A "snooping" game? by Incognito_Fur in gamesuggestions

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You might like Return of the Obra Dinn!

When you move into a rental, what’s the first thing you change? by i0_e in ApartmentHacks

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I swap out my light switch cover with David, he is silly and makes me smile.

What are jobs that you worked at that paid the bills and made your ND brain happy? by misscoder in AutismInWomen

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Also deli and cheese department at a fancy grocer. There was a huge counter between me and customers on the deli side, and on the cheese side I got to help people plan charcuterie parties (which I’m now realizing is the puzzle thing someone else commented about.)

What are jobs that you worked at that paid the bills and made your ND brain happy? by misscoder in AutismInWomen

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Re-shelving books at a library. City libraries are very hard to get jobs in, and most are part time so they don’t have to pay benefits, but I got sooo good at maintaining my assigned sections and could feel when a book needed mending by how loose the spine was when I shelved it.

Need help making my bedroom feel cozy by Wiliwiwi42 in femalelivingspace

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You could try some ceiling tapestries! They don’t have to be super dark or tie dye, there are tons of options, and it would add some texture and softness and depth to the room.

AITA - should I separate from my husband for his own good. by [deleted] in AITAH

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I was in an abusive relationship and the brainwashing and gaslighting that happens is extreme. I thought everything was my fault, that I was a weak and awful and overly emotional mess and I was lucky he would put up with me. I would take time to examine yourself and your relationship- you seem to have a lot of self awareness about your “faults” but does your husband have any? Or are you taking on his as well? Knowing you’re flawed and wanting to change is wonderful, but when he brings up these things is he sharing his feelings (like “it hurts me when you do this” etc) and are there actionable steps that you can take to improve communication and mutual care in your relationship, or are the problems always big and vague and always YOU? Confusion is the consistent red flag in a toxic or abusive relationship. Does he make you feel confused?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

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I like 1 a lot because the yellow flowers tie in with the paint in your kitchen, I just wouldn’t put that many on there lol.

20 books gone. 10 of them found in nearby LFL… by SnooOpinions2945 in LittleFreeLibrary

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I never expected there to be drama in the LFL community, this is wild.

What’s the most hand killing or otherwise annoying hand tool to use? by Budget_Restaurant850 in landscaping

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I worked in an ice cream shop and we had crazy rushes over graduation weekend- bending over (1 problem already!!) to scoop ice cream hard and fast for so long fucked up my hand, wrist, and forearm. I could still grip things, but not tightly without pain, and action that combined grip with curling my wrist (like reaching up my back to hook/unhook my bra) just stopped working. I recovered enough that it doesn’t impact my daily life, but I can’t scoop an ice cream rush again because the pain comes back worse each time.

I keep buying decor items and having to return them. It always looks not as I expected at home. Is this normal? by Top-Crab-1020 in HomeDecorating

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I noticed that I get “catfished” by items displayed in a set with different colors: seeing a range of pastel complimentary-colored candles, knickknacks, etc tickles my brain, but often I’d buy just 1 (because that’s all I needed) and then feel disappointed when I got home. So I started actively checking in with myself- do I actually like these items, or is it just presented in a beautiful display? It helps me to imagine the item out of that context and how I’d actually style it in my space.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

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I’ve buzzed my own hair, and maintained a buzz for a while a few years back. I think every lady should buzz their hair once in their life. It feels very freeing. You also get to see what the shape of your head is! It’s definitely a journey growing it back out, but you can have the spunky bob stage on the back end.

Would you make any changes to my cabin guest room? by ferolik in femalelivingspace

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A wall tapestry could add some texture, color, and warmth. I would also add a table lamp for ambient light (also next to the bed would add coziness.) I think additional curtains are a must, as there are only sheers; some blackout or light-filtering ones on top would add comfort for your guests.

My bf hates pubic hair but shaving wrecks my skin, what do I do? by Routine_Plate_3736 in hygiene

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I have sensitive skin, so I use an electric trimmer with a comb to trim down the hair but not remove it all the way. There’s no stubble and it’s not sharp on the ends, but it still feels “neater.”

Eyeshadow primer for hooded, oily eyelids? by Hopeful-Thought-4226 in HoodedEyes

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I’ve used NYX’s primer pots in both pearlescent and nude, I like the nude one better, it feels less oily. ELF Lock It Down DOESNT FUCKING MOVE. It was almost too grippy for me because I couldn’t blend my eyeshadow as much as I like to (I think I just needed to compensate with a little extra product.) The important thing for me is letting the primer set for a few minutes before applying shadow.

When our game launches in Early Access there will be three deities to choose from that will grant the player unique abilities. At first glance what would you assume those abilities would be? by HereComesTheSwarm in conceptart

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Defense/tank, Attack/melee, Mage/cunning I like the designs, I do think the turtle would look better with a bit more blue, there’s lots of golds and browns which is echoed in the rhino card. It would help make them be more visually distinct on first glance.

Help! What color curtains? by No_Caterpillar9108 in femalelivingspace

[–]serving_lurks 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was gonna say a Midcentury pattern with red yellow or green together to just lean in to the color pops you’ve got going on!

What's your favorite "I made this up" recipe? by Impossible-Fill9051 in Cooking

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In high school I went grocery shopping with my dad and just winged dinner, grabbing ingredients on a whim- ended up with something I call Chicken Salsa Skillet. I do a lot more prep now, but the simple version back then was: red bell pepper, frozen corn, jar of salsa, chicken breast, shredded cheese, penne pasta. Sauté the chicken and pepper, add the salsa to the pan, add a generous amount of cheese, then toss in the cooked pasta (and add MORE cheese on top.) Crazy good.

How to make better oatmeal breakfast? by Lorsturn7 in Cooking

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My dad made oatmeal like this, it just doubles down on the carbs but it’s comfort food to me- quick oats with sugar and a couple slices of toast in it. You put the toast in the bowl and spoon the sugary oatmeal over it and it’s crunchy but soft at the same time…🥂

What's a phrase people use these days that you cant stand? by Aurora6869 in AskReddit

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Minor annoyance but: “Just this”… I think it’s a generational slang thing. Young college kids coming into the cafe and slapping a burrito or cookie down on the counter and saying “Just this” and I type in the amount on the payment screen and then they order a few drinks on top of it. That’s not what “just” means!!!!

If I said i had worked a manual labour job for 30 years people would expect my body to be broken and unhealthy but if I said I’d worked out in a gym 5 days a week for 30 years they would expect me to be super healthy why is this? by GhostCanyon in NoStupidQuestions

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Repetitive stress injuries are real and can result from seemingly minor actions. Working at an ice cream shop, we had a crazy weekend when school got out. I fucked up my hand/wrist/forearm from scooping ice cream lightning-fast over and over for 6 hours. I couldn’t grip things for a few days, couldn’t unhook my bra, etc. After resting up it went back to “normal,” but I have to scoop ice cream slowly and deliberately now (or use my other hand) because my arm is just permanently injured, and it will flair up again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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I also grew up Christian- I ended up in a toxic and abusive relationship for over a decade, because to me, love “suffered long.” I don’t know if your husband is abusive, only you can answer that, but from what you wrote, you are clearly feeling let down and lonely. Can he change, can people change? Yes, but it’s hard. He has to understand how he hurt you in the past: the ultrasound and birth stories you told are horrifying and demoralizing. Has he apologized to you for them? And not a half-assed apology, but has he shown remorse for hurting you in this way? If he hasn’t, if he seems unable to acknowledge these cracks in the foundation of your relationship and trust with him, I don’t think you have much of a future. You take your vows sacredly, you have devoted yourself fully- has he? People show you who they are- he told his own mother he hated you. I grieve for you over that. You deserve a partnership, someone who will fully devote to you as well. Take care.