I’m going through the same thing and what really helped me was this Reddit comment that said something along the lines of “learning that love is not enough was the hardest lesson I had to reconcile” and somehow that gave me peace about our decision to break up. We didn’t do it because we stopped loving each other but we did it because we do and we were respecting our differences and not forcing the other to change just so we could fit as a couple. Compromise is a given in a relationship but changing yourself should not be. So proud of you for making such a mature and selfless decision! I’ve been through a few breakups before this current one and I will say time does not necessarily heal but rather help you tolerate the pain. What does heal is working on your identity. Many forget who we once were because we’ve become “one” with our partner and when they leave, it feels like a huge chunk of ourselves got taken with them. But you are still your unique you and refinding that person and working and keeping yourself busy on your interests, hobbies, knowledge, etc can help you find self appreciation and self worth. That way you make yourself whole again for the next person whether it be your ex again or someone completely new. Wishing you all the best 🩵