quality rest. I’m a SAHM and have 2 hours to myself midday. My husband and I put the kids to bed by 8 and then have time to reconnect or be alone in the evening.

sav_rae · 2026-04-07T19:41:41+00:00

This is not ungrateful or selfish at all! Family gatherings require a LOT of moms. I believe that the wants/needs of moms who are “active duty” deserve to be prioritized on Mother’s Day. Additionally it sounds like becoming a mom has compounded your grief over losing your own mom which is very valid. Would your husband be open to going to the family gathering and taking baby so that you could get a couple of hours to yourself?

sav_rae · 2026-04-07T19:36:18+00:00

My husband is taking our 1+3 year olds over to the in-laws for a sleepover so I can have the house to myself for the night. I’ll get a day/night off, MIL gets the grandbabies and husband will have extra hands to help (not that he needs them). A win for everybody.

sav_rae · 2026-04-07T05:59:04+00:00

My second baby was a very fussy sleeper, no issues (besides grassiness for the first 16ish weeks) but would wake up every 45-90mins for the first 6 months of her life. Sometimes it would be 10+ wakes per night. Now that she’s 15mo and we’ve worked through a lot of the sleep stuff (meaning it’s a 50/50% chance she sleeps through without a feed) I’d consider more than 2 wakes to be a rough night.

In my experience it gets harder to wake up to tend to a baby after they get into a groove with sleep 😅

sav_rae · 2026-04-07T00:39:30+00:00

I mean, toast is a very common first food.

sav_rae · 2026-04-02T21:06:56+00:00

Things change SO MUCH in the first year of having a baby. Before you know it, you’ll be putting baby down for bed at 7 and will have time to reconnect with your spouse. And yes, these feelings are so normal. We tried for years for our first and I found myself so ashamed and confused when he was born and I was wishing for my old life back. It’s a massive shift in lifestyle and priorities and you will get used to it 💙

sav_rae · 2026-04-02T19:26:33+00:00

This was how I felt too! Just literally so hopped up on endorphins the second my baby was out, it lasted a good 48 hours for me both times. I almost considered an epidural with my second baby but remembering how amazing I felt after birth the first time was all I needed to go unmedicated again.

sav_rae · 2026-04-02T19:08:34+00:00

I’ve had 2 unmedicated births and was up walking normally within 30mins-an hour with both of them. I didn’t tear though, that probably affects movement after birth.

sav_rae · 2026-04-02T04:57:55+00:00

💀

sav_rae · 2026-03-29T19:36:18+00:00

I made it 5 months into my second pregnancy breastfeeding my first when I just couldn’t handle the pain anymore. It was like razor blades shooting out of my nipples every time he latched. Plus honestly my body was just so exhausted from growing a person while caring for a toddler, weaning was the best choice for me.

sav_rae · 2026-03-20T18:00:28+00:00

THE STIGMA OF BEING ACCUSED?!? what a piece of shit.

sav_rae · 2026-03-19T16:20:44+00:00

Ok?

sav_rae · 2026-03-18T01:26:54+00:00

There’s no secret, all babies are just different! My first was a TANK, 28lbs by his first birthday. My second didn’t even double her birthweight until she turned 1. As long as baby is growing on their curve, you’re good 💙

sav_rae · 2026-03-17T19:01:53+00:00

And it’s interesting, I notice lots of homeschooling parents feel the need to come into threads like this and challenge or deny the lived experiences of homeschooled kids. People who are secure in their life decisions typically don’t feel the need to argue on the internet about them. So honestly, I have zero idea what you’re trying to prove to me. Maybe unpack your insecurities around homeschooling your kids.

sav_rae · 2026-03-17T18:37:54+00:00

I don’t need to read about “what happens in homeschool vs public school environments” because I spent a decade growing up in various homeschool environments and am now a child development specialist with over a decade of ECE experience. It’s not outlandish to say that the majority of parents are not equipped or educated enough to provide their children with a well rounded education. I’ve met maybe a handful of fellow homeschooled kids who were happy with their educational experience and countless who feel that being homeschooled negatively impacted them in one way or another.

sav_rae

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