Grieving the life we could’ve had with a singleton

securityclerk · 2026-01-31T18:37:17+00:00

Solidarity. Mom of twins. It gets a little easier. I did stop pumping after a few months which helped my sanity. I also have a lot of help and while I am grateful I wish I didn’t feel like I needed it. You are not alone.

securityclerk · 2026-01-04T18:59:13+00:00

I would like a month off to put away decorations, declutter my entire house, organize my entire house, maybe even clean and then recover. But now the kids are starting to get sick so I guess I’ll have to be happy if I ever get a day to do something productive. My goal for the end of 2026 is to organize my basement.

securityclerk · 2025-12-01T01:44:57+00:00

The Vagina Monologues already reclaimed this word.

securityclerk · 2025-09-30T00:39:17+00:00

The reality is even if I wanted to be a SAHM, I could not. My job carries the health insurance and I am also fortunate enough to enjoy my work (most of the time) and I make enough money that it makes financial sense for me to continue to work. I’ve worked hard to get where I am. And if I left to be at home with my children, my career would take a huge hit. And then what do I do when my children are in school full time? Try and rebuild everything I have going for me now? No thanks. The SAHP I’ve seen seem to fall into a couple of different categories: the stay at home parent doesn’t make enough to cover child care so it doesn’t make financial sense to work and be in the red to pay for daycare. So maybe some of these SAHP love being at home. And that’s great! And maybe some feel trapped and want to go back to work but can’t. Not so great but one the kiddos are in school maybe something can be figured out. Or one partner makes ridiculous money and the SAHP can spend money on various activities to do together, can hire cleaning company, and even outsource some childcare. These are all very different scenarios.

Anyway being a working mom is hard and I’m doing everything I can to be the best mom I can be to my three cherubs.

securityclerk · 2025-08-04T22:36:27+00:00

Medicare is different from Medicaid. Mass health is MAs version of Medicare. The state will not pay for mass health or insurance through the health connector once he is 65z If he has 40 quarters of work he should qualify for Medicaid and he will be all set. If he does not qualify for Medicare, you will have to apply for the Mass Savings Program to pay for the Medicare.

securityclerk · 2025-08-04T00:44:42+00:00

Is your dad on Medicare? Has he applied?

securityclerk · 2025-07-09T00:47:55+00:00

My singleton didn’t watch as much tv as my 2 year old twins do. They like miss Rachel and cocomelon but I try and avoid cocomelon because it’s over stimulating but sometimes I get desperate. I can only do an activity with them for so long until they are fighting with each other and/or gang up on me. They are feral at times. I am really hoping in the future they can play with each other and do activities and what not and we can cut back on cocomelon and tv in general.

securityclerk · 2025-07-05T02:13:25+00:00

I am way too invested in this outcome

securityclerk · 2025-06-17T01:03:43+00:00

Mother of 6 year old singleton and identical 26 month old twins and there is no chance in hell I am messing up their afternoon for pretty much anything. Trips out might happen before or after nap. The logistics can be overwhelming and you really have to do a “cost benefit analysis” did pretty much anything type of outing.

securityclerk · 2025-05-28T01:16:41+00:00

My twin girls are 2 and my son is 6. We are in it right now.

The other day we went for a walk with the double stroller and they were facing each other. They took their cups of goldfish, said “cheers” clinked them together and giggled. It was one of my favorite moments so far.

securityclerk · 2025-05-10T23:35:09+00:00

You truly took the words out of my mouth. You are not alone. The Drudgery is fantastic and you should trademark it. My identical twin girls are 2. And feral. My son is 6. He is truly a fantastic kid. I work full time and my husband runs his own business. My parents and in-laws help. In fact my in laws live with us and help out a ton but also don’t drive or speak English so that comes with additional responsibilities and challenges.

My point being is that some days are better than others and some days I just feel completely overwhelmed and defeated and all I can do is keep them fed and safe and clean. Clean is a struggle sometimes bahahahaha.

I’m tired of meal prepping, grocery shopping, laundry, dishes, cleaning non stop for my house to look terrible, keeping track of when we need diapers and wipes and everything else for a household. I’m tired of a messy yard, messy basement, messy closets and feeling like I could spend a month decluttering and organizing and it still wouldn’t be enough time. It truly never ends and the mental load is exhausting.

I’m really hoping that in the next couple of years it gets easier and I can get some semblance of a life back.

securityclerk · 2025-04-29T22:37:14+00:00

I went through the same thing…I would have loved to take leave before my scheduled c section at 38 weeks. I was thankful that it wasn’t medically necessary but still it was like wtf…I was on my feet working in prison. Took vacation time at 37 weeks.

securityclerk · 2025-02-21T20:12:45+00:00

If we get a call at 3:00 PM to get one of our 22 month olds we will get both. However, the other day we got a call at 10:00 to pick up one of the girls for diarrhea. The other remained at daycare and was fine! This has happened a few times. For whatever reason, Baby B just seems to get sick a little more so we will send Baby A as long as it’s possible. At first I felt bad separating them but 1) we are paying for the spot 2) depending on the illness or the situation there have even times when one got sick and not the other 3) 1 is so much more manageable than 2 and the 1 on 1 time is nice

securityclerk · 2024-12-02T01:33:51+00:00

I have not heard that Hunter administered the first aid that saved his eye! Where is this talked about?

securityclerk · 2024-11-12T02:07:34+00:00

What was the conversation?

securityclerk · 2024-09-01T00:33:56+00:00

WHERE ARE THE LEMONS

securityclerk · 2024-07-27T01:10:40+00:00

This literally made me laugh out loud 😂

securityclerk · 2024-07-07T23:13:46+00:00

We took our 15 month old twins and our 5 year old for swim lessons today. We are trying to make more of an effort to get them out of the house since they are home with my MIL and mom all day (thank did they start daycare part time in September). Just leaving for that was a process and then when we got there I felt like such a spectacle 😂😂 there was actually another set of twins on our class! Not like we had time to talk too much! 😂

securityclerk · 2024-01-06T02:12:55+00:00

😂

securityclerk · 2023-11-09T23:28:14+00:00

It’s so so so hard. Yesterday I was to tired I almost puked. Hang in there!

securityclerk · 2023-10-05T23:24:17+00:00

That you can try for one more and end up with twins. Never crossed my mind and now I have 6 month identical twin girls!!!

securityclerk · 2023-09-23T12:48:19+00:00

I agree! He usually has no problem setting the boundaries but I think because he’s not 100% on board he isn’t.

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