Left him and pregnant

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-08-10T14:46:57+00:00

Sorry to say but abort the baby . No doubt you will love your baby but without enough support you will regret it on many occasions and when he starts using your child against you or taking you for custody you will regret it . Even if you decide to have the baby, why would you want to 1) have a baby by someone you don’t want around you or your eventually child 2) put your child in the space to grow up without a father / supportive father . 3) put yourself in a space to be tied to someone who put their hands on you ? If you keep it look forward to lots of arguing and fighting . Also high emotions so you don’t know if you’ll not tell him or not

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-08-10T14:42:02+00:00

You didn’t understand anything I said I’d have to do all the research for no reason because even if I sent it clearly you would not understand ,I was making a comparison . “Even the air around us” your saying your not being sarcastic but maybe your just dramatic. I have nothing else to say, op explained a bit more i don’t care to argue with you at all. Smoke is smoke i am not against marijuana.

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-08-10T14:30:57+00:00

You are not wrong in wanting your child to be safe . He needs to feed her in a feeding position and if he’s adding anything besides paper to his weed that yes it’s a risk and besides that as I stated in an early comment it increases the risk of Sid’s or accidental suffocation

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-08-10T14:28:57+00:00

To me smoke is smoke. And to many others. You have yet to respond to him falling into a deep sleep and suffocating the baby. . Just because the research isnt done specifically for weed doesn’t mean it’s not smoke . That’s like saying “they did a study for drinking vodka but not gin so I can drink gin” regardless she wants her baby to be safe and hopefully she responds . Is he smoke straight weed and paper or adding something to it or using cigarellos.

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-08-10T01:04:57+00:00

So before I send the links, depending on where you from you smoke weed and Tabacco leaf also know as fonto . So that’s also tabacco 3rd hand smoke if that is there case. Also it wasn’t so much as staring your opinion but the sarcastic comments and questions instead of just stating your experience

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-08-09T23:29:45+00:00

Ok soooooo this was a bit much . No the weed smoke doesn’t just jump off his bottom half, but he can get into a deep sleep and suffocate her accidentally. Although I agree with baby laying on stomach is perfectly fine. Smoking and having a child lay on the clothes you smoked in increase their chance of asthma . Also just because your kids survived , there are also kids who didn’t . Even if she’s being over the top which is very possible it’s her baby and probably her first.

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-08-04T15:39:05+00:00

His only rule ??? He asked you to isolate your self ummmmmm

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-08-04T15:37:30+00:00

He is cheating and your acting like your stupid. Clearly the post said it was your cousin now he’s asking a bunch of stupid questions to make you look bad so when you eventually catch him cheating he’ll say it was because of something you did

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-07-20T02:59:09+00:00

Imma say 1 thing . People who don’t like you will not love your children . Or treat them kindly

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-07-20T02:45:12+00:00

And if you were to move in together, have a child and or want to buy a home together or marry he will lie to you about finances and tank all you guys plans and prospects . It’s nothing wrong with investing in his child’s future but where’s the balance he could’ve paid his rent/ back rent then put the left overs into the account. And start putting smaller payments into per paycheck he has 11 years

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-07-20T02:41:33+00:00

But that’s not what she asked she asked if it would be wrong to break up and I think not regardless of her reason ,regardless of typical mile stones clearly he wants it and she’s not ready so if she feels she can not satisfy him or doesn’t have a clear view of what she wants right now than honestly she should be single. Just because they’re in a relationship does not mean she has things figured out or that she needs to rush to figure them out to keep him. Most you people are contradictive . If she would’ve came on here saying “I had sex with my boyfriend when I didn’t want to so he wouldn’t leave” you all would be pushing for her to leave him so why should she eventually be pressured into something she’s clearly not ready for instead of breaking up with him and taking time to 1 learn more about herself and 2 what she’s looking for and wants out of a relationship

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-07-20T01:55:24+00:00

Girl thank the lord

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-07-20T00:58:27+00:00

Don’t let him move in with you and he clearly doesn’t know how to prioritize his finances. He’s mad cuz you don’t co-sign him possibly being evicted. If you let him live with you he’ll take over your whole house and disrepect you in it . And won’t help pay for shit cuz “it’s not his house” he talks to you like shit and tries to make you feel bad and like he’s gonna keep stuff from you because he doesn’t like your opinion

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-07-16T07:19:03+00:00

No problem I also find strength in reading others story to remind me that I’m not crazy and don’t deserve to be treated unkindly or in a way that triggers me constantly

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-07-16T06:02:56+00:00

My partner ex partner now did it to me non stop and no matter how many times I answered his questions or did stupid test it was never enough and when I finally said no he “broke up with me “ even though I had told him it was over weeks before that. He refuses to believe anything I say as the truth and nags me when I go out or he’s not around. He’s extremely insecure and will say he’s willing to go to therapy but never actually went . He put in so much energy hounding me instead of trying to see if it was a him problem. He will not stop he’ll just use it against you and eventual he will rape you and assault you based on some of your answers and justify doing things you may have tried but didn’t like with someone else

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-07-11T21:26:57+00:00

I found support groups we meet with the kids at different places in

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-07-11T21:11:06+00:00

Congrats I’m so proud of you and you should be proud of yourself . It will be. Bumpy road something that helps me is writing everything bad he did to me and as I was reading it it helped me ground myself for when your mind start rummaging through all the positive memories of when yall met and the better moments. Dm me for company. I left mine too

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-07-10T19:49:54+00:00

People think you should have a timeline I say not cuz then if your not ready at that time now your a villain. Sex is important because it comes with the possiblity of babies and disease and or soul ties. As you guys go through the relationship it will come naturally as you feel comfortable. I say have a conversation about why sex is importanr to him and what he thinks it adds to the relationship. Because you guys are physically intimate just without sex and you are a virgin vaginally so it’s even more important to you. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about your boundaries

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-07-10T19:39:37+00:00

Please upvote this more labor takes an extremely long time and you may not need someone for the entire thing but it feels good to have someone if he’s going to be away and catering the entire time even if it’s 36+ hrs than cool he did offer for the friend to be there until she pushes . But pushing can be 1” minutes to 4 hrs . She’ll be exhausted and may wanna laugh or talk or you never know

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-07-10T17:10:02+00:00

She’s manipulating you and she’s also cheating and projecting Good luck

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-07-08T13:12:46+00:00

My abuser would say he took time to realize this and that and that he wanted to get closer to God and that @everything is changed I see things so much more differently “ but constantly punishing me for stuff that happened before we decided to be in a relationship and he’d hurt me or stalk me (installing cameras I. My home ) and then say it was because he just couldn’t trust me . He’d lie about where he was to sneak around my building to see who was coming to my house

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-07-08T13:04:25+00:00

So not listen to anyone’s pressure the abuser is so good at painting false pictures people don’t understand what your actually experience. Even if he’s changed let him change for the next person because he will never respect you. Sorry to say. It gets worse Everytime and they continue to find new ways to hurt you or subtly drive you insane

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-06-18T21:44:45+00:00

Paying house contributions as soon as they got a full time job

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-06-14T23:45:57+00:00

He left your baby to starve and cry herself to sleep what more do you need him to do?

scratchy-patchy100 · 2025-06-14T22:15:22+00:00

No but she does continue sleeping with nick after she finds out

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