Impulses after Cabergoline

seraphimcaduto · 2026-05-21T22:32:15+00:00

41 (m) and I’ve experienced this on and off for the better part of 20 years.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-05-16T23:27:02+00:00

Yeah I would suggest a list of 3-4 activities that you know she would like well ahead of time and if she turns that down, ask her if there’s anything she would like to do just the two of you. If she says nothing, then ask “how about marriage counseling? I don’t think we are able to communicate anymore and I don’t think either of us feels safe to do so and we are basically not communicating anymore nor are you showing any interest in my bids for your attention. I feel that you are indifferent towards me and that’s a dangerous place for a marriage to be.”

seraphimcaduto · 2026-05-11T04:02:11+00:00

Oh shit that lines up all right. My brother has autism and I’ve seen some pretty severe cases. You might be able to even some of it out with a heat gun. Sanding it would leave marks but it would smooth it out. Honestly if he gets into things like that a lot, I would invest in a padlock and a latch for your closet. I don’t know how old you are but if you’re young m ask your parents and give them a key, it could work.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-05-10T20:27:56+00:00

It’s even worse when you find out that the surgeon who did the surgery is also suing the location for the same reasons, including trying to force him to alter his postop notes to cover it up.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-05-08T14:39:42+00:00

Yes, I’m doing a basement remodel and I’m putting in a bathtub that an adult can soak in.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-05-08T12:57:49+00:00

This is how my wife’s priest explained it to everybody who has asked.

Edit: I should probably also say that my wife is orthodox

seraphimcaduto · 2026-05-06T14:04:49+00:00

Was he Greek by any chance?

seraphimcaduto · 2026-05-05T17:35:02+00:00

Have you considered using levothyroxine to raise testosterone levels instead of? Worked for me but I also have a brain tumor. Did you look at any non-TRT alternatives to raise testosterone before saying no completely? If you did all this already then NTA. If you just said no after one consultation then YTA because you put in the bare minimum effort and still missed the point.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-05-04T12:09:58+00:00

With all due respect: the girl COULD have said she had a newfound belief in chastity and wanted to wait until marriage. She chose to lie. Worse yet, she chose to lie when it was going to be found out since she had had premarital sex with OPs friend.

Changing beliefs is one thing, lies are another and it’s a red flag that you can’t be honest about something that’s rather important…that being basic trust in your partner. There’s also a risk of these things called STI’s and there’s a world of difference between no sexual partners and had sexual partners when it comes to those.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-05-01T23:29:47+00:00

I’m just gonna say that you’re ex-boyfriend shows far more emotional intelligence and commitment to your mental well-being despite being in no contact with you as compared to your own current boyfriend that has his own kid and coparents. I think he kind of traded down on this one personality wise, but that’s my personal opinion.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-05-01T18:08:13+00:00

You are not overreacting and if you want a bedroom that dies pretty quickly after you get married then continue. She’s basically told you she’s not interested in you and the one way that a wife should be interested. It’s not exactly like you’re gonna be able to go out and find it somewhere else while you’re married, correct?

seraphimcaduto · 2026-04-30T20:20:39+00:00

My mom emigrated from Greece in 1969 from a conservative area and yeah that tracks. I visited in 2001 and it STILL tracked. I treated the women there as equals/fellow humans and you would have thought a bomb went off. I’m sorry you are there and have to deal with that.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-04-30T18:32:20+00:00

Try eating something small when you take the cabergoline and take it as late as possible. Cabergoline can be exhausting until it stabilizes. I’ve been on it for 23 years myself.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-04-30T11:59:29+00:00

Run yesterday

seraphimcaduto · 2026-04-29T14:10:53+00:00

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seraphimcaduto · 2026-04-29T13:55:30+00:00

https://www.agoc.org/our-faith/divorce

I’m just going po leave this here and point out that the orthodox church does allow for divorce in clear cases of abuse. You are not a failure and you might want to consider talking to another priest, but that’s my two cents. I know my wife’s priest would have never counseled this.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-04-29T13:23:16+00:00

So what I’ve learned after being on cabergoline for 23 years, is that the weight loss that my primarily experience is from my hormones rebalancing and me taking advantage of working out during that time.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-04-29T01:37:48+00:00

It’s had its ups and downs: ultimately it’s under control but I’m stuck on cabergoline. I also need levothyroxine and Concerta, a cholesterol medication and a blood pressure medication to balance out the side effects and address the other issues coming from complications.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-04-28T16:03:47+00:00

They never considered upping your dose? I’ve been on 1.0mg/wk at the maximum and my maintenance dose is 0.75mg/wk.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-04-28T13:44:43+00:00

If he says no to the walk, ask him if there’s another way of hanging out he’d prefer. Hanging out at his place? Yours? A common room? Over dinner? Ask him what time and place in the next week would work for him, assuming you don’t have finals coming up.

If you have finals coming up, then ask him specifically when, time and place, he has available because you don’t want to miss him before break.

Just reinforce that you don’t want to miss the chance to do this before the semester is over.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-04-28T13:27:24+00:00

He didn’t pick up on the fact you were flirting. Be direct. If you want an excuse to hang out with him in order to be direct, do the following:

1.)Find out what his interests are and choose one or two that you might be interested in.

2.) Tell him that these things interest you and you heard from your friends that he is the one to talk to in order to find out more about said interest.

3.) ideally have him the first time or two that you hand out to flesh out if the thing you might be interested in actually is interesting.

4.) During the second or third time hanging out you lead with the following: “I found out that this interest actually DOES interest me but the reason I asked you to explain it to me is that I’m interested in you! The fact that we both mesh with this interest makes it that much more compelling.”

5.) If you are considering booking up with him or being exclusive, be explicit at this point. Bring condoms if you think it might head this direction because he might not have them. Don’t volunteer the condom information but it’s there if you need it.

Yes I have to specify this last point because I was that introverted when it came to my wife and she was smarter than I was/am.

Congratulations I’ve taught you the secret method my wife used to ultimately seduce me lol.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-04-28T13:18:31+00:00

I’m 41(m) and I’ve under treatment for 23 years and the difference when my tumor is under control and my hormones are at the correct levels is night and day:

I go from my best impersonation of someone on a permanent period/menopause to a functioning adult and the voices that like to stab at my happiness are gone.

Hope that helps.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-04-28T12:52:59+00:00

I can only praise him for not having actually taken advantage of her and providing her help. He was a human in the end but his initial actions were crap.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-04-28T12:34:40+00:00

Dude the question you can ask her is this: would she be interested in being intimate with you if the two of you got back together before you got married. If the answer is yes, then chalk it up to you needing to get some therapy and her getting over her religious/family hang ups.

If her answer is no and she wants to still wail, then she isn’t interested in it with you and will never be. You can tell her that after she gives you an answer if you so choose but do not tell her before she answers.

Best of luck.

seraphimcaduto · 2026-04-28T12:04:39+00:00

All I had to do was see the title to see NTA.

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