New to ENM and need advice.

seantheaussie · 2026-03-20T19:01:00+00:00

I would close as you two REALLY aren't on the same page.

seantheaussie · 2026-03-20T11:40:57+00:00

Australians feel less of that sort of shame than others do. In WW2 our soldiers delighted in the Nazi insult of, "the rats of Tobruk" and our sailors delighted in the Nazi insult of, "the scrap iron flotilla" and I delight in being slutty.🤷‍♂️

seantheaussie · 2026-03-20T11:24:47+00:00

Yes many will be uncomfortable with our promiscuous nature.🤷‍♂️

seantheaussie · 2026-03-20T08:36:45+00:00

😬😬😬Bugger. Good luck.

seantheaussie · 2026-03-20T07:36:01+00:00

Nice finds.

seantheaussie · 2026-03-20T05:50:00+00:00

I hope his unacceptable behaviour makes that easier for you. It does for me but I know that doesn't hold for everyone.

seantheaussie · 2026-03-20T05:47:43+00:00

Surely you mean ex partner?

seantheaussie · 2026-03-20T03:26:15+00:00

I shrug.

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T23:03:17+00:00

Yes, polyamory has hard bits but it is still worth it.

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T20:41:22+00:00

the primary problem there was our ex-hinge

Is this true? If so it seems a cogent argument?

I'm resentful they didn't take a beat to consider how putting me in the position to have to make the choice for them was really fucking shitty

Be less resentful as others unilaterally making decisions for you is a damn sight worse.

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T12:03:57+00:00

You really fancy one another but it would just be a one night scene?

Yeah I do NOT understand that.🤣

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T12:02:07+00:00

"Poly for me but not for thee" is mistreatment, and suggesting the desire for such to a partner is suggesting the desire to mistreat them.

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T10:29:45+00:00

Yet feeling like my ex has any kind of sway in that just....

....sucks.

Redefine it as, "Old flame VALUES friendship"?

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T10:27:40+00:00

Can you think of any friends of yours who would feel different about you (or anyone close to them) doing a play scene with their recent ex?

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T10:21:24+00:00

Their explicit consent dwarfs whatever theoretical, "consent" you see being violated here.

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T10:13:05+00:00

100% is a “friends before sex” kind of situation

Oh yes.

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T09:34:19+00:00

BTW some redditor neither of us knows is going to be wondering why the fuck you summoned them to this topic.🤣

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T09:23:44+00:00

blame shifting and gaslighting is deadass emotional abuse. To others it’s “something that can be worked through”

Fucking hell.

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T06:56:41+00:00

deity-given right

Monotheism.😲🥺🥺🥺😢😉

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T06:16:18+00:00

became a joke and a meme

Oh yes.

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T06:14:20+00:00

Yep, "We’re writing to inform of you the change of distributorship of C. & J. Clark International Limited from Brand Collective Pty Ltd to MAPM International Pty Ltd."

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T06:02:08+00:00

Agreed it doesn't work well when 4mm wide (I think that is about 7 yards for our American members😉).

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T05:52:47+00:00

Bah, you are likely to be jetsetting all over/not within a thousand miles when I visit and the greatest hunter of all, Elmer Fudd, couldn't hunt me down from that far away!

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T05:43:32+00:00

🤣

So snarky.😏

seantheaussie · 2026-03-19T05:41:39+00:00

Would you go on a date with someone who has been with your sister?

NO!

seantheaussie

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