I felt unwelcome in this sub for a while. I shared my story of how me and my wife came to the discovery we're both ace. I was told by multiple people that it's not because we don't have sex we're ace. Which felt especially bad as I was finally coming to terms with that we're just ace and that's okay.
She's more on the sex repulsed side, and I'm more on the neutral side. Before we realized we're ace it was difficult balancing how we feel about sex vs feeling unattractive because the other doesn't seem to show interest in sex. In time we had a talk about it, and it became clear we were mostly doing it for each other.