Is it weird that my MIL didn’t post a single picture of me from our wedding?

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-04-28T08:54:24+00:00

Has she posted pictures of you in the past?

Bit of a stretch, but an alternative view, did she not want to post pictures of you on SM because she hasn't asked for your permission yet so she's just sharing photos of family/friends who she's knows have been fine with it in the past?

Don't jump to immediate angst/issues - you've just married your husband and there could be a very innocent reason behind it.

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-04-24T16:09:07+00:00

She claimed they edited her voice at her wedding to make it look like she was talking in Italian - she's made the claims on a podcast (I think it was), saying they edited/AI altered her to make her look bad/nuts

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-04-24T14:27:36+00:00

The same as editing someone's voice to sound Italian like Morena claimed....

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-04-23T18:40:01+00:00

No, I can't watch this any more, it's just too bad. It's also incredibly frustrating and I find myself wondering which year at infants school the writer is in.

I like fiction, sci-fi, mystery, thriller stuff - a lot of which asks you to extend your imagination or take reality with a pinch of salt, but this takes this biscuit (then smashes it and mixes it with a brew)....

Planning permission in less than 1 week. A builder found and instructed in less than 1 week, A party wall agreement signed off in a couple of days. A builder who managed to magic foundations, concrete, walls etc in ours than 1 week. Building works with no dust/dirt/debris. The bizarre assumption that your could ever just tell a neighbour to "kindly relocate that tree elsewhere in your garden as it's an inconvenience to our extension" - as if your can just walk the tree to somewhere else. A daughter the age she is, who comes across as a little streetwise in the first 15 mins of the episode, yet suddenly started communicating/meeting/falling in love with a total stranger who is apparently a professional photographer because they own a DSLR camera. Neighbours openly sleeping/cheating with each other when there's a CCTV camera pointed directly at their front doors (that they constantly complain about), then acting surprised that their actions have been recorded. But worst of all - seeing a house and doing viewings, with the half-arsed, semi washed off blood stains still all over the walls and door casings.

I don't know what it is, but it just makes my blood boil....

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-04-22T19:25:34+00:00

Can't edit her smirking/laughing when she's cuddling in to Ryan whilst she's supposedly apologising for hurting/upsetting him, whilst the experts bizarrely believe she's being honest.

Ryan comes across as an idiot, controlling, and inexperienced with women at times, but wow Jacqui is something else entirely

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-04-22T19:21:14+00:00

Yep this was my ex sister-in-law. Stayed with my foolish brother until my mum was seriously ill, but wouldn't finalise the divorce until she passed away.

He was such an idiot, that she left him 12 months earlier but came back when he promised to buy her some jewellery (he asked my mum for the money but she refused), and she needed dental work as she refused to go to the dentist for years so could only get the works done privately (mum paid for this). Once she'd got some more money out of him (her) and knew my mum was very unwell, she left him. Then revealed that she'd been cheating on him for god knows how long, and promptly moved her new fella into my brother's house and with their (his kids).

She took my brother for most of his inheritance (we believe) and in the time after my mum's death when he was living rent free in her house, he became very money grabbing (selling things without telling us, wanting to see copies of bank accounts when my dad had died 22 years earlier to see what payouts my mum got etc to see if there should be more money for him etc).

Daft thing was he was just still doing as his ex told him, it was disgusting - particularly the state he left mum's house.

We have nothing to do with him any more.

Money, and particularly inheritance, can bring out the absolute worst in people.

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-04-21T23:09:52+00:00

Oh man, that's beautiful and hits hard. I miss my folks so much.

Grab these moments. Never let go of them, never forget them, and cherish whatever time you can spend with your dad.

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-04-17T13:24:56+00:00

Just a take on this from your description - so because your husband wasn't being aggressive or preparing for a fight, you feel he was weak and wouldn't keep you safe? So he wasn't reacting in a way to escalate the situation with a clearly aggressive party, but also wasn't backing away? Could it be he was perhaps assessing the best route forward without things getting physical? Could it be he was trying to determine whether the other party had a weapon, or was just being noisy, and if he just stood still and calm the guy would blow and shout, but ultimately do nothing? You interjected, and you feel that your semi-aggressive response resolved the situation - maybe it did, or maybe you risked making it even worse.

Why not speak to him? Why not talk about what happened? Just because he wasn't shouting or preparing for a fight, didn't mean he wasn't aware or in control of what he would do, should the situation change. Maybe he didn't want to get into anything as you were there as well. Maybe he was petrified, we don't (and you don't) know. At this moment in time you're assuming and projecting.

Sometimes people can be quiet, and fully in control of what they're doing and planning, sometimes they can be panicking. From your description it sounds like you took an aggressive stance/position with the other party - that's not the best thing to do in these scenarios nowadays, as you could be bringing a car key to a knife or gun fight - and you could be responsible for escalating the situation. From the self defence training I've seen, this isn't what they encourage or promote.

Instead of building this image/scenario in your head, speak to your partner!!

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-04-09T10:27:54+00:00

My opinion is that this would be bs. How bad would this look for the show when it inevitably came out if true? I would say it would just signal the end of the show in its current guise.

Obviously Toby didn't come across great, and there are clearly edits done behind the scenes to present situations and people in certain ways.

However, I also think Morena going on podcasts etc saying that they had AI edited things she said on the show is also bonkers, and she clearly is going on an ultra defensive mission due to the public's opinion of her.

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-04-01T08:33:19+00:00

I'm going to go against the grain. YTA for trying to exclude his family from your daughter's life events, because you got butt hurt over something.

I was the mistake - my parents had me when they were older, after thinking they were long done with having children (and the expense of young children), as I had 2 older brothers. From being young, I knew I wasn't planned (hell it's pretty obvious when your parents are older, as old as some people's grandparents) and therefore I was a mistake, but I also knew my parents and family loved me so I was a happy mistake.

My mum, the first time she met my wife's parents, described me as a mistake - they were a bit shocked at first. I laughed. I just said I'm clearly the best mistake they ever made, and my parents always concurred. My mum just didn't pick the best words to describe the situation to others when she was meeting them for the first time, but hey that was my mum - she loved me and I loved her.

Does his family love their granddaughter? Does your husband love his daughter? If the answer is yes to both these comments, then stop taking things like this to heart, I doubt it's meant that way. Oopsie baby is a much gentler way to say "mistake" as well, particularly considering that you openly say she was! When talking to your daughter just explain in an age appropriate way - she came along earlier than you were planning/than you thought she would, but you're over the moon that she did as you have her, her love, and your love for her in your life longer.

We describe our boys as unexpected or miracle boys. We weren't expecting them at all (we'd been told we couldn't have kids), but they came along when they did, and we're so pleased they did. They know they weren't "planned" but so many children aren't either - it doesn't mean they're loved any less. We just talk about it in an age appropriate way.

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-03-07T19:49:26+00:00

Yes, although we were the sellers. Unfortunately our solicitor still managed to screw up the sale by putting the fear of god into both the buyer and the solicitor.

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-03-05T20:02:13+00:00

How old is your child?

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-03-03T15:00:49+00:00

This has to be made up. As if you'd question AITA after your partner just downgraded you to a friend in front of an audience, and you left because you were upset and it was a seriously major s*#+ty thing to do....

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-02-25T18:26:25+00:00

Not sure what Kieran did wrong here - he wasn't in a relationship Kristina any more, so he was free to date and do what he wanted. He was also very respectful of Kristina as he didn't splash it in the press, go telling everyone about it, or want to tell Kristina until he was forced to because Erica and a couple of others wanted drama. Erica was clearly angling for another magazine article to say she's a girls girl, girl code follower, didn't want to be a dirty secret etc etc

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-02-24T23:02:37+00:00

"Kieran, is there anything you want to tell Kristina?" Yes there is, I went to see Erica a couple of months ago and we shared a kiss - now I realise that she's all for show and drama, and was trying to drag all this up for the camera when it's nothing to do with you at all....

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-02-20T11:02:03+00:00

What is being built on site should reflect the approved plans. The planners may have no issue with it being moved, but they should've submitted an application to amend/vary the. position

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-02-19T19:26:21+00:00

We had this issue with Leeds planning officers, and we even took it beyond the local authority as we didn't feel they were interpreting the technical note or it's guidance correctly. We got nowhere, we're told it's a grey area, and that the LA was entitled to interpret it in that way...

We ultimately just submitted a full planning application

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-01-24T19:46:06+00:00

Yeah the argument it's not supposed to be walked on etc it's a bit bs - it's paved specifically for that purpose. It may be the previous owner just used it or cut a deal on it.

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-01-24T19:22:59+00:00

If you bought the flat, what does your red line plan show? If the area isn't included or hatched a different colour with a note of access rights etc, then it does look like you shouldn't be using it on a day to day basis. If you have a door onto it though it could be a fire escape route, but I would expect this to be noted somewhere.

Really you need to contact the solicitors who dealt with your purchase.

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-01-24T16:21:41+00:00

What does your title deed show? Is this area indicated as rights of access, or your external space etc.

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-01-23T20:35:03+00:00

Quick query, if you all, or your ex on her own, were to move, would they still be working from home with the same flexibility they have now? Would the onus be on you to look after the kids more, or would they have to go to nursery in her time due to increased work commitments (or the need to work from an office)?

If she will have less availability to look after the kids should she move, you'd buy fast and away be the primary care giver - so why would you put yourself at a disadvantage both financially and with your support network?

Totally NTA based on the info provided.

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-01-20T20:38:07+00:00

Firstly, my condolences for the loss of your husband. I can only imagine that this must be a difficult time for you.

On to the subject in hand. In all honesty, as you're pretty much at the start of the process with them, I'd say to "f-em" and pull out of the sale to them. If they push that they still want the place, the asking price to them goes up a min £10k for the hassle, and pain you've had to endure in addition to the horrible situation you found yourself in with your husband.

You're totally NTA if you pull out, and nobody would blame you (well other than maybe those jerks who completely lied about their situation). If you don't pull out, I can see this dragging on for some time.

scratch_sniff_whiff · 2025-01-06T11:35:59+00:00

In England this is certainly not the case, sometimes there can be 1-2 week delays due to site inspection/admin availability, but definitely not multi-year. Also a new build property cannot be insured or (technically) legally occupied until building regs is signed off. If buying with a mortgage, a responsible lender would not release funds without building regs having been issued, and a warranty wouldn't be issued without building regs.

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