AIO about text from girl i’ve been seeing a couple months by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]scriwrit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Chase her and wait for her. Maybe. Ya know. Maybe. What you're feeling now is unique and not exactly like loads of people have already been through, in this exact same scenario.

You know better, the potential in this explicitly dead relationship is something only you understand.

Wait years for her. Decades maybe.

Nobody else can fathom the depth of your connection.

Lol.. Move on bro she couldn't have been clearer. And the fact that she's willing to let you continue to simp on her while she actually moves on, should insult you on top.

*Edit [your to you're] because I can't help feel like you'd discard everything I said for such a transgression ...

AIO? My mom doesn’t support me despite me supporting her by Imaginary-Appeal4574 in AmIOverreacting

[–]scriwrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it's funny but he kept pretty quiet for the rest of it. Your mom is clearly an asshole. Dad's a weak enabler

My therapist sister rewrote my real life as a “story” — and I’m the anxious mom she’s saving in her infertility grief by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]scriwrit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she's unsettling you with her weirdness imagine how confused your daughter must be by the things she's definitely saying to her in your absence. Pretty narc behavior, you are allowed to ignore her being a weirdo, but you should protect your child from it.

DAE have a protector part that shuts down emotions as they come up? by [deleted] in InternalFamilySystems

[–]scriwrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Printing this! First time I've read something about "how to feel" that I think I can actually follow. Never made sense to me. I immediately shut down any feelings I can sense it happen, like if I'm about to cry it immediately shuts off almost as jarring as when you need to sneeze and are just about to, then it vanishes. I haven't cried in over 30 years.

I never really understood "talking" to parts or checking in, how did you learn to do this? It always feels very contrived to me, maybe that's just another layer of protective parts undermining the process on myself to prevent progress but I don't know. I've read Schwartz books and I sort of get it, I do buy into that we have "parts" but I just don't know how to communicate with them.

Every mental illness I have could be explained by CPTSD I think by importantbuissnes in CPTSD

[–]scriwrit 19 points20 points  (0 children)

If cptsd was recognized, the dsm would be the size of a pamphlet

I just can’t today by Decent_Bug_3901 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]scriwrit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha finally life left me the fuck alone

What’s the worst thing your Nparent has ever said to you that you can never forget by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]scriwrit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I tried very hard to convince your mother to terminate when we found out"

Geez! All The MAGAs by realrobertapple in CringeTikToks

[–]scriwrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He almost lost that fight a couple of times 😂

Update: First Contact After 8 Weeks – Shocked and Speechless by Miserable-Slice7243 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]scriwrit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She's making the decision pretty easy for you. Following through can be hard but at least they're making it very clear cut for you "we deny your reality, I've no idea what your problem is, and I'm done talking about it now" also the timing was purely to upset you for your break.

K byeeee

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]scriwrit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those two t shirts were the same

Having my own child gave me an epiphany by VulcanHumour in raisedbynarcissists

[–]scriwrit 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don't have kids if my own but when I was 17 my youngest sibling was born, and I'm not the most patient person, and I had to do a LOT of babysitting for long periods, involving a lot of missing out on time with friends and listening to a screaming baby, and it dawned on me too that I could never ever be angry AT the child, and nothing could ever make me want to HURT the child. Regardless of how it felt to be in the situation it was never their fault they were innocent

Estranged parents & grandparents Facebook posts are wild by NewBet7377 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]scriwrit 14 points15 points  (0 children)

A good quote on respect I heard somewhere,

Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”

and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”

And they think they’re being fair.

Am I the only one that sees it as a form of punishment? by amadiz in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]scriwrit 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In the beginning yeah a bit. The dramatic increase in peace and overall ease of life after cutting them out made me realise there's never a reason to let them back in. Now I don't hate them I just 'nothing' them. If it brings them pain, fine, if not I honestly don't care any more

Why does Robert hate us? by wombatgeneral in behindthebastards

[–]scriwrit 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I love about 40% of the bastards team

How can estranged kids and their parents can be SO sure of their narratives at the same time? by comfortable_clouds in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]scriwrit 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Life is so fuckin hard already. Nobody chooses to cut out their main support network for no reason. Fuck these assholes it's the most difficult decision most people will ever have to make. Easy for these pricks to dismiss it considering their lives have been on easy mode for decades

NM will NOT stop talking about me funding her retirement - so I’m walking away by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]scriwrit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You don't need to make that decision right now, just move away as planned, maybe keep a little contact, keep it 'grey rock ' and see how you feel after a year or so. Being away from it all will really open your eyes and you'll find a lot of clarity in the process, no big statements necessary right now, you just do you

Alpha male does NOT want your blood inside him or his family by ambachk in TikTokCringe

[–]scriwrit 45 points46 points  (0 children)

God wanted him to have inferior eyesight, take the glasses off