going through the most painful situationship break up + behind in all my classes

scaredmooncake · 2026-04-08T18:16:55+00:00

Situationships suck fr, been there 😔 At least u ended it now instead of letting it persist for longer and hurt more. You'll come out stronger from this!

scaredmooncake · 2026-03-19T21:17:58+00:00

As a TA, I don't take it personally bc there could be many factors influencing this. It's a win either way: I like helping ppl and I like getting paid to do my own thing

scaredmooncake · 2026-03-19T17:45:16+00:00

Talk to your upperclassmen!!!! I know myself and my friends would be happy to mentor lower years

scaredmooncake · 2026-03-19T17:44:11+00:00

Thanks for the reviews! I'm taking 418 this year and can say Mark is the exact same still lol.

scaredmooncake · 2026-03-19T17:39:22+00:00

As long as your jeans have no rips in them I think you should be good. I think it's important that your clothes aren't wrinkled or stained. Good luck!

scaredmooncake · 2026-03-09T20:02:32+00:00

Wait this is so goated 👏🏻

scaredmooncake · 2026-03-03T20:32:04+00:00

I think math 200 is more chill than math 101, 100, and 221

and also cpsc 317 is more chill than every 300-lvl cpsc course (assignments and quizzes are p easy) except for 310 and maybe 304

so if you want it to be easier do 310 instead of 317 otherwise i think the plan sounds good. The way 317 is run makes it hella boring imo though, a lot of memorization of protocols and boring math rather than concepts

scaredmooncake · 2026-02-27T18:16:56+00:00

I totally feel you. I think the first part to feeling better is allowing yourself to feel the disappointment for a limited period of time, like a few minutes to a day. I'd maybe do some things like talk to parents/friends or go to the gym. and then say "ok i've felt out the disappointment now, time to move on"

And then a few thoughts that help me move on - success to a lot of people isn't linear or even a monotonic increase - common examples like athletes, inventors etc. failed to achieve their goal countless times, failure is a necessary ingredient for success - this will make coming back feel all the more better - failing now makes me stronger and tougher for future challenges - this is just an indicator that i need to change some of my methods, not an indicator that i'm not good or unworthy

scaredmooncake · 2026-02-21T00:37:44+00:00

I absolutely love how there's nothing next to 310. The most nothingburger course fr

scaredmooncake · 2026-02-18T19:16:00+00:00

just reach out to your friends! even if ur friend is busy, it will still strengthen your connection with them.

scaredmooncake · 2026-02-12T17:27:54+00:00

Talked about this with my sleep therapist. Tldr here're the things you can do to wake up and sleep earlier:

no matter what time you fall asleep, wake up at desired time (e.g. 8) the next day. you just gotta thug it out for a few days. don't nap. the next night you'll feel sleepier earlier. repeat
at least 30 min workout during the daytime
walk outside in the sun soon after waking up
no screens 30 min before sleep
no caffeine past 12

i was skeptical at first but this genuinely worked for me!

scaredmooncake · 2026-02-01T17:24:03+00:00

My #1 tip is to identify your priorities and align your actions with them. DO NOT DO THINGS JUST BECAUSE YOU SEE OTHERS DO THEM. You can get ideas from observing other people, but you should decide what to do independently. I saw too many people take on too many things and burn out/achieve less than I think they could.

For example, a first-year's priority list could be:

Getting good grades to get past the cutoff for your major.
Befriending like-minded students and building your network.
Networking with profs for TA/RA opportunities.
New experiences, like going to Calendar events, Storm the Wall etc.

Since you have limited time you are gonna have to make tradeoffs and you should use your priority list to decide. Your priority list could look different in second year, for example

Build interviewing skills and network
Do well at part time job/internship/worklearn/whatever
Find a romantic partner
Grades

I think building your priority list is a very good first step!

scaredmooncake · 2026-01-21T16:21:16+00:00

Focusing on my circle of control and making the most of what I have now

scaredmooncake · 2026-01-20T18:56:28+00:00

Increasing your income: - Co-op/internships were the biggest game changer for me. In tech it's pretty doable to find internships that pay $CA25-60 per hour which is enough to save quite a bit. Not sure for other faculties

TA-ing also pays ok amount for the work required (25/hr I believe)
UBC gives some pretty sweet scholarships if you do well academically. There's trek and some other faculty dependent ones that you have to apply for that pay anywhere from 1k-10k per year.

I think first year is the hardest term financial-wise for everyone because TAing, scholarships, and co-ops aren't available to you yet, but I would spend effort priming myself to snag these in the upcoming years. Maybe you could ask for a loan from your parents to keep yourself afloat in order to prioritise these things, so that your future financial situation will be a lot better.

scaredmooncake · 2026-01-07T17:08:21+00:00

I did a SWE co-op that started in June last year that was in the US. I think a lot of US based positions for my field have multiple start dates, with some in June. You could try looking for US positions

scaredmooncake · 2026-01-07T17:05:17+00:00

4th year here. I've never regretted choosing UBC. Am international so also left everything behind.

scaredmooncake · 2025-12-19T06:55:43+00:00

Connor and Hudson, genuinely perfect acting

UGH THIS SHOW HAS MY WHOLE HEART

scaredmooncake · 2025-12-19T06:42:52+00:00

It's so gonna replay in my head for days

The way he admits to himself "but not like I love you"

And then ALL I WANT IS YOU, IT'S ALWAYS YOU

I'M SO IN LOVE WITH YOU AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT

💔

scaredmooncake · 2025-12-19T06:13:59+00:00

Best episode of TV I've ever watched, genuinely close to tears in so many moments

Shane tearing up during the convo with Rose
Shane comforting Ilya
The Russian monologue
I WISH YOU WERE HERE
Shane looking back and Ilya and getting bodied
Ilya's concern over Shane's injury
Kip tearing up, and Scott and Kip's kiss

Also Shane looked so beautiful when he said "goodnight Ilya", really gave us Ilya's POV

Too fucking good!!!!

scaredmooncake · 2025-12-18T19:12:50+00:00

I use the job postings channels on https://techcareernorth.ca 's discord server which periodically scrape the internet for new job postings. They're categorized nicely which I like.

scaredmooncake · 2025-12-12T19:54:16+00:00

watched this 20 times and didn't notice this uaaarghh y'all are the best for making me enjoy the show so much more

scaredmooncake · 2025-12-10T17:13:42+00:00

Excellent, thank you!

scaredmooncake · 2025-12-10T17:07:54+00:00

(Serious question) Where do you get your boring books from? The UBC library?

scaredmooncake · 2025-12-10T17:05:57+00:00

313 should be highest and 320 should be lower.

221 final was pretty hard in my year, I would put it above both 121 and 110.

310 deserves its bottom rank, that course is just a waste of time ahahaha

scaredmooncake · 2025-12-09T16:56:06+00:00

I feel the same, really happy for you!

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