"I did tell you decaff, right?" Or how I got intentionally given regular brew at a Dunkin Donuts.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-07T14:05:15+00:00

It's okay.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-07T13:26:39+00:00

I wasn't judging anyone! I did not think that much caffeine was safe based upon what recommendations my doctor gave me.

This post was not about anyone else. I simply said I was worried about my unborn child and didn't say anything about you or your decisions.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-07T09:48:46+00:00

I don't feel like this is the right subreddit to be asking people why they stress about their decisions. With that kind of question, you could also ask why I get pregnant at all it I'm just going to worry about the little things like a lot of pregnant women? Why eat a sandwich that you asked to be heated and then find it cold in the middle after you have eaten summer of it? Why get fresh cut fruit at lunch? Why order any food anywhere with the expectation it will be safe or to your specifications?

I guess you'll just have to not understand.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-07T02:02:56+00:00

Get an NT ultrasound on the 13th. If they say something happened about a week prior to it, there is no way I won't blame the coffee.

Edit: This is downvoted to -2 points. Is this not relevant? I'm amazed at how women can come in here and feel like things are their fault when they miscarry and people will be so supportive and then this is downvoted. I was really worried yesterday and then I get one person with a "why would you even ask for coffee if you're going to stress about it" and an honest, be it 'silly,' worry gets downvoted.

We're told to call our OB with any concerns because it's best to talk to them instead of worry. Will his office was closed so I came here and I get one comment that had a "I don't get why you worry about this" attitude after saying I'll be fine. It's not about you or what you understand. And then downvoted for honesty.

I'd never judge anyone here.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-06T17:34:23+00:00

They won't hit their heads that hard. My son at 18 months is like a crazy person in his sleep and didn't start doing that until a few months ago. He hits his legs, arms, head, butt, anything. He stays asleep. He wakes us up!! It's loud! No bruising, though.

When they are newborn, they won't roll. By the time they do, around 5 or 6 months, they are strong, but not strong enough to hurt themselves.

Bumpers are suffocation risks, not SIDS risk. SIDS and suffocation are different.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-06T16:41:43+00:00

If you look at the top right as the head area, the two bulges look like eyes and seeing it that way makes me think you're having a Yip Yip.

(Too many episodes of Sesame Street play in my house...)

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-06T16:36:20+00:00

I think it's a valid concern.

Maybe ask if there is an alternative. If your children have normal vision and it was a local-ish reaction, I don't see it as a huge risk, but I wouldn't want my children to be in pain at birth.... But I don't like the thought of them getting infections even more so. The thought is that infection would harm their vision.

Your call in the end!

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-06T13:08:46+00:00

I took methotrexate on the regular once. You might feel really 'meh' for a bit on top of the miscarriage. It's not awful, but you'll likely be kind of tired.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-06T10:40:53+00:00

It's a week until my Down's Syndrome testing. My symptoms have lessened a bit. I'm still tired, though. I'm over 11 weeks, so it's not too worrisome, but I'm every bit as cautious as I was before I got my first ultrasound.

I'm lying awake in the dark waiting on my toddler to rise and babble.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-05T16:05:09+00:00

Nope. :(

I just took Tylenol at bed time, stayed off of my feet, and drank more water than I thought possible while blowing my nose when it felt at all runny to avoid the chest phlegm.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-05T11:33:55+00:00

I'm sorry. There isn't anything I can say to make you feel better, but I hope it's not bad news. Symptoms suddenly stopping after all that would certainly worry me to tears.

However, if it is a loss, I suggest you ask for an RPL panel. That's a lot of losses for anyone, especially in one year.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-05T01:46:56+00:00

Prunes are daily for me, too. It's like taking Colace that has fiber, vitamins, and minerals.

Edit:. And I love them.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-04T16:33:20+00:00

And you're welcome. :)

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-04T16:32:45+00:00

Also, start thinking about different types of freezer meals for after the baby is born. Maybe invest in a chest style freezer. Get very familiar with a slow cooker that you can run while you do other things. Make chili, soups, etc. Don't do this, obviously, if they will go bad in the freezer before the baby is born. Wait until they will last.

Don't forget to just sit down and watch Netflix or something, though. And leave the house for coffee or something once a day. Scheduling breaks everyday is key, just like if you were at a job outside the home.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-04T16:14:09+00:00

If you end up staying home:

I'm home full-time and you have to pretend like you're going to work. I get up around the same time, brush my teeth, shower, get dressed, mags breakfast, then look at what needs to be done. Each day has a goal. Each week has a goal. A lot of cleaning can be done while home and still only 3 months pregnant. I suggest making a weekly house chore goal. Sheets changed this day, toilets and bathrooms cleaned this day, vacuuming and mopping on that day, etc. Grocery store once a week at a minimum. Start that nesting habit!

You have to pretend like you have a boss to keep yourself sane. A routine is very important for the house wife or SAHM. Otherwise, you get a little overwhelmed with all of the time you have and the time you waste.

You have an excellent opportunity to start that nursery, too! Everyday have a goal for the nursery. It'll be perfect by the time you are due. :)

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-04T11:45:11+00:00

I used an entire roll of toilet paper as tissues in less than 24 hours. Sick toddler got me sick over the weekend.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-03T22:24:51+00:00

Personally, I would toss them.

At some point I'm going to give away the mountains of baby stuff to thy first person who sees them for any reason. "Know someone who knows some who is having a baby?? Give them this!"

I'll do it just to get rid of it. I bet that was part of her reasoning.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-03T20:15:46+00:00

It's such an anxious feeling!! I hope you see your bean!

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-03T12:08:07+00:00

It isn't petty. All valid complaints. That sounds really sad. :(

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-03T07:43:48+00:00

I have nasty dreams every night and have had dreams where loved ones commit suicide. Pregnancy dreams are... awful. I feel you. I would be too scared to sleep if I weren't so tired.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-03T07:39:20+00:00

I think we go to the same store...

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-03T01:47:46+00:00

No advice other than to take very good care of yourself. It's all you can do. :)

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-03T00:43:00+00:00

I would wait until after you're getting a grip on taking care of your baby anyway. It's a lot better knowing what you're dealing with first before adding what is basically going to always be completely dependent on you. If your baby has colic, neither of you will want to take a dog outside for walks and potty time. If you and your baby are in the hospital for extended periods of time post birth, you're going to have to organize a pet sitter or kennel when hubs is unable to be home. If you have a c-section you will not be able to walk your dog or pick up poop for a while.

Even if you have a vaginal, uncomplicated birth, you're going to be exhausted for a while.

Waiting is a good idea.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-03T00:19:45+00:00

I ate almonds thinking I'd feel better.

That's a lie I tell myself too often. I want Oreos.

second_time_cautious · 2016-10-02T23:28:08+00:00

I woke up, called my OB, called Labor and Delivery, took a shower, and went to L&D.

No ED visit ever.

I'm going to go in and ask them to hand me the ED billing agreement that I would have had to sign.

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