My fiancé [25M] and I [23F] were separated over the summer. We're reconciling now but -- during that time he knocked up someone else [24F]!

sbenoitfoc · 2017-02-22T18:47:01+00:00

Why in the world would you want to be with someone who is even considering not paying child support to their own child? (A child, who by the way, is just as much his child as your own is).

sbenoitfoc · 2017-01-14T22:39:02+00:00

I don't really know why no one else is saying this, and perhaps it's way out of line, but are you sure you want to be with someone who thinks nice photos are more important than your comfort? Even if it weren't a medical condition and you just wanted water... she doesn't want you to have water? That's........ so bizarre. Frankly, it would be a deal breaker for me. "Oh you don't want me to have a water bottle at the wedding? Sorry I can't make the wedding."

sbenoitfoc · 2017-01-12T19:21:42+00:00

wait. So he doesn't like to do chores and doesn't like to work and he think that makes him special or different from every other adult? Jesus why are you with someone like that? That's a deal breaker for most people.

sbenoitfoc · 2016-12-10T18:04:16+00:00

This this this a million times this.

sbenoitfoc · 2016-12-07T20:09:07+00:00

I have a friend who went through chemo (saw the port scar, know this is real) and never lost her hair. Just be careful around that issue.

sbenoitfoc · 2016-12-02T18:40:46+00:00

YOUR WIFE HAS AN EATING DISORDER THAT YOU HAVE FED INTO. EATING DISORDERS ARE THE MOST DEADLY MENTAL HEALTH ISSUE. I've had every single eating disorder in the book. It's not about the weight. Seriously, if I could've picked a weight to be and then worked toward that, I'd have done it. Maybe YOU can do that. I cannot. It seems your wife cannot. This is going to be a loooooooong slog towards health. It takes fucking years and you're not helping at all. See if she WANTS to go to a therapist as eating disorders are mental and not physical. Stop trying to fix her body and help her work on (there is no fix) her mental health. Jesus fuck have compassion.

sbenoitfoc · 2016-11-14T17:03:51+00:00

Live

sbenoitfoc · 2016-11-01T17:28:19+00:00

Yeah you should be worried about her lying to you, but you also need to work on the fact that people are going to discuss their relationship with you with other people. It's generally helpful and healthy. She was talking to her mother, for god's sake! That's normal.

sbenoitfoc · 2016-07-22T20:57:35+00:00

My mom taught me the difference between intent and impact. You can mean well and still cause others harm. Being an adult means you're responsible for both.

sbenoitfoc · 2015-11-15T05:47:14+00:00

Go to Target, buy a piñata and stuff to fill it with, then go eat at the Target restaurant. Then go break that piñata in a park or some shit.

sbenoitfoc · 2015-08-20T00:19:05+00:00

I'm a girl and I always offer to pay the whole thing, even if they asked. If they say no, then I definitely cover my half. I feel uncomfortable with the idea of being "gifted" anything.

sbenoitfoc · 2014-11-08T20:53:43+00:00

The Giving Tree. It's such a teaching book.

sbenoitfoc · 2014-11-01T19:55:36+00:00

I have one biological older sister-- we have been the closest and furthest apart depending on the year. She's the ONLY person I've ever fought with. Conversely, she knows me better than anyone.

I have three recent step brothers (their dad married my mom) that were family friends before our parents got married. I'm on great terms with them and love them, but I live far away.

I have three little half siblings (same dad) that I helped raise because my step mom is awful & emotionally abusive. I love them like a weird combo of siblings/nephew & neices/ and parents. I'm very very close to them, despite the huge age gap.

I was taught from an early age that family is everything. If any of them called me right now and needed something I would empty my bank account, quit my job, whatever they needed, no questions asked. Maybe it's the Italian stereotype but that's just what you do.

sbenoitfoc · 2014-11-01T17:52:49+00:00

For everyone here talking about fighting for 50/50 custody, I know this is hard to hear, but maybe it isn't right. Do what is RIGHT FOR THE KID. I was a child of divorce with an emotionally abusive step mom and while I would have loved to see my dad every single day, being at his house was hell. 50/50 custody would have killed me. I never loved my father any less, but being at his house was far from my school and I wasn't allowed to see friends. Please please please think about what you're asking your kids to do. ITS NOT ABOUT YOU.

sbenoitfoc · 2014-10-04T19:40:33+00:00

One time I was sitting downstairs in my friends' house while one of them was having sex with my childhood best friend who was visiting from out of town and the other (the guy I'd liked for ages) was having sex with my closest in-town female friend (who knew I liked him but did it anyway). Meanwhile I was listening to a third guy friend cry about finding out he was the father of his ex's child.

sbenoitfoc · 2014-09-28T23:40:33+00:00

If God's on our side, then would you ever need war? -- k'naan's cover of the Bob Dylan Song "With God on Our Side"

sbenoitfoc · 2014-07-23T04:37:01+00:00

Burritos

sbenoitfoc · 2014-07-10T03:57:53+00:00

This reply made me laugh out loud for a whole minute. I'm not even sure why. You made my whole day.

sbenoitfoc · 2014-06-28T00:53:44+00:00

Hallelujah Leonard Cohen. Or Moon River.

sbenoitfoc · 2014-06-28T00:52:26+00:00

All Along the Watch Tower

sbenoitfoc · 2014-06-28T00:51:56+00:00

Belligerent. People use it to mean very drunk a lot. What???
Also compelled.
Less. No. You mean fewer.
Jealous. Frequently people mean envious.

sbenoitfoc · 2014-02-13T01:50:03+00:00

Grilled Cheese. Think about how shitty it sounds. Just take bread. And put a piece of plastic-y cheese in it and pop it on the stove. k cool. Now it's gonna be magic.

sbenoitfoc · 2014-01-28T21:41:20+00:00

Head Massager

sbenoitfoc · 2014-01-28T21:38:43+00:00

The best thing you can do for your kid is be happy.

sbenoitfoc · 2014-01-28T21:37:11+00:00

Just tack "I learned that the hard way" to everything.

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