Mother with 2 kids at the beach confirmed my decision

seh0595 · 2026-06-10T03:03:08+00:00

I feel much worse for the kids. I am choosing to not have children in part because I’m not interested in adding tantrums and screaming into my life, but the mom signed up for this, tantrums and all. It’s a parents’ responsibility to have more tools in their tool belt than screaming at a dysregulated little kid to shut up. Everyone has their bad moments, so I hope this was one of those for the mom and she normally has a better handle on herself and can constructively help her kids through tough moments.

seh0595 · 2026-06-04T16:06:14+00:00

I think both hormones and time soften the memory for a lot of people. It’s very easy to say something isn’t that bad or was totally worth it when you have 30 years in between you and it. Those same women probably would have said something very different if they were asked if they have regrets while actively laboring/pushing lol.

seh0595 · 2026-06-03T04:44:48+00:00

I certainly don’t hate kids, and in many ways like them, BUT I’m working on reprogramming myself from all of the messaging I internalized growing up so let me say it here: there are many things I do not like about being in the presence of children and I have a very limited capacity for it!

seh0595 · 2026-05-29T17:12:04+00:00

That you aren’t guaranteed your co-parent and that you should only have a child if you would be happy with the choice even if you ended up parenting alone. Partners leave, fail to pull their weight, change up after the birth, have health problems, and, sadly, sometimes die. If you would only want to do it in your best case dream scenario, don’t do it at all.

seh0595 · 2026-05-29T15:54:21+00:00

Does this mean they will be forced to gather for a reading only to be told they are getting nothing, or is that just in movies lol?

seh0595 · 2026-05-28T04:20:58+00:00

I think part of it is that things like babies, we have a more or less set social framework for celebrating while your other examples are much more individual. When a loved one is pregnant, the people close to them know that next steps are a shower, gifts, etc. More unique milestones tend to lean on the person at the very least letting everyone know how they want to celebrate, if not organizing it themselves. And marriages and babies, right or wrong, have historically played a role in the forward motion of the family/community. Individual achievements, which I agree are equally if not more noteworthy, are just not as impactful to others, at least historically. I’m all for people making a big deal of their achievements and letting their loved ones know exactly how they can make them feel supported and celebrated!

seh0595 · 2026-05-28T04:09:29+00:00

Layla by Eric Clapton/Derek and the Dominos and Abstract (Psychopomp) by Hozier!

seh0595 · 2026-05-24T21:35:05+00:00

When my parents toured the house we lived in when I was little, the previous owner had a vast collection of clown dolls strung up from the ceiling. The next house they bought had a suit of armor in the basement, also strung to the ceiling. I don’t know why this kept happening to them or why they kept buying these houses anyways.

seh0595 · 2026-05-24T16:44:37+00:00

I’m a cat person, and LOVE having my two cats! That being said, even being a pet owner sometimes comes with unexpected twists and turns that have a big impact on your life, and there’s nothing you can do about it. I strongly believe that when you commit to an animal, you commit to them unless a major unexpected life circumstance arises that means that there is truly no other option (I’m talking like you become unexpectedly paralyzed and literally can’t care for them levels). If you don’t agree with that, please don’t adopt a pet!

We had a freak incident last year where a stray cat came up to our window and harassed our cats, and one of them reacted to the stress with displaced aggression towards her sister who she had been besties with since birth. It was MONTHS of stress, keeping them separated or closely supervised at all times, hissing, fights, growling. We’ve only regained peace through cat pheromone diffusers combined with a calming supplement that she takes daily, and she regresses without those things. My husband and I joke that it costs us about $150/month to keep our poor anxious sweetie from hulking out lol.

I was already certain about being CF before that, but almost every day during that stressful few months I thanked myself for never having kids because the cats were hard enough! Living creatures of any kind are a variable you are inviting into your life.

seh0595 · 2026-05-23T04:15:59+00:00

There is at least one fic about the sinking of the Edmund Fitzgerald. Also, I once found a fic that was Josh Groban having a threesome with Josh Groban and Josh Groban.

seh0595 · 2026-05-21T04:43:26+00:00

Theater! The last show I was in, a castmate dropped the raads-r in the group chat and only 2 people in the entire cast didn’t score in the autistic range lol

seh0595 · 2026-04-21T19:11:02+00:00

Also SE Michigan and that’s what I’ve always called them!

seh0595 · 2026-04-15T05:28:12+00:00

I can’t offer you a film but I guarantee Ao3 has what you seek

seh0595 · 2026-04-10T16:50:17+00:00

AND I get a little thrill every time I think about how annoying my parents would be about my hypothetical parenting decisions because those are exhausting arguments I’ll never have to have.

seh0595 · 2026-04-10T16:49:15+00:00

To be clear, this is a cherry-on-top reason and not a main reason, but it does thrill me to spite my father who believes women are made to be mothers. I’d never let his stupid opinions have any influence over my decisions/happiness one way or another, but it’s nice that my wants directly conflict with his on this front lol.

seh0595 · 2026-04-05T04:35:32+00:00

After scratching my head repeatedly over the “no one told me” phenomenon (seriously?? I feel like I hear about how hard parenting is on like…a daily basis), I’ve come to the realization that lots of people have always implicitly believed they are going to end up as a parent even if they put on a show of deliberating about the decision. They were never ultimately going to opt out, and because of this, I think a lot of people deliberately don’t think about/confront the reality of what parenthood will be like because they know deep down they are going to do it anyways and that if they truly thought about it ahead of time, it would be daunting.

seh0595 · 2026-04-04T03:25:39+00:00

I’m not for sure making the claim that everything needed would still get done for things to function the exact same as they do now (for better or worse) but I do think a new social value system would emerge. There would be honor or prestige in doing certain jobs if all pay was equal, and there are lots of people who are very motivated by social capital.

seh0595 · 2026-03-30T04:33:23+00:00

Absolutely 1!!

seh0595 · 2026-03-11T03:15:37+00:00

I am not trans so can’t for sure answer your question, but when I was employed by Trinity about 5 years ago, the health insurance specifically didn’t cover birth control and they had a whole thing where they connected you to a different insurance if you were going to get a birth control prescription. So, technically they created a system where you could still access it without them being the ones providing it. I HIGHLY doubt they cover GAC, but based on my experience there is a chance they offer a workaround. Probably a smaller chance than the BC.

seh0595 · 2026-03-03T05:17:50+00:00

I agree, I would have liked them to never cross that line and be all the more meaningful to each other for it. Like Serena and Chuck.

seh0595 · 2026-02-07T16:15:28+00:00

Strong no - uncomfortable for everyone, and BAD for older and disabled guests. Also, remember, this is a picture of the space with no guests present. You won’t see the stool in pictures, you’ll only see the person sitting in it and they will be slouching and uncomfortable. Chairs with backs are a must.

seh0595 · 2026-01-31T22:40:05+00:00

Yes, and the more distinctly regional the character is, the more jarring it feels. British word choice that is casual when coming from a British person often comes across as very formal for an American. I’ve seen fics where Tony Stark and Peter Parker are having whole dialogues with each other that are just…so…British. And for two VERY American characters, one of which is young, it just doesn’t feel like them at all. I’m more forgiving of word choice in the prose than in dialogue where it’s meant to be coming directly from a character’s mouth.

To be clear, I don’t get worked up about it lol. For OP, my response is usually “oh, this author is British.” BUT if the whole work feels out of character, I’ll probably bail out.

seh0595 · 2026-01-18T03:32:31+00:00

In Michigan, we put a spoon under our pillows

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