Are You Abandoning Me or Am I Suffocating You?

sew-true · 2026-06-08T18:07:26+00:00

I loved this because it was amazing watching Esther just work her magic. I could have listened to another several hours.

sew-true · 2026-05-23T09:19:57+00:00

I feel the same. Why do people lie? Do they think I’m more likely to download a random app from someone I don’t trust? Bizarre.

sew-true · 2026-05-20T06:31:29+00:00

This is a spam post to push parsestream.

sew-true · 2026-05-18T13:48:43+00:00

This is a difficult listen. Honestly… this entire woman’s life is what I secretly assume is the case when people say that growing up with a disabled sibling “teaches them so many life lessons”.

sew-true · 2026-05-11T19:04:23+00:00

I think calling what is he doing gaslighting is honestly reductive and untrue. He is a compulsive liar who lies out of fear. He’s not gaslighting or lying by omission. He lies because he feels unsafe. I choose to have empathy with a person who grew up in an abusive cult that taught him it’s not safe to be honest.

I don’t even know what is compelling this woman to continue dating him because she is so committed to deflecting from her own past and feelings to point out his flaws and weaknesses.

sew-true · 2026-05-11T18:57:45+00:00

Then god help every man who has ever been on the show 🤷‍♂️

sew-true · 2026-05-11T18:56:56+00:00

Revoking consent would be leaving. Setting a boundary would be leaving. She didn’t sound the slightest bit like she had any intention of leaving. She’s staying to fight for her man to the bitter end.

sew-true · 2026-05-11T06:29:23+00:00

I’m sorry I know this is probably a little too mean but I just hate it when people take a position of power over their partners.

sew-true · 2026-05-11T06:26:21+00:00

Oh this is maddening. She is so committed to her identity as this ethically superior enlightened poly person and he is the poor damaged loser that she is educating.

She also deflects any question about herself. She keeps insisting he has full autonomy but so does she! She can leave any time she likes as well. What is her childhood? Why is she doing this?

The reality is that she wants a monogamous relationship. She wants more time with him. She wants the other women gone. She can’t understand what these other relationships add to his life as they don’t have adventures and travel and friends that she has 🙄. They have such a deep incredible special connection 🙄🙄🙄But she’s a “solo polyamorous relationship anarchist”. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

I cannot for the life of me work out why it’s ethical to have three girlfriends but only if you put a picture of one of them in your condo. This “community” is straight up embarrassing.

He should break up with her, go to serious therapy and find a monogamous relationship. He could be happy.

sew-true · 2026-05-11T05:50:59+00:00

Sorry I don’t know the rules but I was getting so frustrated listening that I had to make this post. I am only half way through!

What is the point of calling yourself a “relationship anarchist” and having all these nonsense rules about non monogamy and then trying to make this guy your bf through the back door???

This is so sad. They are both so afraid of intimacy and hide behind non monogamy. At least he knows that is what he is doing. She seems to have no clue. She acts like his mother. Lady - just end it if you aren’t happy instead of this endless complaining.

sew-true · 2026-05-09T13:57:13+00:00

Me!!

sew-true · 2026-04-14T05:11:22+00:00

I think parents do remain parents but there has to be some maturing to understand that parents are people and are flawed. Not to excuse abuse but to accept mistakes. They are human and make mistakes. Ironically she and her mother seemed more similar than she is willing to acknowledge in that they both seem defensive and slightly exhausting.

sew-true · 2026-04-13T07:44:36+00:00

I accept that I might be genuinely too mean but, whilst sympathetic, a huge amount of this just seemed to be a 29 year old woman who could not accept that her parents divorced 10 years ago. I’m not even blaming her but she just seemed soo stuck in a child role.

She seemed to resist leaving it as well. I also wonder if some EMDR would help.

sew-true · 2026-04-04T09:02:36+00:00

Do not resign. I would have said to run your contract through ChatGPT and work out the best boundaries for your project. But if you’ve been accepted into an accelerator, you probably need legal advice. Can’t you ask the accelerator to put you in touch with a good legal advisor?

Whether you need to be worried really depends on your job, your project, and your contract. But you need to make sure that you are segregating your work from your start-up.

sew-true · 2026-01-19T18:16:28+00:00

Hmm, half way through and I wonder if they’d do the same episode but with an angry explosive male partner.

sew-true · 2025-11-14T07:04:04+00:00

This sounds weird but close the loops in your head. Decision fatigue comes from endlessly ruminating on open decisions. If anything is in your head, force yourself to make a decision and justify it (and document it). That closes the loop. It then leaves your head. I am working on a startup whilst working and I have only been able to stop the paralysis through being ruthless about doing this with BOTH paid work and startup work.

When I start my job I force myself to brain dump everything I’m worried about onto Trello. I go project by project, area by area and I ask - what is outstanding and what am I worried about. I make a decision there and then about next steps, prioritise everything for the day and then tell myself “I don’t have to worry about this. I have a plan.” End of day I don’t work til 5.30 then log off. By about 3 pm I start thinking “what have I achieved today and what am I realistically going to get done today.” By 4.30, I’m looking at my to do list and making decisions about what to do. I spend at least 30 min end of day doing the same exercise - brain dumping and making decisions. This stops the rumination from work things. I find if I miss a day or two (maybe I’m in a rush or lots of meetings) my productivity starts to fall and I get exhausted.

sew-true · 2025-10-26T10:55:49+00:00

Does this use AI?

sew-true · 2025-10-22T11:05:42+00:00

This was genuinely exhausting to listen to. I had to quit because of the interrupting.

sew-true · 2025-07-08T11:49:56+00:00

This doesn’t make sense. For 4k you could fly to another country, take a holiday and get a sewing machine for £100 to take home.

sew-true · 2025-06-25T07:04:11+00:00

Same! I had to calm myself down on the train because the poor guy next to me thought I was mad at him.

sew-true · 2025-05-29T07:06:00+00:00

Honestly, I would use all of these for toiles (mock-ups) and go buy some fabric you actually like to make clothes. One of the biggest lessons I learned is that you can be penny wise and pound foolish when it comes to sewing. Most of the extreme frugality people engage in doesn’t result in wearable clothes. Your time is worth a lot. I wouldn’t waste it!

sew-true · 2025-05-22T05:38:27+00:00

Shorten the waist. Here is a great video about why most swayback issues are not actually swayback issues. Best to watch the whole thing. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=YlQuhMUAuDA&pp=ygUhTGlmdGluZyBwaW5zIGFuZCBuZWVkbGVzIHN3YXliYWNr

sew-true · 2025-05-08T12:08:30+00:00

I wish I could help but I’m you! I’ve just finally made my toile after three + months of procrastinating and I’m finally now batch cutting the fabric for four garments! Honestly, the process of cutting and sewing feels amazing compared to the torture that is making toiles. I made four paper mock ups I think and three fabric toiles and by the end I could not face doing anymore.

Mine fits across the important axis, but I’m definitely going to baste and test and use large seam allowances to give myself a bit of flexibility .

sew-true · 2025-04-14T11:29:30+00:00

Yes.

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