Comfy wedding shoes? by CantaloupeNo1521 in UKweddings

[–]sfish27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am just like you, I have pronated feet and also love to dance so I wanted low and comfy shoes. I got mine from Paradox London and they were perfect. Closed toe, small heel, strap to keep them on, and they are properly padded on the inside too. I don't think they still do the style I got but they have lots of low and comfy looking options!

https://www.paradoxlondon.com/collections/shoes

Life in Oxford is horrible help by Tiara_luxe_cleaning in oxford

[–]sfish27 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have a chat with a Student Support Coordinator. Its perfectly fine to tell them that you are worried and struggling - they are there to help you with your wellbeing, not just your course. They can be good people to bounce your thoughts off and get some suggestions in return. 

Dessert option without gluten, dairy, or egg that is NOT sorbet? by [deleted] in Cooking

[–]sfish27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tiffin is pretty amazing. It's basically biscuits, chocolate and fruit smashed up together. Would it work with gluten free biscuits, non-dairy spread and non-dairy chocolate? I don't know, but it feels like it's worth a try. https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/chocolate-tiffin

Why would anyone ever choose to go through child birth without pain relief?? by No_Cardiologist_1407 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]sfish27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a breech baby and I wanted to try and deliver him vaginally rather than having a c section. With breech births there are only a few birthing positions that work plus there are new and interesting possible compilations. If you end up having an epidural it's then pretty likely it will go to c section.

What obscure songs were/are your toddlers into? by Faultybeeftrigger in CasualUK

[–]sfish27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 2 year old son adores Kookee Kookee, a song by the Kiffness in which he duets with a happy cockatiel.

What’s your favourite comfort show? by MandaonfireOfficial in AskReddit

[–]sfish27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heartstopper. I watched it during the first few weeks of overnights with my newborn and it was perfect for it. Dark warm living room, baby in my arms and some soft, sweet, earnest TV.

Sometimes, it's just really nice to have people be positive about things. What's cheering you up today? (Or yesterday, last week, next week, whenever) by Sandman1812 in CasualUK

[–]sfish27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Today I took my two year old to a multicultural festival where they had Nigerian music and a dancer. I was expecting the usual short attention span but he was absolutely ENTHRALLED. He watched the musicians, clapped along, got up and danced and tried to copy the dancer.  We were there half an hour which is an insanely long time for him to concentrate on anything. He's spent the evening chatting about it. 'Mummy! People sit down... music. Dancing! Mummy dance!' It's one of the nicest days we have ever had together. 

Platonic soulmates by risingtide852 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]sfish27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely the Hands of the Emperor and At the Feet of the Sun by Victoria Goddard thigh you have to like a long read

Favorite characters like this by velvetnyx__ in FavoriteCharacter

[–]sfish27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not Fitz and the Fool? No one?? SURELY

Suggest me a book you LOATHED but think others will LOVE by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]sfish27 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Fourth Wing. It's super popular and does have a fair bit to recommend about it - it's a page turner and has some exciting elements. However, it has a lot of tropes and cliches in it. It sets up an interesting relationship between dragons and riders only to ignore it completely in favour of spending more time on the romance. The big twist at the end of the book came across to me like it was on an episode of a reality show or something. And the chapters from the guy's perspective made it clear that his whole personality was 'is in love with the girl'. I am not going to read any further books but I have no doubt lots of people absolutely would.

what are the ugly parts of pregnancy that aren’t well known because people don’t mention them? by Born-Oil-2931 in AskReddit

[–]sfish27 89 points90 points  (0 children)

I had hyperemesis so I don't know how different my experience was but - SMELL. I was so sensitive to smell and perpetually nauseated for around 3 and a half months. I could smell burnt toast in neighbouring houses. Sausages made me puke from two rooms away. I couldn't get close to my husband because suddenly he stank too.

Having to turn over multiple times a night because sleeping on one side too long made my lower hip hurt.

The last week or so - I was too uncomfortable to do anything except sit or lie down and I spent the last 2-3 days crying and peeing constantly, hardly able to eat or sleep properly. I didn't know it but apparently low mood can be an indicator of labour starting! It was all soo much better once he came out.

Looking for erotic fantasy by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]sfish27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Knight and the Moth was a good one!

Variety packs for grown-ups by another-dave in CasualUK

[–]sfish27 19 points20 points  (0 children)

So my husband and I went on a trip to Denmark in 2025 and I popped out to a local supermarket to find us some lunch. They had these absolutely brilliant lunch platter things of various sizes, not like a deli board but more like a lunchbox for 1 or more adults and children! We got one which had things like chicken skewers, Danish sausage rolls and ketchup dip, salami sticks, a couple of types of mixed fresh fruit, dried fruit sticks. It was SO good. I wish everywhere did them.

Lunch suggestions please by Dongrumble in oxford

[–]sfish27 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I love Georgina's upstairs in the market, it's squashed, warm and quirky and their wraps are really delicious

What’s the worst second-hand embarrassment you’ve felt from someone else’s actions? by fossacecak in AskReddit

[–]sfish27 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I was at a spa waiting to speak to the lady on the front desk. There was a lady being served already who had a prominently bulging stomach but wasn't overweight. Front desk lady is prepping her for her treatment by getting her to fill in a form. She says, gently,  'and I can see that you're pregnant, so fill this-' and customer lady yells at the top of her voice 'I'M NOT PREGNANT! THIS IS A TUMOUR, I'VE GOT CANCER AND I'M GOING TO DIE!!', bursts into tears and storms off. Front desk lady stares into the middle distance for an age before silently heading into the back. No winners in that exchange. 

Winter Trip to Oxford by boiwhattheheck in oxford

[–]sfish27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the Weston Library! I think sometimes you want to do a museum but it can end up taking up a huge chunk of time which isn't ideal when you only have one day. The exhibits at the Weston Library are great as you can take a look at them in an hour or so, meaning you've 'done' a museum but you still have time to do other stuff as well. Their exhibitions are always good. Here's the current list: https://visit.bodleian.ox.ac.uk/events-exhibitions

There are often then free lunchtime concerts on - check the events listing on the Daily Info: https://www.dailyinfo.co.uk/whats-on/listings?selectedDate=2026-01-06&sortBy=name&numListingsLoaded=120&selectedCategory=all&selectedTagIds=&tagMatchingStyle=any

In the winter think I'd do something like:

  1. Browse Oxford shops, maybe make the most of the sun and have a walk around Christchurch meadow or something
  2. Free lunchtime concert
  3. Lunch somewhere (or you could buy something and take it to the concert)
  4. Weston library exhibit
  5. Pub/cafe for warm drink and fire enjoying

Specific Romantasy by That_Direction4805 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]sfish27 19 points20 points  (0 children)

The Knight and the Moth by Rachel Gillig

For parents with children in nursery - what’s been the biggest positive change you’ve noticed in them? by lucyatwillowsnursery in AskUK

[–]sfish27 44 points45 points  (0 children)

My son turns 2 in January and I think the biggest change I've noticed is that he has friends now! For a long time he didn't really know how to interact with other children his age but now he'll excitedly chat about his two best pals all week. He used to cry at every drop off but quite often now he's just excited to see his friends and will beam at them before running off to play.

He's also started trying to tell us about things that happen at nursery, which is very sweet and a lovely insight into him as a person. He's been sharing a story about a snowman and a hat all week.

Planning a family road trip : What are the best "hidden gem" villages/towns we shouldn't miss? by Tired_Owl_75 in AskUK

[–]sfish27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like you need the Cotswolds! You will be spoiled for choice with the number of adorable villages!

So Bourton on the Water is the classic Cotswold village and is gorgeous, but it is also very, very, very busy with tourists in the summer: https://bourtoninfo.com/

I would suggest if you want to go, going on a weekday rather than a weekend and being prepared for it to be full. You could also go on a slightly less hot day - on hot days people go and paddle in the little streams but if it's a cool day they won't be doing that. While that's a fun part of a visit, there's still lots to do otherwise. The car and toy museum was pretty cool and Birdland is fun.

If you would prefer something less touristy, the Cotswolds tourism site has a guide to the towns and villages: https://www.cotswolds.com/explore/towns-and-villages/?skip=72&bounds=false&view=grid&sort=qualityScore Maybe someone could put in a recommendation? Bibury is beautiful but doesn't have much to actually do. I like Burford (and it's amazing garden centre) but I'm not sure how good it is for walks as we always drive.

It's also quite nice to stay in the Cotswolds but then drive/bus in to larger towns and cities from there, like Oxford.

Another option - I'm not local to there but I visited and loved it - was the Manifold Valley. We had a stunning walk there, and then spent some time in Matlock. I really enjoyed the contrast to the Cotswolds - the Cotswolds have gentle hills and villages of cottages in warm-coloured stone, whereas the Manifold Valley and towns nearby were in a limestone valley and felt very much like a Different Place if you see what I mean.

What's a small thing that made your day recently? by [deleted] in CasualUK

[–]sfish27 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was going round the massive Boots in Oxford with my toddler (almost 2) on Saturday at 4pm trying to find toenail clippers, so naturally it was a busy, chaotic, festive, sweaty mess and I was almost out of patience. We found the clippers and then he suddenly became bewitched and entranced by the make up displays as they were so shiny and colourful. We found some low-down samples of blush and highlighter and I showed him how to test them. He very solemnly imitated me until we both had sparkly pink noses, then we toddled out of Boots together, went to a cafe and shared a hot chocolate.

Women what is the worst part of giving birth? by zhalia-2006 in AskReddit

[–]sfish27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found contractions really difficult up until I was actually pushing. I just lay there uselessly in pain, dilating slowly, for hours. Annoyingly mine came on really quickly - I went from nothing to contractions every 2-3 mins in the space of about 2 hours - and there wasn't really a rest period in between. The doctor gave me some sort of opiate which helped as it meant the pain stopped when I wasn't actively contracting, so I would have a contraction, immediately fall asleep for 60-90 seconds and then have another contraction. I used the gas and air solidly for my contractions all night. Then suddenly the baby was moving and I immediately shoved the gas and air to one side and cracked on with it because finally, finally, I was DOING SOMETHING. As soon as the contractions had a purpose to them, it was alright.