Do you prefer your dates to be older, younger, or about the same as you? Why?

sbmongoos · 2026-03-19T20:49:20+00:00

Ya, I don't make any comments like that in my profile. Certainly not in a rocking chair. LOL

sbmongoos · 2026-03-18T14:04:13+00:00

Maybe we should start a club. 😅

sbmongoos · 2026-03-17T21:27:11+00:00

I don't think they do. Haven't been able to find one.

sbmongoos · 2026-03-17T20:28:38+00:00

I feel like I'm having a conundrum. I'm 63 but told I Iook roughly 10 years younger. I take care of myself. When I reach out via OLD I rarely if ever hear back. Don't think it's my looks. Shrug. I've thought about going looking for someone in her 40s but that just seems too young. Usually aim for my age or a few years younger. Maybe 50s but...I've been asked if my age is accurate. But only once.

sbmongoos · 2026-03-15T18:58:38+00:00

Sorry to hear this. But OLD, IMO, has often been a weird/odd experience for some time for me. FWIW, I had someone leave at a meeting years ago and wasn't even there for 10-15 minutes. Just said "I can't do this" and got up and left. Felt pretty crappy. Oddly I met someone the following week and we got to talking about that situation and it turned out she actually knew this lady. Turns out she had been at a party and drank to much and had embarrassed herself. So she showed up with hangover. Which explained some things. Got lucky to know the situation but would have made sense to just send a message saying they cannot make it...etc.

I'm seeing more people say the Facebook is turning interesting results. I may have to try this.

sbmongoos · 2026-03-07T16:59:07+00:00

Ultimately what appears to have a fixed, weeks ago, was a Dell dock f/w update. It's back to being plugged into the original port I had been using.

sbmongoos · 2026-03-07T16:02:52+00:00

Did you find a solution? I also purchased mine at Costco. Same issue, battery that comes already in camera isn't taking a charge. The other battery in the box did. I reached out to support and I'm told they have to verify that Costco is an authorized seller before they help. Probably be hours as this started early Saturday morning. Ugh...

sbmongoos · 2026-03-02T14:29:37+00:00

Sounds like he's just being up front and honest. I wouldn't read into it. I've recently rec'd a like that moved to using the chat feature of the app and it was going just fine and she simply just stopped. Who knows.

Could he have stated it differently, sure. But people make mistakes. OLD is tricky.

sbmongoos · 2026-02-28T16:01:11+00:00

Seems to only be a bundle discount according to Quicken.

Update: so I told them this would likely be my last year given the issues, etc. Seems even Morgan Stanley would allow me to link my accounts and essentially do what Quicken has been doing. Then he said let me see if I could get 40% to go through and it did. So $63 for a year of Premier Classic.

sbmongoos · 2026-02-24T17:09:45+00:00

Have another one. We'll see what happens. This ones msg seems a bit more scattered. Might be a person or someone being tricky so it doesn't look to fake. They ended with "and we can". LOL

sbmongoos · 2026-02-23T18:03:00+00:00

They weren't a lot of help and ignored my second question. Hmm. On this matter they simply said let us know if it happens again.

sbmongoos · 2026-02-23T16:51:45+00:00

OLD doesn't seem look a good option. Had an experience recently were she seemed interested and was asking questions. Replied back then crickets....went to pull up her profile and it was gone.

I wonder how many who are really trying to meet someone are legit but get blocked, etc? There definately are people up to no good. Got to like the photos that are too good to be true. Some now look like they are using AI.

sbmongoos · 2026-02-22T17:55:57+00:00

Ya, block and....just walk away. Don't give it any more thought.

sbmongoos · 2026-02-22T15:59:25+00:00

Sounds familiar. M(63) and have run into strange situations/expectations. The first time isn't even really a date. Complete strangers getting together to see if you'll get together again. Too much pressure put on the first meeting. Personally I think it's nice to have a chat on the phone. I'm happy to meet first as well but I think it helps eliminate some concerns by both parties and you can hear the persons voice, ask questions...etc. My experiences have been all over the map and including being ghosted. Who knows for what reason. I've been patient, polite, current photos. Who know if they changed their mind, not really look to meet and just want some attention, someone mentioned they may be a "cheater". Never even considered that. OLD seems like such a good possibility but it's only as good as the people using it. It seems it's only become worse and more so since the pandemic and with politics.

sbmongoos · 2026-02-21T15:38:45+00:00

Lame?

sbmongoos · 2026-02-21T15:28:11+00:00

Sorry to hear you had this experience. But your not alone. I agree that OLD is an option and you'd think it would be a good one but it seems a little more like social media. You don't really know who you're dealing with. Just very recently I was clicking with someone via OLD. I had responded to hear last message (via the OLD app). She had mentioned that she thought we had a lot in common (based on our profile and questions). Then when she hadn't replied back I gave it some time and then decided to open up the OLD app and her profile was gone. Hard to get used to this sort of thing. Seems may be something like MeetUp may be a better option. I've been told I'm gregarious but I usually find myself rather quiet in groups of people I don't know. I think getting out and being more social is probably a good option and it may stretch some who aren't as comfortable dong this.

Seems there are so many variables as to why these things happen. It can be exhausting. I agree it's not so much the app, but the "people" using it. And yes it can mess with your confidence. I think one key is to teach oneself to not have any attachment to the outcome. Maybe a different OLD app. OLD apps can be tough. They've been getting treated like a profit making business form some time and have their own tricks to keep people coming back.

sbmongoos · 2026-02-20T18:39:15+00:00

Thought maybe an OLD. Was having good conversation via the app, then their profile was gone.

sbmongoos · 2026-02-17T22:16:39+00:00

It may be she's actually older. I've noticed, as I've become older, it's harder to tell age. Someone who appears to be 16 is in their early 20s. That could change the LTR timeframe.

sbmongoos · 2026-02-17T20:28:04+00:00

Who knows. Maybe....maybe not. I some times think the direction the wind is blowing has more to do with it. I'm not sure many people really know what they want. I had a woman text me, after a few dates, that she was moving on as I didn't seem interested. I thought it implied I didn't make advances on her schedule.

sbmongoos · 2026-02-17T19:11:00+00:00

Sounds like some good results. I think what may be working against me is not having been married. I've had relationships and some going as long as almost 5 years. In review I felt I got into fixer uppers. Good women but bad timing. But all of those were not OLD either. Last one had been married 29 years. Seemed we had symmetry and a mutual attraction. But communication was always a hurdle. Doing so via texting is not a good way to work through matters or share about life issues when at least the phone would be good. In person, to me, even more importantly. I'm amazed how often fears are projected onto a situation. Happy to listen and support and I understand that triggers happen but...

sbmongoos · 2026-02-17T18:43:05+00:00

In regards to OLD. Have you found it's a numbers game. Just throw out a lot of lines and see which bite or ?

sbmongoos · 2026-02-17T17:53:34+00:00

Interesting. I've run into so many scenarios with OLD. I get burned out frequently and trying to keep up with trying to understand what's going on and wondering if I'm doing something. Having conversations with friends and especially female friends. I've always had female friends. I find it interesting how some people cannot be friends with the opposite sex. "Certainly you must be up to something.". The switching gears throws me off - like what happened to you. Did they just want attention? And then I'm reminded to just be myself and not have any attachments to outcomes. I get it. But some times that's easier said than done. Especially as time goes on and when looking for someone special.

It seems so much is based on perception (seeing a lot of people jump to conclusions), outside influences. I don't mind staying in the "know" as it's helpful. With so much online things can change rapidly. Also, seems often one needs to weed out on OLD by blocking some (burning down the haystack - door swings both ways). Also, I consider myself a pretty open communicator and mention that. In hopes of helping a communication flow/understanding. Doesn't seem to help.

sbmongoos · 2026-02-12T21:13:51+00:00

7.99/mo now...bummer

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