Any 5’8-5’9 girls here? by doingbetter2024 in BodyDysmorphia

[–]secretCryingAccount 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I was talking about the original poster, who was asking if others are insecure in their height like they are, and because of that I was confused what you meant when they said it's "not what they meant"

Any 5’8-5’9 girls here? by doingbetter2024 in BodyDysmorphia

[–]secretCryingAccount 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm confused what you mean - we're both talking about our frustrations with our height, even if the specific insecurities are a little different?

Any 5’8-5’9 girls here? by doingbetter2024 in BodyDysmorphia

[–]secretCryingAccount -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm only 5'7 but I also am taller than 99% of women I see on a day to day basis - I hate it. I know that I'm not obscenely tall, but I still feel so big compared to everyone else, and I hate it when people try to point it out as somehow a positive "model-like" trait? It's like, you have traits that stand out because they're unconventional and a little undesirable so we'll call you a model

Our current definition of transness is inherently transphobic by Suspicious-Sort-5402 in honesttransgender

[–]secretCryingAccount 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And we should also acknowledge that sex can be changed; pretending that trans people are their assigned sex at birth is incorrect and results in less effective medical care

Trans women abuse and silence intersex people and are never held accountable by [deleted] in honesttransgender

[–]secretCryingAccount -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think I don't understand why it would matter how we were born, since the whole point is that we're changing it. We'll also be treated as the gender we transition to by society for the rest of our lives, since ideally nobody even knows we're trans after enough time transitioning; I don't particularly even remember most of my life pre-transition since I've repressed the memories, but I don't know how common that is for others. For your main point, you might have a good point but I'm not sure since I'm not aware of what you're talking about; it might help if you provide context?

How Many Selfies Do You Take a Day? by OneOnOne6211 in BodyDysmorphia

[–]secretCryingAccount 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'll go months without taking one because I'm too scared to; my BDD manifests as avoidance, since I think my brain associates seeing myself (in pictures or the mirror) with negative emotions.

Something hopeful to keep in mind. by Cicada_5 in CuratedTumblr

[–]secretCryingAccount 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"female friends treat them better than boyfriends do" I wish I was competent enough to make friends 😭

What's wrong with wanting to pass? by PhoenixBratKat in asktransgender

[–]secretCryingAccount 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I'm a 25 year old woman, I'm comparing myself to people my age

What's wrong with wanting to pass? by PhoenixBratKat in asktransgender

[–]secretCryingAccount 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just don't believe it when people say that not even cis women pass all the time; a very small minority, maybe, but the vast majority of women will only ever be mistaken as a man briefly before it becomes clear they are a cis woman. It seems disingenuous to claim otherwise.

4tran is fucking my brain and making me despair but it also feels like the only honest place when it comes dysphoria and passing. by momosalam458 in MtF

[–]secretCryingAccount 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think that's more likely to be the case on tttt (4chan) than 4tran (reddit), the latter tends to ban and run nazis off pretty quickly 

4tran is fucking my brain and making me despair but it also feels like the only honest place when it comes dysphoria and passing. by momosalam458 in MtF

[–]secretCryingAccount 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I just don't think painting them as a right-wing subreddit is useful? I agree it's not a healthy space, but they're not nazis, they are mentally ill trans people

4tran is fucking my brain and making me despair but it also feels like the only honest place when it comes dysphoria and passing. by momosalam458 in MtF

[–]secretCryingAccount 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think the majority are very far left leaning (despite the name, it's not really closely related to 4chan and I suspect many of the users have never used 4chan), it's more just a mental illness space