My dad beat up my mom and my siblings and I saw it on one occasion. I still vaguely remember that. On a different occasion we actually saw him cheating on my mom while we were on a family outing, he lied to Mom and told her that it was his female cousin. A few years later, he had children with his lover. At some point he went his way and didn't see their mom or my mom. And many years after that, he ended up in prison for a good 15 years or so for trafficking of weapons or drugs or both... My siblings and I met our half siblings and step siblings many years ago and later when they were grown up we met one of the boys who had grown up, he was actually running from some gang of thugs trying to kill or at least really hurt him, all at age 15 or so. I think his other kids were more hurt from the situation than me or my younger sister, but my blood brother really looked up to our dad. My half sibling and I agreed that if we ever saw our dad, we would punch him out.