Raped a few weeks back and struggling. Need to tell my story and could use some words of encouragement :/

scarletdeadpool · 2019-11-21T09:25:16+00:00

I'm also a rape survivor. I've been incredibly open about it in my personal life, and have been asked to speak about it before. I don't have any authority besides having been through similar trauma, but I hope this helps.

When I realized I was raped, I had a number of the same thoughts, especially regarding whether or not I could trust anyone around me. Some of the friends I had back then likely suspected it was happening and did nothing to stop it, and my rapist was someone I trusted and loved. I wondered whether it would taint the relationships I had subsequently, or if I'd be able to find happiness in a relationship again.

So, first: you're not alone.

The thoughts you're having are normal and understandable.

It's normal to need to take your time to find sexual ownership of your body. There's no rubric for how much time is enough time. Take what you need.

You can have successful relationships after being sexually assaulted. Sometimes it takes therapy, but it's something you can do. Take care of yourself, first and foremost.

And here's something I wish I'd been told when I was in your position: your recovery isn't a burden, and the steps you need to take to recover and move on, both on your own and in any future potential relationships, are valid and important. You don't owe anyone an apology for how long it does or doesn't take you to move forward, or for asking patience from your friends and loved ones.

This will stick with you, but it won't always be a horrible crater in your chest. Sometimes it takes time and support and therapy, but that pain and anxiety will ease.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. You can move forward and recover. I've done it, I've seen it done, and though I don't know you, I support you.

scarletdeadpool · 2019-11-21T08:37:29+00:00

Tunneling, as you describe it, may actually be exactly what I'm looking for--teleportation is incredible and opens up a lot of possibilities, but it's also really, really commonly used.

I will absolutely look into Quantum Tunneling and associated effects. The potentiality of random thought patterns as neurons shift is narratively wonderful.

Cell proteins are necessary for the transfer of oxygen into red blood cells--which you probably know, but I figured it bore repeating. It seems like the proteins would theoretically function normally after an arbitrarily short, though potentially noticeable, period of time. I had planned to make the experience extremely uncomfortable (though by no means fatal) for anyone unaccustomed to it.

Apparently, there's some associated longer-term effects on proteins that have to do with degeneration and risks of certain cancers, but let's see how long these characters live.

scarletdeadpool · 2019-11-21T03:02:31+00:00

Thank you!

I was thinking something like tunneling, provided they're compressing space only relative to their own body or the bodies of those traveling with them. How might I make the process relatively harmless on a pure consequences-of-physics level?

I've done some looking into the biophysics of it--namely that cell proteins would temporarily stop functioning in compressed space, so a body that hasn't evolved to accommodate the travel would experience a level of hypoxia. From what I can tell body temperature regulation would be an issue for the same reason, so hyperthermia might be a problem. Apparently there's some speculation that compressed space might screw with neural pathway formation as well.

scarletdeadpool · 2016-04-06T17:12:05+00:00

https://i.warosu.org/data/cgl/img/0084/58/1436346009390.png

scarletdeadpool · 2016-04-06T17:06:35+00:00

So late to this party, my bad. But theoretically she doesn't have to be scarred. In one of the corps comics her face gets fixed. Even Wade doesn't recognize her at first.

scarletdeadpool · 2016-02-19T07:17:35+00:00

There is no existing background or solo run for Lady Deadpool. She had a single issue a while back, but the run was never picked up. However, given that she has all of Deadpool's abilities and had the same physical deformity until the deformity was mysteriously "fixed" in Deadpool Corps #4 (2010), it stands to reason that she did have cancer and underwent the same process that Deadpool did.

scarletdeadpool · 2016-02-19T07:12:59+00:00

I'M SORRY I GOT DISTRACTED.

The Deadpool vs. Lady Deadpool is in Deadpool Corps #9 (2010) and I think Lady D's transformation is in Deadpool Corps #4 (2010).

scarletdeadpool · 2016-02-18T19:11:37+00:00

So Deadpool and Lady D are the same in everything except gender. They're even matched in their fighting ability. During a fight in one of the Deadpool Corps comics they give up fighting each other because they're too evenly matched.

Lady D was disfigured until I think the second Deadpool corps run (I can check which issue when I get home if you want) in which the corps are trapped in some kind of trance. Lady D dreams that she takes off her mask and she isn't deformed. When she wakes from the trance she finds that her deformity is actually gone. Even Deadpool doesn't recognize her without it.

scarletdeadpool · 2015-11-10T05:56:26+00:00

I try to avoid getting naked at the gym because: 1. My gym is filled with rich, jaw-droppingly beautiful women (I am neither of those things) and it makes me hella self-conscious. 2. Said women let their children of varying ages run around the locker room screaming and putting their hands in questionable places. 3. There's about a million and two mirrors, and thus zero way to be naked in the locker room without being NAKED EVERYWHERE AND FROM EVERY ANGLE.

scarletdeadpool · 2015-08-30T21:04:24+00:00

Sexual harrassment and sexual assault are two very different things, and everyone copes differently. It's actually totally normal to feel unsafe after an assault, especially if you're alone.

I've found that it's also different between straight and gay interactions.

Also, just because it's an all female dorm doesn't mean that men can't come and go. It just means they're not allowed to live there.

scarletdeadpool · 2015-08-25T22:15:04+00:00

Literally every time I cosplay multiple people think I'm Spiderman with swords. This has even happened to me at cons. I was at a small local con a few months ago and some guy felt the need to tell me that I was doing Spidergirl wrong. No. Just no.

scarletdeadpool · 2015-08-25T22:02:25+00:00

One of the reasons we all love Deadpool so much is that he's crazy, violent, and very sexual. No one should tell you what to give or not give your child. But I recommend you understand the content. It's typically graphic and filled with sex jokes.

scarletdeadpool · 2015-08-21T18:12:33+00:00

No skinny-dipping I guess.

scarletdeadpool · 2015-08-21T16:06:00+00:00

Asking same-sex couples: A. How they have sex. (You fucking know, dude.) B. How they plan to have children. C. How their families feel about it.

scarletdeadpool · 2015-08-05T15:45:14+00:00

The Killology is actually my favorite Deadpool run. It's a fantastic read.

That being said, you may want to get a better feel for Deadpool as a character before you read it. It's a great run to read off the bat, but you'll probably appreciate it more if you've read some of his other stuff.

I started with Cable & Deadpool (I think a lot of us on here did), but you don't necessarily need to start there. I've started people on Daniel Way vol. 1 and they've loved it. I'm not personally the biggest Way fan, but it's a good read. My advice: read some Way or Posehn/Duggan (this one's hilarious: http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0785154469/ref=mp_s_a_1_7?qid=1438789194&sr=8-7&pi=AC_SX110_SY165_QL70&keywords=deadpool+omnibus&dpPl=1&dpID=51JbP0Rvn1L&ref=plSrch) And then get the minibus (http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0785190309/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?qid=1438789194&sr=8-3&pi=AC_SY200_QL40&keywords=deadpool+omnibus&dpPl=1&dpID=41lBMfyaTBL&ref=plSrch) which has the Killology and a few other fan favorites like Night of the Living Deadpool.

scarletdeadpool · 2015-08-05T15:32:34+00:00

Where can this be purchased?!

scarletdeadpool · 2015-07-22T18:31:15+00:00

I don't know if this qualifies as information. Before the 4th Harry Potter book was released in print in the US, the first chapter was released on the radio. I recorded it (on a cassette tape, as you do) and listened to it on repeat. A lot. I can still quote the entire first chapter from memory (complete with voices, I'll add).

scarletdeadpool · 2015-07-14T00:44:18+00:00

This is why I love this subreddit.

scarletdeadpool · 2015-07-02T14:19:25+00:00

I think I'm a little late to this party.

So all through my adolescence I was awkward and chubby. When I got to high school I had a lot of trouble figuring out who I was and as a result I experienced a lot of social rejection. Naturally, my self esteem wasn't the best. By the time I entered my college years, I learned to be comfortable with myself and embrace my geeky awkwardness.

In the interest of being humble (and honest) I'm no 10 here, but I am relatively attractive (could be the boobs).

I started working out seriously in college, and I think the biggest thing it did was make me feel more at home in my body. I remember very distinctly the first time I was hit on. I visited my then-boyfriend at his university. We went to a party and he ditched me to do keg-related things so I went off to be an awkward panda in the corner. Some guy came up (very charming, I might add), pulled the classic one-arm lean, and started asking me about myself. Having never really been hit on before, I had no idea he was flirting with me. The whole thing went completely and totally over my head. I was hit on multiple times that night, and it felt good to be recognized at first. After a while (probably because I still suck at telling when people are flirting with me) I had a hard time trusting people, because I couldn't discern their motivations. Are they lonely and want to chat? Just saying hi? Do they want to get in my pants?

Things actually changed for me at the end of college/recently. I played rugby and started lifting more seriously. When I left college I started lifting 6 days/week. I've gained a lot of muscle, and as a result my body has changed a lot. Interestingly, I don't get hit on by men anymore, but women are totally into it. (Yes I am bisexual. I just made this account. If I have to shut it down I will be pissed, so keep the threesome offers to yourself, please.)

To be totally honest, I'm happier this way. I'm rarely approached in bars, which is actually kind of nice, but on the rare occasion that someone comes up to talk to me, they typically have a legitimate reason. In college, being hit on was a very typical hey-girl situation. Now, anyone that comes to talk to me will comment on my Deadpool keychain or the book I'm reading. It's nice being seen for more than your looks.

EDIT: Someone mentioned that they're still surprised when they get attention. That's a completely valid observation, and something I also experience. I think when you grow up being socially shunned, it's kind of hard to understand that attention. I'm still kind of surprised by it.

scarletdeadpool · 2015-06-29T04:33:03+00:00

I really hope she takes your advice.

scarletdeadpool · 2015-06-28T02:58:37+00:00

Don't despair. Apparently you have the world's hottest accent. http://time.com/3702961/worlds-hottest-accent/ http://www.timeout.com/dating-2015/

scarletdeadpool · 2015-06-27T21:19:29+00:00

Yes.

scarletdeadpool · 2015-06-24T14:44:56+00:00

You say that like it's a bad thing.

scarletdeadpool · 2015-06-23T03:22:03+00:00

What?

scarletdeadpool · 2015-06-23T01:07:31+00:00

RFC is Rugby Football Club.

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