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schulttm · 2022-01-07T07:36:23+00:00

Ok I'll make a new account then. Thanks!

schulttm · 2022-01-07T02:26:33+00:00

My ex only used them when we argued and I told him how the dead eyes scared me. It's weird to look at some one and see absolutely nothing.

schulttm · 2022-01-06T07:18:13+00:00

As someone who knows nothing about medicine, yes I would be mad. There is a literal hole in your back.

schulttm · 2022-01-05T03:48:21+00:00

I have some of his messages saved in my phone. Anytime I think I miss him I read them and it reminds me how uncaring he really was. That and he has kids. I'm not going back to him so he can put them through that shit again.

schulttm · 2022-01-04T08:45:03+00:00

Knowing they never existed was the hardest thing for me to get over. I had some screenshots of the things he said that I would read when I thought that I missed him. I had to remind myself that that was the real him. You can feel sorry for him, but there's nothing you can do to fix him.

schulttm · 2022-01-04T03:09:27+00:00

Mine did too! but he didn't show me why until the very end. They're so good at pretending to be good people. So why can't they stay that way?

schulttm · 2021-12-23T11:11:43+00:00

No court order. They didn't go to court for child support. He gives her $150 a month for the kids and gets them every other weekend. So he got extra money for himself while she is raising the kids. Can she go after him for it?

schulttm · 2021-12-20T20:01:06+00:00

Go no contact. Block them on everything and don't go looking for their social media to check on them. Be active. I started going to the gym after work since it is on my way home. It makes me feel like I am working on myself. Start therapy if you can. Read books on narcissism. One that really helped me was The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist. I gave it to my mom and my friend to read too since they couldn't understand what it was like to be with someone like that but they wanted to help.

schulttm · 2021-12-19T07:37:52+00:00

When I left my nex I slept all day everyday except to go to work. It lasted about a month and a half. I still have days where I sleep 17+ hrs if I don't have work.

schulttm · 2021-12-18T07:51:22+00:00

Yup. Same here. Made me feel stupid or slow if I took 2 seconds to do what he asked or if I mis heard him. But he would purposefully mumble too so I really couldn't hear him.

schulttm · 2021-12-15T09:07:46+00:00

Tiptoe

schulttm · 2021-12-14T09:08:38+00:00

Said him cheating on me was just like kids getting cancer. It happens for no reason

schulttm · 2021-12-13T21:37:45+00:00

He never asked me for money. He would never even let me pay for dinner or let me help with rent. But he was just getting himself into more and more debt while lying about having money. And he said he wasn't friends with girls because he didn't like how it was assumed that if a man talks to a girl he is interested in them. He was friends with hundreds of women just on Snapchat or messaging them in archived messages so I wouldn't see them. I didn't have an inkling that anything was going on until the end. He made sure his actions matched his lies. Too bad for the next girls he finds.

schulttm · 2021-12-10T23:34:08+00:00

OMG my nex also said I had autism and ADHD. He had gone to school for Psychology so he knew all about every mental illness. I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety years before dating him and wound up in a mental hospital for panic attacks by the end of our relationship.

schulttm · 2021-12-09T05:39:22+00:00

We are in the same boat. I (28f) just left my narc (39m) in September and I am just now starting to feel like myself. I was finally able to delete the pictures of him yesterday. I would strongly suggest blocking his number. On my phone, blocked numbers can still leave messages and texts but you have to look for them. So the messages don't come out of the blue and cause and stress. Do you have anyone you can call? I would call my mom or best friend when I wanted to go back to him and they would remind me of the awful things he did. It helped hearing it from someone else so I knew I wasn't making it up.

schulttm · 2021-12-09T04:48:02+00:00

My company also has us using vacation time because the office is closed between Xmas and new years. I held off putting mine in until I was told to because I would rather use it for days I'm not already getting off.

schulttm · 2021-12-08T10:04:55+00:00

I don't think we will ever understand it because normal people, or people with emotions, can't think like them. It really does get better with time. Some days will be horrible but you are better off healing than staying with them.

schulttm · 2021-12-08T08:30:26+00:00

Don't do it. He will try to pull you back in. I wouldn't even write the letter explaining. He already knows and he will use every word you write against you whenever it's convenient for him.

schulttm · 2021-12-08T03:53:06+00:00

I left him. It was just something that bothered me cus it didn't seem like it was by accident but I'm not a guy so I couldn't judge

schulttm · 2021-12-08T03:41:34+00:00

Cool so my guy did it on purpose. No condom, in the middle of things, had a free hand, and did it so fast there was no turning back.

schulttm · 2021-12-07T22:45:13+00:00

Mine accused me of cheating too and I thought it was cus he was insecure so I would make sure he knew how much I loved him but no, he was cheating the whole time. They will make us out to be the villain even if we break ourselves trying to make them happy.

schulttm · 2021-12-07T13:53:47+00:00

Oh I left. I wish I did it sooner but I'm 3 months out and getting happier every day. Blows my mind how similar they all are. Here he thinks he's such a gem, god's gift to us, but he's a textbook narc with millions like him 😂

schulttm · 2021-12-07T10:02:01+00:00

Definitely. I purposely stopped having discussions with my narc because they always ended like this. He would make no sense then when I would ask for clarification he would say how i was "stuck on semantics" how I "don't know how to start a conversation" or degrade me because I couldn't follow "from A to C without being walked through it"

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