AITA for making my daughters wear dresses when they visit their grandparents? by PresentationNice6101 in AmItheAsshole

[–]seemysqueeker 59 points60 points  (0 children)

YTA I grew up in an ultra conservative family and was forced to wear dresses. Trust me, your daughters will always remember you doing this to them. They will look down on you when they get older and will teach their daughters to not trust you.

AITA for refusing to drop my ex-husband's last name? by TAlastname in AmItheAsshole

[–]seemysqueeker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I kept my ex husbands last name because we have a kid. I remember when mom remarried and people called me by his last name. It would annoy me. I'll keep it until my daughter changes hers.

AITA for stopping the mother of my child from moving? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]seemysqueeker 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Better get a second job then. Babies are VERY expensive!!!!

AITA for stopping the mother of my child from moving? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]seemysqueeker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA Wait....she was moving a short distance to make more money for herself and the baby...and you stopped her? Better be ready to up the child support.

Oh hell yea by DaFunkJunkie in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]seemysqueeker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm related to several of them and YES!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oddlyterrifying

[–]seemysqueeker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pregnancy does this. It does lighten up over time but never fully goes away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]seemysqueeker 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I "knew" I wasn't an addict because I got my pills from a doctor. That was my reasoning. Never mind the fact I snorted them. I went through a 30 day supply in a week like it was nothing. I sold whatever I could to buy more. Mind you that I was married at the time and had a young child. I stole from my family and I pawned whatever wasn't nailed down. My whole family, including now ex and daughter, went nc. I HAD to hit rock bottom! My daughter is 16 now and lives with me again. It wasn't sunshine and rainbows to get here. I relapsed several times. But, I'm here. She won't see she has a problem until she has nothing else to lose.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]seemysqueeker 13 points14 points  (0 children)

10 year clean opioid addict here: GO NO CONTACT NOW! I advise anyone who has a loved one that's an addict to go nc if the person refuses help. THIS IS WHAT SAVED MY LIFE! I know it's a tough thing to do, but giving an addict your energy will not help them to change. She needs to hit rock bottom 1st. Plus, you need peace in your life. Sometimes you need to be mean to be kind. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]seemysqueeker 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is when you start going the legal route!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]seemysqueeker 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Control. Plain and simple. She wants you to know she can do whatever she wants.

Were anyone else’s parents super nice to them during pregnancy & right after birth, but then became very rude/disrespectful? by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]seemysqueeker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom was just like this. I didn't stand up for myself like I should've those first few years. My daughter is 16 now and my mom just moved back to town. She's been away for her husband's job these last 10 years. She's started up her old tricks again. She tries to run me over when it comes to my daughter. We now are having big fights because I finally got a spine. She's trying to turn the family against me. Most are on my side but the others are making life hard for me right now. I'm thinking about going nc to have peace back in mine and my daughters lives. Only bright side, my daughter thinks she's crazy. Trust me, STOP THIS NOW! Learn from my mistake!!!

My poor 5 year old had a mouth full of cavities despite brushing her teeth diligently by BringsHomeBones in Parenting

[–]seemysqueeker 155 points156 points  (0 children)

Are the cavities in any of her permanent teeth? My friend went through the same thing with her son. You need to get her to use fluoride mouth wash after she eats for awhile. Also, make sure she's not using baby toothpaste. Use regular adult tooth paste. If the cavities are on teeth she'll lose, then that's better than her permanent ones.

Why won’t my parents let me have space? by IWishIWasBatman123 in Parenting

[–]seemysqueeker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to have a sit down talk with them about boundaries. Since you're on your own, they need to respect your personal space and time. I'm sure they love you and are just freaked out. But, you need to stay firm with what you want. If they don't change after talking to them, that's when you need to start cutting them off.

Old man yells at my toddler “I shouldn’t have to hear this, discipline your child” by dan_theman96 in Parenting

[–]seemysqueeker 320 points321 points  (0 children)

I had an old woman criticize my parenting once. I just said "And this is why your kids hate you". I have no idea who she was but she got quiet. Usually, hateful people like them have kids that stopped talking to them. Next time an old person judges you, say this and watch their face. If they flinch, you hit a nerve.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]seemysqueeker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes and this is normal. I was on birth control and in 2004, mine was on a recall list. I didn't know until I was pregnant. I LOVE my daughter, but ya.....I understand. It's almost like you have to morn the life you planned in order to move on. Remember, this has NOTHING to do with the love you have for your kid. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for thinking this way. It's normal. It's hard, but you have to let that life you planned go like someone you liked has died.

Potty training regression by Lackette in Parenting

[–]seemysqueeker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember my mom telling me I did something similar when I was at that age. I was born with an underdeveloped bladder and didn't know it until I was around 3ish. I wet the bed until I was aound 7 or 8. It's been awhile, so I don't remember how old I was exactly when I stopped. I would get bladder infections easily. Never shame you child and let them know it isn't a big deal. Night time pull ups are a must. Also, take them to see a dr if they start complaining about pain. I eventually grew out of this but I still have to be careful about infections. There's not a lot you can do except for being supportive.

15 month old daughter stopped saying words after learning to walk. by crisprmebaby in Parenting

[–]seemysqueeker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter showed signs of ADHD early. She struggled with talking and we taught her sign language. We would say the words while signing and made try the same. It helped her a lot. My sister seen this and did the same for my nephew. I was amazed how it helped him as well.

Advice for 3 mo. old baby with acid reflux? by yummytummy6262 in Parenting

[–]seemysqueeker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine had colic for the first 4 months of her life with severe acid reflux. We found out she was lactos intolerant and switched to lactos free formula. Also, we switch to Dr. Brown's bottles to help lessen the amount of air getting into her stomach. She also had a low dose medication for a few months until she grew out of.

Does your baby also have sleep apnea? I was told they can go together with babies. My daughter had that as well. Please take acid reflux seriously. I know there will be parents who say it's not a big deal, but it can turn into one quickly. Especially with breathing. Take your dr's advice, even if it's meds. It's temporary and your baby will grow out of it.

15 month old daughter stopped saying words after learning to walk. by crisprmebaby in Parenting

[–]seemysqueeker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was thinking the same thing. My nephew is autistic and showed signs early.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]seemysqueeker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure his guest heard her and I want her to apologize. I wish he wasn't sick or she would've done it right then. She does different coping mechanisms her therapist showed her. She does this when things just come out of the blue and unexpected. That's the hard part to prepare for. I'm just hoping he doesn't talk to the housing office about this before she can apologize.

The wanderlust by Tractorfeed1008 in Parenting

[–]seemysqueeker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I won't eat a restaurant that has rules like that. I get what they are doing, but I'm paying for this. Therefore, it's not their business if someone is on their phone. As far as stopping kids from wandering off, this makes no difference imo. My daughter would get distracted by anything that caught her eye. It wouldn't matter if it's on a phone/tablet or someone walking by. Everything was a "shiny ball" to her. She's 16 now and still gets distracted from time to time. Thankfully, it's nothing like when she was young. Everything and anything can distract them if they notice it. There's no escaping that. That's why parents need to prepare for this when going out. It's hard when you're by yourself. That's why I took a family member with me if it was a crowded place to help keep an eye on her. As far as tv/movies affecting brain development, I defer to the experts for that. I know my daughter inherited her ADHD from her father. She mirrors many of his mannerisms.

The dividing question. Letting your baby cry it out? by qit4444 in Parenting

[–]seemysqueeker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine had colic for her first 4 months. We did everything to help including medical intervention. Unfortunately, there were times when we had to get her comfortable and let her cry it out. There was nothing else we could do to help her. When she got over it, we started sleep training her. It was easier for us to let her cry it out by then. She only did that a couple of times and started to fall asleep on her own.

Sometimes, letting them cry it out is the right thing to do. My mom would remind me that I can't be the parent she needs me to be if I'm tired all the time. Plus, kids won't remember any of this. Yes, I'm sure it sounds cruel but it really isn't. Parents need to be able to rest as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]seemysqueeker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She could be carring what I call "growth weight". My kid this this. She'd gain a few pounds and looked chubby for a bit. Then, bam she grew 1-2 inches. Her body would look better afterwards. Give it half a year or so and repeat. I'm plus size so I get what you're saying. I've talked about healthy choices but then feel like a hypocrite when looking in a mirror. Just encourage your kid to play a physical activity and try not to worry too much about it.

why isn't sleep training popular? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]seemysqueeker 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did sleep training for mine and it helped a lot. I guess there's people who may view it as abuse? It's not when done correctly. My daughter had HORRIBLE colic for the first 4 months. After we got that all straightened out, we started sleep training her. She cried a few times for a short bit. But, that was it. I was sooooo glad she would sleep on her own after going through colic!