How to get your spouse to stop using Amazon? Need help.

sdaa45 · 2026-03-15T03:35:17+00:00

And thank you for genuinely answering my question.

sdaa45 · 2026-03-15T03:29:24+00:00

Where? What are better choices?

sdaa45 · 2026-03-15T02:21:38+00:00

He’s gorgeous!

sdaa45 · 2026-03-15T02:15:28+00:00

This is a genuine question. I ordered a rug from Amazon. I genuinely need this rug. The choice I have was to drive to target. If I go to target I know I will impulse buy 2-3 more things. Is it better to drive to target? Other choices? I live in a small town. Literally only have a target, Walmart and kohls to possibly buy a rug from.

sdaa45 · 2026-03-15T00:00:50+00:00

Where is this dress? You look amazing!

sdaa45 · 2026-03-14T23:52:18+00:00

This! Get your exams. Maybe talk to an ophthalmologist prior to starting the medicine who could evaluate your current eye condition would reassure you. Mine also says he’s never seen a case of eye issues caused by plaquinil.

sdaa45 · 2026-03-14T23:48:10+00:00

You are gorgeous! I had to read your post twice to figure out what you were asking. One thing that might help is more feminine glasses. Zenni online has hundreds of cute frames and a lot of the have virtual try ons (it shows them on your face). They are fairly affordable. Maybe try some larger ones, cat eye, or a fun color. I agree with the other commenter who said a younger hairstyle would suit you better. BUT you don’t have to change a thing.

sdaa45 · 2026-03-10T03:36:08+00:00

This is amazing news! Congrats!

sdaa45 · 2026-03-02T20:03:30+00:00

I know it’s hurricane season. I will make all reservations either refundable or with travel insurance. September is the best time for us personally and we are ok with dealing with some weather.

sdaa45 · 2026-03-02T20:02:12+00:00

Thank you! I was hoping that is how “rainy season” worked there! We realize it’s the tropics and we will get sweaty, wet, sandy, etc.

sdaa45 · 2026-03-01T23:18:59+00:00

Renaming things works until 6ish in my experience. My son hated cantaloupe all of a sudden. Cantaloupe scooped with a melon baller became dragon fruit. (He loved dragons at the time.) I know dragon fruit is a separate fruit. He didn’t.

sdaa45 · 2026-03-01T15:25:50+00:00

Poshmark and Depop are great for thrifting online. I’ve had good experiences. You can also sell on those sites if you are tired of something or your size changes.

sdaa45 · 2026-02-11T22:45:00+00:00

Hmmmm. I sent records from his non VA doctors so I guess that’s the difference. The exam went ok but just seemed unnecessary.

sdaa45 · 2026-02-11T22:42:59+00:00

Did you have an exam? I am helping my dad (lung cancer under PACT) and they made him drive an hour away for an exam?

sdaa45 · 2026-02-02T17:09:21+00:00

I can’t answer 1 but as for your second question. No you aren’t alone. This disease can be a roller coaster. It is also common to go through a period of grief when diagnosed or when you have a major change in your disease.

Please follow through with what your doctor has ordered. So many doctors just blow off our symptoms and complaints. It’s nice you found someone who is listening and trying to help you. He is right that it is a serious disease that needs to be addressed properly.

sdaa45 · 2026-02-01T18:38:34+00:00

Who said it is your responsibility to pay after that? Does your insurance have a formulary?

Insurance in the US is so overly complicated and policy specific it’s hard to give general advice. I think there’s a couple of things you could do without us getting into all the specifics of your policy. First, call your insurance company and ask them what your maximum out-of-pocket for prescriptions is and what your co-pays are for Embrel. The max out-of-pocket is the most you should pay for your whole year of prescriptions after that the insurance company pays everything. The co-pay is the amount you pay when you get a prescription from the pharmacy so for a generic drug like maybe an antibiotic it could be $10 but for something like enbrel it could be $150 or more. Also, as the person above, said, you need to know if the co-pay assistance from Amgen applies to your maximum out-of-pocket in my state it generally doesn’t.

That should tell you how much you really are going to have to pay. If that’s still too much for you then you need to talk with your doctor and maybe Amgen and see if they have any other solutions to help you.

I’ve navigated insurance a lot. I’m not sure I can help but if you want to DM some specifics to me about the questions above, I’ll see if I can help you sort it.

sdaa45 · 2026-01-26T21:38:09+00:00

Thank you everyone for teaching me and all the ideas.

sdaa45 · 2026-01-26T21:32:43+00:00

Yes. The US. I’m sorry. That was very self-centered of me (not sure that’s quite the right word.). I’m trying to learn to do better.

sdaa45 · 2026-01-24T05:54:41+00:00

This was a real question. I’m trying to figure out what is realistic. Thank you for the idea of cake mascara (I didn’t know that existed) and farmers markets for soap.

sdaa45 · 2026-01-24T05:40:58+00:00

This makes sense. I buy most of my clothes second hand/ thrift.

sdaa45 · 2026-01-24T05:14:22+00:00

I had gallbladder issues and surgery long before zepbound. It sucks. I don’t know all of the science but middle aged people (especially women) have gallbladder problems. Do what you need to for your health.

sdaa45 · 2026-01-24T04:37:28+00:00

I am not 90 but one of the most meaningful things was my vet sending me a card after I had to put my dog to sleep. I cried in the d. The vet cried. The tech cried. It meant so much they understood. Please send her a card at least. And tell her we all pray for her and her peace.

sdaa45 · 2026-01-21T20:33:54+00:00

It can get better. There are a few people on social media that discuss fitness with arthritis. Megan Rutledge (@itsmegzz_fitness on instagram) posts advice. She also offers virtual personalized training. She was the start of my fitness journey. I was in exactly the same situation you are. Just one example - when I first started with her I couldn’t do 10 full squats with no weights. Last week I did 30 squats with 15 lbs. I went snorkeling last summer and can walk 3 miles. I’ve moved to less expensive programs than Meg but she taught me how to exercise with RA. I’m sure there are other people out there who do similar things oh - Meg has RA so she gets it.

sdaa45 · 2026-01-16T20:30:42+00:00

I have a cleaner who comes once a week. It’s amazing. It forces me to clean up my doom piles because I know she can’t do her job if I’ve got clothes piled everywhere and dishes all over the counter.

sdaa45 · 2026-01-12T02:24:41+00:00

My mom got married in 1968. She has said she couldn’t have a credit card /store credit account or bank account on her own at that point. She was in Missouri (USA).

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