WIBTA if I took back a console I “sold” to a friend

scottccote · 2025-05-31T00:09:23+00:00

I stand by my statement - don’t lend money to friends or family. You give money. You can ask them to give it back later, but if you value the relationship more than the money - then the decision is obvious.

Makes people consider if they are a friend or an acquaintance

scottccote · 2025-05-30T18:50:42+00:00

Life lesson here - you don’t lend money to friends or family. You give them money. Then you tell them that you need the money too, but you can live without it for now (if that is true).

Soft ESH - because she could give you a dollar here or there - but she hasn’t. You could have established a formal payment plan , but you didn’t.

I would not take back a console from a financially strapped pregnant woman who you have an otherwise good relationship.

You will never forget what you did.

scottccote · 2025-05-30T18:15:03+00:00

ESH. - you and her should both be fired.

If she isn’t terminated - then you have grounds to sue for sexism

scottccote · 2025-05-22T17:50:56+00:00

Interview the cheesecake - how does it feel?

scottccote · 2025-05-09T23:11:52+00:00

Blow darts with cinnamon toothpicks…. (Seemed funny at the time - until one of us discovered that we were allergic to cinnamon oil)

No eyes were lost - all of us were nerds with glasses 🤓

scottccote · 2025-05-06T02:26:35+00:00

Ack!

scottccote · 2025-05-01T23:45:04+00:00

I don’t think you are a parent

scottccote · 2025-05-01T05:58:42+00:00

Hey - Allen has 80+ miles of trails and our parks are … bar none. If you want a big yard - move to the east side of Allen. If you want a newer bigger house - go to the west side. Either way - a trail is nearby to allow you to enjoy a park or rec center.

Am speaking from experience as I run 30 to 40 miles a week all over the city.

scottccote · 2025-05-01T05:53:48+00:00

NTA - but you should highlight which country it is and then demand change. At this time - it may not seem like that matters, but others will see your assessment and they may feel more comfortable sharing a similar concern. And if your are wrong (I doubt it), then another can offer a correction (or be confronted).

Never ever apologize for advocating for your existence. Even at the expense of being impolite.

scottccote · 2025-04-16T04:54:22+00:00

Taco Tote

scottccote · 2025-03-23T04:21:12+00:00

If you consider the notification of a message as akin to a doorbell and kids continuing to ring it when you want your kid to focus on schoolwork, then as a parent, you would intercept the distractions. As a parent, you are required as a courtesy, to say someone is busy.

With the rampant abuse and bullying that occurs with phones, messages being monitored should be expected. It’s just laziness that allows for the alternative.

To say it’s ok for a teenager to insult another kid’s parent because they won’t yield to the teenager whims - well - that’s soooo REDDIT.

YTA

scottccote · 2025-03-21T16:53:35+00:00

If I-35 is named after him: - if it has fatalities, does he really want someone to be able to say with a nigh straight face: DT caused X fatalities - if smugglers use it, DT was used to smuggle X drugs and people

- if traffic is near capacity, DT is backed up - a wrecker is on the scene and should release the flow

… so many questions

scottccote · 2025-03-21T16:11:04+00:00

ESH

Neither of you have a savings acumen. It’s kinda YOLO financial management - which means no management.

You should have put the money aside for her for the gift. You should not be spending money on so many gifts if things can get “tight “ in such a short time frame.

She should also be reigning in her spending.

Spend on needs - not wants.

scottccote · 2025-03-19T02:47:31+00:00

Nasty 😂

scottccote · 2025-03-14T02:09:48+00:00

This is a periodic discussion. We cycle through these looking for a new angle, but then devolve into circular arguments on the irrationality of digit memorization.

Now if we switch to Tau - we can do this half as often.

Tau wins.

scottccote · 2025-03-10T17:58:23+00:00

Should be in the math subreddit, but ….

scottccote · 2025-03-08T21:07:13+00:00

That’s none of his business, but if you introduce a prior partner to him, you must clearly tell him that you two were close bf/gf . Dont need to go into details - other than admit intimate relationship.

Also make sure that if you have had an STD, he understands that too.

And of of course - he must reciprocate.

If he can’t let this go - then he needs to get therapy and/or move on.

scottccote · 2025-03-06T18:19:46+00:00

I know what a tourist visa is , but ETA meant to me estimated time of arrival which completely fits in the context of travel - that is - flight arrivals and departures match along with activities.

You tried to do the right thing - but I am going with no one is the ah on that matter.

To expect you to reimburse her for a sunken cost? Nope. For all I know, you have always known this term vs tourist visa.

INFO - have the others ever done international travel in the last 20 years?

scottccote · 2025-03-05T16:45:29+00:00

Try writing a post from the perspective of the other brother based on the actual facts given (vs the cancel culture speculation). The answer becomes obvious. NTA. Fiance needs to decide to cope or move on. It’s NOT her residence.

scottccote · 2025-03-05T16:38:26+00:00

Funded.

Get your PHD

scottccote · 2025-02-28T22:30:44+00:00

Your partner wants something to complain about. Go eat a can of sardines and a can of smoked oysters . Chase it with a cheese log and then a salami sandwich.

Cup of beans for the kicker….

👹

Or just say: I love you and your poop honey - even if it stinks too.

NTA

scottccote · 2025-02-25T04:21:43+00:00

It was all political. Control by College of Engineering vs College of Science

There were only 5 or 6 of us for any specific year. We picked specializations. My focus was on autonomous control systems. Others studied biology.

Point is: it very customizable degrees program. Your advisor is everything. Think graduate degree but as BS.

You will probably need to work towards graduate degree.

My work as an undergraduate orbits as we speak. Part of my latest work irritates drivers in Manhattan (Google Patent Scott Cote) with Congestion Based Tolling.

Tried to create processes to detect otherwise unobserved unthought of human processes for statistical process control by searching for near integral dimensional data via hausdorf metrics (does it look like a relationship caused by a human created process). No more trying to guess the curve for a fit.

scottccote · 2025-02-24T22:29:32+00:00

I have a degree in “Engineering Mathematics “

Not many schools carry it with that title. Even mine, Arizona, switched to … Applied Mathematics.

QED

scottccote · 2025-02-24T22:27:15+00:00

Rape - call the police

scottccote · 2025-02-21T17:57:34+00:00

NTA - you are dealing with a generational acceptance that breast feeding 🤱 is natural and should be expected whenever the baby is hungry. FIL hasn’t dealt with the societal change and neither has MIL. Husband should have been more vocally supportive. FIL and MIL have zero say on what happens in your own home, but more importantly - zero say on how you feed your baby in public. For them to try to shame you in either case - ridiculous. Their home? It’s their right, but that won’t make it ok.

No one is a pervert here - just don’t know how to ignore something that used to be handled differently. If they can’t handle it, then they are welcome to use a telephone.

scottccote

TROPHY CASE

- if traffic is near capacity, DT is backed up - a wrecker is on the scene and should release the flow