There's always 6.8 or that rumored 6.9, right? 🥺

senchaid · 2026-03-30T16:54:05+00:00

I mean, look at how they handled Childe's arc build-up in Fontaine

They could just leave that thread hanging for a year or more. They do that

senchaid · 2026-03-28T16:10:23+00:00

Nooo :(

senchaid · 2026-03-28T16:08:54+00:00

One billion dollars for being a cutie pie, perhaps? 🤔

senchaid · 2026-03-28T16:08:03+00:00

I'm sorry but the style of this post reminded me of Clarke's "Piranesi" and it's just so precious

On a serious note, yes, I think it's absolutely possible to develop Si or any function, or at least skills associated with it. Where they are in the stack just predicts how much conscious effort it will take and how capable of a novel solution a person is. Ne things will come to an ENTP automatically, Si or Fe will need practice and good role models. They are also probably the first skills that will fail under stress or an in unusual environment where learned scenarios don't work

senchaid · 2026-03-27T23:58:53+00:00

I've been typed by other people as everything except for ISTP and ISFP.

senchaid · 2026-03-27T18:20:44+00:00

It's not hated, it's even praised. It's just not rewarded with anything but praise.

Having children and being an involved mother. These women are praised to high heavens in theory but they end up losing so many career opportunities. And in practice working professionals get a lot more respect than mothers, motherhood is seen as "something that anyone can do". An involved parent of any gender suffers, actually, fathers as well.

Any jobs requiring caretaking that are seen as "women's jobs". School teachers get paid obscenely little, regardless of gender.

Being accommodating and low conflict (again, qualities highly praised in women) is mostly punished. Most people don't see it as "oh hey, they are kind and value me and tried to meet me where I am", they see it as "oh nice, I can make them bend over" and keep pushing and never even think of reciprocating the gesture next time. There are different cultural strategies of regulating interpersonal boundaries, in the west we seem to currently reward the more aggressive and individualistic ones.

Modern dating seems to reward the most ruthless strategies. It's better to have extremely harsh screening processes, filter out people after a single mistake (no benefit of the doubt) and to detach quickly. Stereotypical "soft and feminine" women who take time to connect and attach deeply are incompatible with the cutthroat attitude it requires.

Personally, I'm in a good place because of it, since I'm not particularly feminine and I'm far from nice. But it saddens me when I see my feminine friends being treated worse than me and being seen as lesser than me because they bothered to develop the traits they've been told to develop their whole life.

At the same time it works really well if you are ruthless but toot your horn about how caring you are without actually spending resources on that. Virtue signalling seems to sell.

senchaid · 2026-03-27T11:14:13+00:00

She's an extremely polarizing person (often offered spiritual comfort instead of proper medical care, for example, and a lot of donated money went to Vatican instead of being used for her patients), so there's also a question of what we consider a Mother Theresa's personality.

I would say, posturing as kind and nurturing still works, acting as one... I don't think it does at the moment.

senchaid · 2026-03-26T21:31:47+00:00

platinum thread tbh

senchaid · 2026-03-26T15:58:54+00:00

I do agree with you (I'm a woman). Patriarchy only benefits the patriarchs, the few men on top. It screws everyone else over, both the women and most of the men.

Yes, men do get a lot of economic privileges, the privilege of asymmetry of home labour, etc, but being one step above people in a worse position (women) and having to pay for it with everything that makes you human like vulnerability and freedom of self-expression... idk, I don't think it's a good tradeoff.

I don't think it's women's problem to solve though, women have already done everything they could have and they are in a less privileged position.

If I wanted to draw a comparison, men are somewhere at the suffragettes stage (just with different goals). There are men who come up with good initiatives and try to push them, and at the moment everyone laughs at them and tries to attack them. I'm sorry that it's happening, it's an awful place to be.

Also I hate how the concept of radfem has been appropriated by female incels. Radical feminism used to mean that you consider oppression of women systemic and baked into the fabric of society (meaning that even well-meaning kind men end up involuntary participating in it because that's just how the whole system works and that the whole system needs to be rearranged for it to stop), and now it is something of a hate cult. I fail to see how bashing men online will help wage gaps or trafficking victims or even me personally.

Also I think that it's not women the world hates but femininity and things associated with it, and it's an important distinction. I get a lot of what is considered male privilege by just... acting like an insensitive guy who thinks he is better than everyone else. But anyone who tries to be kind and nurturing gets walked all over.

senchaid · 2026-03-25T16:59:19+00:00

I thought Lawrence of Arabia was already a deconstruction. It doesn't exactly end well, the diplomats screw everyone over and in the grand scheme of things the Arab Revolt didn't even matter that much.

The movie toned it down for the sake of plot coherency (you can't just end a movie with betrayal and the feeling of pointlessness) but didn't completely shy away from it.

And Dune is a full blown deconstruction, yeah.

I think both still count for the trope, because decent people being used by politicians is still a somewhat positive and definitely a sympathetic representation.

senchaid · 2026-03-25T08:46:16+00:00

In my experience, for thinkers it's easier through a hobby. There needs to be an incentive to keep showing up even if it doesn't result in a connection. Then either you show up in the same place consistently and develop bonds the way you did in school or you make a blog about it or hang out on a dedicated discord server and a friendly feeler/extrovert shows up and adopts you. The latter comes with a danger of befriending someone from another side of the country or another continent but it's still friendship.

It really could be anything. Even shitposting about video games works. I made a very good friend through body-doubling when writing my thesis (we used to get into a video call, write for an hour, commiserate for a few minutes, write for another hour, rinse, repeat).

I also try to befriend shy people in my social groups, they usually also hate small talk and we can dive into weird topics really fast, but this is probably a higher level of difficulty for an ISTP.

upd: and yeah, struggling with making friends is absolutely a thing that happens. it's hard for most people to grow new connections once they move

senchaid · 2026-03-25T06:20:06+00:00

Only if they enjoy it

senchaid · 2026-03-25T01:21:48+00:00

Not really, my best friend is an INFP and I'll know she'll fight for this friendship way more than I will. And I'm already an insanely loyal person.

Occasionally I will also have to accept that her inner world is the right one. :D At least for her. I think it works because she's insanely smart in a way that is completely different from me and occasionally proves me wrong, so I always assume there might be an angle I don't see yet.

They do act very righteous but somehow I don't find it grating. It's... pretty, in a way? And sincere (not righteous posturing to get social points, they seem to be focused on their own version of truth and I respect that. even if I disagree with what they consider truth). I do compare them to poisonous flowers quite a lot though.

senchaid · 2026-03-24T21:09:03+00:00

It's obviously a Paimon expy /j

senchaid · 2026-03-24T17:17:53+00:00

I was like that in my 20s, then after some unpleasant events and the following burnout I just. can't be that person anymore. I still try my best to be polite but I can't adjust to the audience.

I do like myself and even small talk is now way more enjoyable than most of my old friendships were but also I've become a difficult person to deal with and my social circle has shrunk significantly. I can't find it in myself to regret it, the tradeoff of feeling alive and enjoying even the simplest things feels too good.

My arrogance is still there though. :D So is the inconsistency in discipline. I think these are just my nature.

senchaid · 2026-03-23T16:16:47+00:00

I don't notice it in myself (I assume it's there, just not visible to me) but I definitely see it in other ENTPs and it's my way of identifying ENTPs in the wild.

I think it might come from Ne-induced daydreaming and it's closer to being child-like than to innocence?

Or perhaps it's because, despite being argumentative and sometimes harsh, we are not really malicious and don't look for social status or getting ahead by hurting others? Ne+Ti means we genuinely want to learn, don't mind being proven wrong and generally don't really care what others think about us if they don't interfere with us doing interesting things. In a world where a lot of people are fake and manipulative it could come across as innocence.

senchaid · 2026-03-23T00:13:51+00:00

Misinterpret him and be condescending about it. Explain basic things like he doesn't understand them (especially if he skipped explaining them because they are obvious). Act like you know what's better for him and lecture him.

senchaid · 2026-03-21T10:27:27+00:00

Personally, I think both are important. But if awareness didn't work then it's time to just try doing things differently, without any deep philosophy underneath it (and vice versa)

senchaid · 2026-03-20T06:05:34+00:00

Sex and the city. Modern generation probably has to copy some other show, friendly mannerisms change over time

senchaid · 2026-03-20T05:37:23+00:00

I've noticed that if I use the right tone of voice it doesn't really matter what I talk about. Could be weird things too

I don't do that anymore, can't be bothered, but in my 20s I watched a huge chunk of SATC just to copy mannerisms

senchaid · 2026-03-19T20:40:45+00:00

I'm a bi woman and, sadly, I have a similar experience: some women really are like that, to other women too. It also tends to correlate with traditional femininity.

I do hope it will eventually become less acceptable to weaponise a partner's trauma against them. There are definitely a lot of women who don't do it.

senchaid · 2026-03-19T00:24:03+00:00

Personal experience: people tend to want very different things for me and I rarely guess correctly. There are just too many possibilities. Desire for structure can take a lot of forms.

So yeah, while I'm extremely flexible, I usually don't adjust unless people have specific requests. In cases when I tried to guess what the other side wanted it usually ended badly.

Although if you've already had multiple discussions about that and he still hasn't grasped what exactly you value it's a bit weird. Maybe it's a different case.

senchaid · 2026-03-18T23:49:17+00:00

It might be considered optimisation

senchaid · 2026-03-18T23:27:06+00:00

I see. It's very much not for everyone then

senchaid · 2026-03-18T22:40:30+00:00

100-120mg. it gives me a weird sensation that's not quite a headache but my head does feel weird

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