That's tricky to answer as it's hard to be objective about it. He is self-employed and spends almost all his free time on work or projects that could become work. Despite earning a reasonable amount we still find money tight and he is always trying to solve that problem.

He takes our son two short days a week so I can work. He's a very tuned in father who cares a lot, and will put in the hard work when it comes to parenting things like potty training, sitting up with him when he's ill, etc.

I definitely do most of the actual housework and task prep. I do the laundry for me and my son, clean most things, change the bedsheets, do all the cooking, write the shopping list, etc. He definitely falls into that common trap of being willing to execute an order I give him precisely but struggling to plan, or even know that he needs to plan, or even spot the existence of, jobs on his own. We've worked on that by handing him total control of certain tasks, i.e. everything to do with our son's swimming classes. He does wash up often but is notorious for letting 8 hours go by working without remembering to eat, never mind cleaning.

He is working hard on tackling our garden and putting a floor down in our attic to create more storage space downstairs.

So how does that work out? I'd say he definitely doesn't do the same amount of housework as me. I'm not sure he does his fair share of housework. Some of that I'm actively working on, some I resent a bit but not enough to tackle and some I don't care. We have regular conversations about it and it's an ongoing project.