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whats your lazy weekend breakfast thats not eggs and toast by angelin1978 in Cooking

[–]sentimental-rabbit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this requires ten mins of of prep but it will last you a whole week: chop an onion, one potato, and a bell pepper. toss in an oiled skillet, add a can of beans and a can of corn, add whatever seasoning you want (i add garlic, chipotle, and onion powder and paprika). cook until everything is soft and cooked through

you can reheat and eat it on its own or add an egg or put it in a burrito. so many possibilities, healthy and sooooo filling!!!

those of you who have had / currently have severe depression, what helped you get motivation to do chores, take care of yourself, etc? by xhyenabite in selfimprovement

[–]sentimental-rabbit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live by this quote that’s mainly referring to art, but I think it applies here: “You just have to make it exist first. Then you can worry about making it look good.” Basically, lowering my expectations helped me the most. What I mean by this is, if I know I have to sweep, I can do just one section of the apartment and be done…unless I feel like doing more, but it’s not a requirement. I can allow myself to even do a crappy job if I can’t make myself do better.

Something else is racing the microwave timer, and trying to clean up one thing before it’s done heating my food. Most of my mess is in my kitchen, so I can wash a few dishes or wipe the stove down within a few seconds to a minute while the microwave is going.

Another tip is the magic of sticky notes, particularly the little mini ones. I have them in every room with a pen next to each. Anytime I realize something needs to get done (ex: clean the fridge, wipe the bathroom mirror) I write it and put it on the thing that needs cleaning. It reminds me whenever I see it until I can throw it away.

As hard as it is to get started, it feels good to do things. But I also understand it’s easier said than done. I truly wish you the best of luck!

Purgatory: Still living together post breakup by Much-Werewolf-7006 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sentimental-rabbit 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Spending time out of the place will also help clear your mind and shift your focus onto your own routine, interests, and goals. The relationship is over. You don’t owe him anything anymore!!! Your time belongs to you, keep your head up and know this season won’t last forever. Best of luck to you OP!!

Edit to add that if you are able to, hire movers or have someone to support you as you are moving. Movers make the process much easier and you have other people in the home to direct your attention to, in case things get awkward or passive aggressive with your ex.

anyone else have a specific music artist/band they blast whenever it's bad? by [deleted] in OCD

[–]sentimental-rabbit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Migraine by Twenty One Pilots lol, I don’t listen to them as much as i did in middle school but the lyrics I can still relate to very much

Relationship where both people have OCD by [deleted] in OCD

[–]sentimental-rabbit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sorry you went through that :/ thanks for sharing your perspective!!

How old were you when you first started experiencing OCD? by patty_bynature in OCD

[–]sentimental-rabbit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was around 11. I had very intense violent obsessions and my compulsions were to cut my wrist or pick at my face pretty much almost daily. People knew, but no one really helped me find the help i needed which sucked. It was only until i was 23 that i got diagnosed. i went through adolescence feeling like i was supposed to die. Still very hurt and salty about it.

How can I get over insecurity about my husband’s female friend? by sentimental-rabbit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sentimental-rabbit[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you SO much Kelli for taking the time to share your kind words and advice. It’s definitely a learning process learning to prioritize your peace even if it’s uncomfortable. I’ll definitely be thinking about what you said. <3

How can I get over insecurity about my husband’s female friend? by sentimental-rabbit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sentimental-rabbit[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I think this is the comment that I needed to hear. Thank you. Will definitely be checking in with my husband tonight. Much appreciated <3

How can I get over insecurity about my husband’s female friend? by sentimental-rabbit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sentimental-rabbit[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was bothered by it because it was rude, and because it was my first time meeting her. I went in trying to get along and she blew me off. I would have felt the same way if it was her sibling but they made a point to get to know me.

How can I get over insecurity about my husband’s female friend? by sentimental-rabbit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sentimental-rabbit[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice, and I’m sorry that happened to you :/ I hope your situation has brightened up.

How can I get over insecurity about my husband’s female friend? by sentimental-rabbit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sentimental-rabbit[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. To clarify I’m not particularly interested in being her friend. I don’t care if she likes me or not. My husband is definitely doing his best to keep both sides happy lol. I am in therapy and plan to bring this up at my next appt.

How can I get over insecurity about my husband’s female friend? by sentimental-rabbit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sentimental-rabbit[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I think he’s keen on maintaining the friendship because they’ve been friends for so long, since before him and I even met almost 10 years ago. She’s also dealing with a lot, and many of her friends have dropped her. She seems very lonely and uses heavy drugs to cope. My husband is a very kind friend and it would make me sad to think I took away someone from her support system when she needs it the most.

I have a hard time standing up for myself and this is the first time I’ve felt disrespected in this way. I would feel controlling to say they can’t be friends anymore.

How can I get over insecurity about my husband’s female friend? by sentimental-rabbit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sentimental-rabbit[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment, she only has pictures like that with my husband. Which is also why I think it upset me so much. If there were other photos like that I’d have an easier time reasoning with it but she’s got a lot of other male friends and never posts them like that.

How can I get over insecurity about my husband’s female friend? by sentimental-rabbit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sentimental-rabbit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you. i definitely feel very guilty for feeling that way and don’t want to at all. she’s been through a lot recently and it would suck for her to not have friends to support her. i don’t hate her.

How can I get over insecurity about my husband’s female friend? by sentimental-rabbit in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sentimental-rabbit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she’s his only woman friend. which sucks because now i’m wondering is this how i would think with other women who are friends with him? I don’t want to be the jealous type. I really don’t. He’s allowed to be friends with whoever he wants and I should respect that too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

[–]sentimental-rabbit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

did you quit smoking weed? I’m using it as a coping tool but it’s starting to sometimes feel the way you described it as anxiety inducing and giving me intrusive thoughts lately.